momof2obs

go for it! You both want some fun, why not? we all know that life is too short. Enjoy the fling!

I met my guy online through another widow support group in Nov. 2017. He was living across the country so it started as a long distance flirtation. We first met in person mid-April 2018 (then two weeks later he asked me to be his girlfriend). Since it was long distance, we didn't physically see each other that much, although we saw each other almost every day through Facetime. I traveled out to see him in July and I was the one to say I love you first just before I was to fly back home...he was surprised that I said it but he said it right back. He moved here in October. As we are both widows, we have discussed finding love again. We both actually believe that our relationship is not just us, but a foursome (us and our passed persons) -- no betrayals, rather a felling that we have the approval of our respective loved ones. Perhaps that made it easier to say those words to each other--we both loved and lost and found love again.

I met a wonderful guy online (in fact, he was the first guy I dated after my husband died). Turns out we worked better as friends and remain so to this day. Yesterday was 2 years since my husband died and he texted me in the morning to say he was thinking of me on that day. Still knocked out that he remembered. So, to answer your question, yes, there are normal (and nice) guys on dating sites.

I'm beginning to think it is me... One guy I had met up with once previously got in contact with me two weeks ago and asked if I wanted to have dinner with him one night last week. I said yest and then I never heard back from him. I texted to follow up and no reply. After messaging back and forth pretty consistently for a few weeks, I told another guy that I was interested in getting together with him. He said he would like that but then the messages got fewer and fewer until no contact at all for almost a week now. I guess I don't have what it takes to get the follow through ???

it just keeps getting better...I can't wait for the book I write about my experiences... Had a guy message me that he wants me to be his sugar momma (hello, buy into the rich widow myth much?) I asked him what he meant and got this reply... "you pay me for the ultimate orgasmic experience of your life" :

Damn...you did better than me!

I made sure that he knew that it was VERY satisfying!

Went on a first date with a guy last week. During our lunch he asked me about the size of my late husband's penis Can't make this stuff up!!!

having a glass of wine...trying not to thing of all the "one year ago" reminders that are coming up starting with tomorrow which is one year from the last full day LH spent in our house.

Exactly! I see this with a guy the I have been seeing on and off. One our first date he told me about how he didn't believe in successful marriages (even though he was the only to get divorced in his immediate family). I told him that I had a great marriage and that's how the subject of my widowhood came up. As we have come to know each other I can understand where he is coming from as his ex is trying to sabotage his relationship with his daughter. There is a lot of bitterness. It has been tough trying to show him that I am not out to get him but, then again, I am coming from a place of no hard feelings (except maybe against the cancer that took my LH)

My husband's birthday was on Valentine's Day. We always celebrated his birthday instead of Valentine's Day. Now, the kids and I will celebrate Valentine's Day with each other (as long as they want to with their mom) and remember their dad. This year (our first without him), I gathered at his grave site with his parents and sisters for remembrance, laughs and doughnuts (inside joke). I hope this continues.

I have to say that they did respond back and worked with me to get the scammer blocked. I was impressed that they did take the situation seriously.

Exactly!

Just a reminder that the scammers are out there and be careful. Had one try to get one over on me. He was shocked, shocked I tell you, that after just two weeks of messaging on the dating app I was finding it hard to believe that he was in love with me. I asked him if this was the part where he asked me for money and poof, next day he was gone! Messaged the app help line to report him. Waiting to hear back. I feel for those who are vulnerable and fall for this nonsense. Update: The scammer has been blocked. I'm sure it is only a matter of time until he is back.

My kids have been away at a camp all week and I have been having a blast enjoying my "freedom"!