yogamom72

Yes - I agree that there are people here who care. There are also people in your life who care. I would take the time to find a grief therapist who can help you work through some of this stuff.

I lost my husband 13 days ago. We have 3 children, ages 17, 13 & 11. They are the only reason I get out of bed each day (carpool, school pick up, sports). Otherwise, I would just lay there. I don't necessarily sleep although I do doze in and out. I should go to yoga or to lunch with friends. Shouldn't I? I did manage to make it out of bed to my therapist's office today.

Mike - I can't find the policy paperwork anywhere. That's the thing - no one asked me any questions about anything. They didn't even reply to my correspondence. They just cashed the check and reinstated. I guess I will just have to wait and see. They sure are taking their time getting the claim paperwork to me.

Currently I am wearing his ring and mine. We are very fresh with all of this in that my husband died less than 2 weeks ago. I am just wondering what the time line is for wearing rings. I love my set. The woman at the social security office said "your marriage ended by death on Sept 8, 2016" and I can still hear those words ringing in my ears. Did you switch to something different on that hand?

Thank you for sharing this. We are 10 DAYS out and I worry about my boys, ages 17, 14 & 12. I hope that I can provide them with all of the resources that they need to get through the loss of their father. Your story gives me hope.

I found some widow groups near me through Meet Up. Another idea is to make your own group.

My husband was not easy to insure. He was sick for the last several years of his life. I kept 2 small policies on him. Both were formally group policies that were portable. I kept each policy on him after I left the employers. I have had one policy for 3 years (post employment) and one policy for 2 years (post employment). We lapsed in paying on one of the policies back in April. It was past the 30 day grace period before I realized this. I sent a letter to the insurance company requesting a reinstatement along with the payments. The next thing I know, the checks were cashed and the policy was reinstated. There was no response to my letter nor were there any questions asked about my husband's health condition. My question is this - do you think the insurance company will pay out this policy? I am concerned about the reinstatement piece even though they never asked us any questions about his current health condition.

When did you return to work? I lost my husband on 9/8/16. I have been on bereavement and sick leave since then. I know it's a personal decision but I am trying to figure out how I am going to even function. Another part of me thinks that the routine will be helpful.

I am Tina. My husband died on September 8, 2016, from liver failure and congestive heart failure. He was 51 and I am 43. We have 3 children ages 17, 13 & 11. He had been sick since his diagnosis in March, 2016, but we were in and out of the hospital in July and August due to complications and various treatments. We officially signed on with hospice on September 1, 2016 and he died in a hospice house a week later. This is still very fresh and raw for my family. My boys are each handling their grief differently and leaning on me a great deal for support. I wouldn't have it any other way but it is exhausting. I will resume full time work in a couple of more weeks so I anticipate that I will feel spread pretty thin. I am hoping to find a local support group in my area so that I can meet other widows in real life. I don't have the energy for that right now though and I think forums are a great alternative. Thanks for adding me.

I am a new widow. My husband died last Thursday (9/8/16) after a brief illness. We have 3 children, ages 17, 13 & 11. It has been shocking, to say the least, even though we have known that his death was imminent. I have not yet returned to work and I am not sure when I will do so. I appreciate this forum and I hope to "meet" others who can relate to my new status.