Mangomom

Special lollipops for take off and landing.  And just roll with the rest.  Screw the other passengers.  You'll never see them again 😉

I would think that the truth is in order here.  You certainly won't capitalize on it, but being open and honest with as little detail and back story should suffice.  It could be something as simple as:

" I have been widowed for X years.  I was fortunate enough to to have had X years of a solid marriage (or whatever blanket statement about the relationship).  Tell me about your family?"

 

If they ask what happened, it's up to you to continue or to say that you really aren't comfortable discussing it.  Give them the quiet moment to feel awkward and move on.

 

Good luck with the interview!!

Kids can be so selfish and egotistical.  I know I was.  I'm sorry you are going through this.  It is hard to have your timeline altered by outside forces.  Try to see it as a blessing, maybe.  One more decision that you didn't have to agonize over and waffle on.  I hope your son can get himself together.  It is so hard to not let them fall . (((Hugs to you, stargazer))). There's a light at the end of this tunnel 

I'm really going to try to make it but I will happily take the bus in. I can work that while while en route. If I can get a Hotel deal for Sat night I'll come then.  Will keep you all posted. April is a tough month for now work wise and adp u

Is coming the following week so I just have to wait and see. So fun though, springtime in lower manhattan!

check out this cute hotel I booked.  http://www.booking.com/hotel/us/azure.html  Let me know if you stay there and we can meet up and walk over Sunday, and even grab a bite sat night

Went to my class. and it turns out that the muscles I use in the class offset the ones giving me the issues running, so I am feeling much better. My mission is to have someone look at my feet and my gait, get a good pair of running shoes and see what happens.

good plan. The right pair of shoes make a world of difference.

I'm sorry you were hit out of the blue like that.  Takes your breath away.  (((hugs)))

Let me preface by stating that I have not been on a "date" in 20 years...

 

I am not a dressy kind of girl.  I will wear a dress or slacks to church occasionally, but I am a jeans and sweater girl.  Don't create a persona that you aren't comfortable with, wearing clothes that are out of your zone.

 

My favorite "dressy" clothes are a pair of tailored jeans - Ann Taylor style, no pockets, worn with heels - and a blouse or shell that I can layer a sweater over.  J Jill has some great versatile pieces, like a great stretchy black skirt that you can dress up or down.  Scarves do wonders for a plain white t-shirt (or simple colored shirt).  Shoes go a long way, too.  I love my BOC's, but not when I am dressing up.  Unless it is a ridiculously upscale establishment, I think that "no jeans" would be the only rule to apply.  Call me simple   AND!!!  Make sure it is all washable!  I hate the dry cleaning bills!

 

As a side note:  make sure he also takes you to "your type" of places as well.  I love a fancy dinner, but I am a huge fan of casual, fun, don't stress about the 20 forks places.

You might be a widow if....you find out you didn't put the car registration sticker on the license plate...when I nice policeman pulls you over to tell you....and you reach into the glove box with a look of confusion on your face because you KNOW you updated the registration....and there sits the sticker...still attached to the registration paper.  And then...you start to cry....because widowbrain sucks...and the policeman gets all concerned about your emotional well-being...and you have to convince him that you aren't going to completely fall apart over a registration sticker.

 

Yeah.  That was me.

 

Maureen

 

Oh...that reminds me...I have to renew the car registration....

CRAP!  I started to fill it out last week and I cannot for the life of me remember if I finished it or mailed it or put it somewhere.  Total blank!!

 

You know you are a widow when someone else's statement jogs your brain but doesn't actually engage it fully.   Off to hunt for the renewal form...

I love Canal street. When my son wa huge into Pokemon and yugioh we trekked down to Chinatown a couple of times. And DH was italian so we've had a few meals in little Italy. Papabubble on Broome street is a definite stop - my kids wouldn't let me back in the house without something from there!  I am so excited to explore the area a little more!

Unfortunately the time change makes me a no.  Have fun...

Come late!  Im sure we will be there

I would make the trip, smabify!  Just depends on kids schedules.

(((hugs)))

http://www.booking.com/hotel/us/azure.html

 

Just booked here

I so sorry you are going through this in top of all the rest life has heaped on. It sounds to me like you need to speak with an attorney to just get your bearings. We have a mediation center through our local government that is helpful in situations like this. Maybe check with them to see if they have someone to talk to before "lawyering up".  Or contact whomever put the limited guardianship in place get med/school and see just how far your sister would be able to stretch that.

I work for a coffee roaster so I am a bit of a purist. Definitely fresh brewed, or even French pressed.

 

Regular beans or flavored?

Do it! Do it!

It's gettin' loud up in here! (Bonus if you can name the song reference) 😜

Hugs, Mel.  It's hard work being amazing.

 

Take care,

Rob T

what he said (((Mel)))

I moved the band to my right hand at about 6 months.  There it will stay always. I am 2-? years out.  The engagement ring is in the safe for my daughter someday.  It is a sapphire and we were so tickled to find out she would be a September baby.  Almost like fate had him pick that stone. 

 

I agree with what anniegirl said.  We think that passing one year is like a finish line...  We almost stretch forward to break the ribbon.  Then nothing.  It's just the next day filled with the same sorrow.  Year two stretched out in front of me like a chasm.

 

In my experience, though, living the third year is more mellow and almost bittersweet.  The brain allows memories with pleasure and pain, not just pain.

 

 

Seriously!!!  When do I get to do sleepovers?  I would promise NOT to wear footy pajamas! 

 

All kids are gone and I'm down to one dog.  Sigh...  Totally feeling the quiet these days.

Here it is, another wild and crazy Saturday night. I am in my bedroom with three dogs hiding out because my 15 year old daughter has a social life.  I have 20 kids hanging out for game night in my kitchen, dining room and family room.

 

I think it's time to rethink my "no tv in the bedroom" rule since I'm he only one ever in here... :-/

Definitely a tall glass of water. It has to be ridiculously hot for me to get in a pool. Even then I have to ease into it.

 

So, that glass of water... Ice or no ice?

Depending on dates and commitments here, I might be willing to travel north!  Keep us updated!

 

5 months after we married, we moved to Indonesia. I raved about the fresh fruit my kitchen maid would prepare for me every morning to my sister. When I got pregnant while living there, my sister emailed me once and the title of the email was "Hi Mangomom". It stuck. I have used that for many online screen names and user ids.

❤️  Welcome to the new board!  Wonderful news about your kitty. Our pets are precious and how kind of them to help you!