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I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm two months out today, and every day is different. I hope you find support from the people here. Sometimes just reading the posts of others helps me to feel not alone. L

Hugs for you. I'll be thinking of you as you go through the delivery of your baby girl. I hope you have family and friends to support you through the days and weeks immediately following the birth. Sudden death sucks. Certainly all death sucks, but the sudden and unknown sucks in its own special way. Best, L

Hi Katie, So sorry for your loss and your children's loss. I hope that you and the children have positive memories of a last Christmas with your husband. Please take care of yourself so you can take care of the children. Best, L

Hi Indira, I'm so sorry for your loss, and for your children's loss and the challenging situation you are in now. My older son was with me and helped the paramedics by showing them where to go and telling how we found his father, etc. on that night. I wish too that he had not been there. My younger boy didn't see his father until the service. Neither of mine have cried very much either, I just keep reminding them that they feel how they feel and it is not wrong to feel one way when others feel differently. Both of them were seeing therapists before this happened, and have continued to do so. I think it has helped them. My thoughts are with you. L

Hello, My husband passed suddenly on November 18, 2016, at age 50. We still have pending on cause of death, as he died at home while the boys and I were at school and after school activities. Waiting on toxicology, which could show something, or not. I have two boys, one in grade 12 and the other in grade 10. I think this is harder on them than it is on me. I don't feel so much sadness as I do guilt and anger. Sometimes I feel sad because I'm tired and instead of doing 95% of stuff 95% of the time, I'm doing everything. Then I feel guilty about asking my teens to help more. LH was sick and on disability and depressed for most of the last ten years, so I don't know how that's affecting my grief process. I was kind of checked out from being married, I guess. Part of me feels like I have been given a new opportunity on a new path, and part of me is wishing that I could go back and work harder on my marriage. When I feel like I have a new chance at life ( I'm 41), I still feel guilty, like I'm betraying LH's memory. Not sure what else to add, but hoping for support as I make this journey with my kids. Thanks, L