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    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    Either the last weekend of March or one of the next two in April. If you are interested let me know which weekend works best. Ashby is North central MA, on the NH border. This is short notice. My regrets but due to circumstances beyond my control. yada yada
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    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    I look forward to meeting you rifatheroffour. I will be present the whole time, whatever that turns out to be. We still have rooms for at least two people to stay the night.
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    How to handle triggers?

    I am sorry you lost your husband. I’m happy that you found WIDDA and that it is already helping you. I see that this was your first post. Keep them coming. It is good that you have progress with sleeping. Now let’s work on making it ok to go out more.
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    Widow for 3 years

    I know, that feeling really sucks. When I suffered from anxiety if an acorn hit the roof over me the sound scared me like it was canon fire. I stayed in the house for three days because I felt incapable of driving. I could barely take care of myself. I cannot imagine how anyone can push through that and take care of three kids. That would be beyond my ability.
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    Momento Mori / Momento Viveri

    A beautiful thought LF. Thank you.
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    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    I have a room with a full size sleep sofa and another room with full size bed. I don’t think we will need any tents, we need more wids.
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    Widow for 3 years

    Hello LadyJJ, i am so sorry that you have to deal with all of that. That is a lot to handle! Depression and anxiety disorder alone can be debilitating. My DW suffered under their weight for years. I did my best to understand her pain but only those who have actually felt those pains can truly understand. I did suffer myself from anxiety a few years after losing DW. Mine was caused by the sleeping pill Ambien. I was completely disabled for several weeks. My cure was easy, all I had to do was quit the Ambien. I wish it were that easy for you'. I think you may be stronger than you feel. Be well
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    How to handle triggers?

    Count me in the “triggers can be our friends school of thought” Most of them sneak up on me like thieves. I get a small sense of control when I’m the one choosing the time and place. I am also a firm believer that I have a kind of debt to pay for the blessings I have enjoyed. The currency of that debt is heartbreak and tears. If I make my daily payment early in the morning I can go most of the day before another is due.
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    On line dating vents and laughs......

    Thank you and you are on the right track about short time. It was the most intense love of my life. I lost something precious but I have new family. By mutual agreement I have a step son, daughter, and sister. We've all gotten close the last few months and wish to keep it that way. My sweetheart is still giving me treasure.
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    On line dating vents and laughs......

    I think you were replying to me Jen, re. why I am down. I re-coupled 2 1/2 years ago. I lost her last Friday, March 8 to cancer. I have no regrets about the relationship. I would do it again and I plan on doing it again when the time is right. That article Leadfeather linked to is worth reading. The 5 phases mentioned in the article remind me of the phases of loss. It's important to know that no two experiences are the same. Some of us go through all the phases in order and some of us mix it up or skip certain phases completely.
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    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    As moderator I declare we have a quorum and the motion is passed. WW, Hachi, and I will be here both days, April 6 & 7. Everyone else is free to join us either day or both days. Please let me know either on this thread or via private message. The details re. the address etc. will be sent to you via private message. Now would be a good time to hear from any lurkers. You are tempted to come but it's a little intimidating. Do you dare venture out to a strange town to meet a group of strangers? Pro tip in case you haven't done this yet. Click on a few of the usernames above. That will take you to the member's profile page where you can view the most recent posts by that member. Read a few of those posts and in no time at all you will develop a good picture of who we are. Strangers no more. We'll keep a light on for ya.
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    On line dating vents and laughs......

    "It was sweet, but this is what worries me." I think you just summed it up for yourself Virgo. You are afraid that this won't last. You also know that you are the one holding the reins. I'm betting that the team of horses takes the carriage home once you ease up on the reins. I would like to see this happen. I could use some cheering up right now myself. All my best wishes for success with your NG.
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    On line dating vents and laughs......

    The daughters is something I never had to deal with but I appreciate that it is important to include them as much as possible. Are they old enough to understand if you explain to them that this reunion is something you are exploring but not sure about yet? I think kids can show more resilience if they have all the facts.
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    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    Rif can do the 7th and donswife can do the 6th. Any possibility we could do two days? I think that if I have some notice I could find local accommodations with friends and I have a guest room. This is out in the country. We could have a campfire for those staying over, weather per. It can be a great time to walk in the woods as well. Can we have a show of hands, how many could do the 6th & 7th?
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    On line dating vents and laughs......

    I can identify with this. Not the exact situation but the knowing you are vulnerable and wondering about exes. I'm not a religious person but I believe in redemption. And I'm also famous for bad choices so don't listen to me.
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    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    Oh double shoot :-( May is a good idea for West Boylston. June will be Wells Maine again.
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    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    Thanks for the quick reply. We have now eliminated March. Maybe Donna P and Mr. Drew or MyRiver will decide between the two April weekends.
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    Newly Widowed Again

    Thank you for this thread Bluebird. I am sorry that your second loss came too soon. I am interested in your progress and hoping to see good things for your future. I am in the process of joining your company as a two timer. NG is losing her battle too quickly. I am reliving events of 7+- years ago in many ways, same hospital, even some of the same nurses and Drs. But things are also completely new. NG is the greatest woman I ever knew. Her courage right now is inspirational. She knows that she will lose this battle but that does not equal giving up. She is not going gently into that good night. I am honored to know her and humbled to have received her love.
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    Widowed Jan 16, 2019.

    It has been almost 7 years since I lost DW. I am currently losing NG who has been in my life 2 ½ yrs. for me that “dark swamp” is back but not in the same ways. I survived the journey through it the first time and I will get through it this time.
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    ANGER TOWARDS EVERYONE & EVERYTHING

    My heart breaks for you Ben1437. You are close enough in age to be my granddaughter. I like to think that if I did have a granddaughter in your position that she would be angry. It's a healthy normal reaction to when everything just sucks.
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    A new WIDDA heading your way

    Widda is precious to me just now. I re-coupled 2 1/2 years ago. Around the end of September we learned that NG has stage IV cancer. She is fighting but the prognosis is not good. I'd give up bacon sooner than I'd give up WIDDA.
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    Widowed Jan 16, 2019.

    You absolutely will survive this dark swamp. I just went through most of what you've posted and I see real progress. The most obvious sign of progress to my eye is that you "hope to be able to help others". A noble purpose gives meaning to life. You are 1/2 way there. Hold onto that attitude
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    Need advice first real relationship

    I found NG about 2 ½ years ago. I am losing her already. If I could go back 2 ½ years I would not change a thing. I made that same promise others mentioned. That I would not leave her unless she asked me to. I am very glad I made that promise.
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    On line dating vents and laughs......

    Hello Cindy, Thank you for that very lovely opening post. It does the heart good to know you’ve gotten some comfort here at WIDDA. Ive got a hunch that you will do well moving through these horrible early days. Peace and comfort to you in 2019 L2F
  25. I am so grateful that you are doing this WW. And I'm grateful that Myriver is going to be my designated driver. Any wid between North central MA and the bago is welcome to ride with us. We have empty seats in the suv.
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