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It was 8 months to get control of the tasks of daily living, but I didn't feel "NOT married" for another 2 years.

18 months out for me and the person already knew I was a widower. In this small town my late wife's' family knew before I could tell any of them, lol. All of them were okay with it. Happy Thanksgiving hugs to all.

Congratulations! Wishing all of you many happy years.

Yep, sort of like happy Slapsgiving!

WTG Bear! I tried self medicating with booze after she died, just made things worse.

In my dreams she shows up just for a "segment" but weaves in perfectly.

{hugs} BrokenHeart2. When it was time to order new checks with my name only, I remember thinking that it erased one more thing connecting us as a couple.

Not proud of this but had to use a bath towel to dry a few dishes  :-[

Mercy, you're so right that we aren't in control. You have a lot pulling on you and hope you can find some solutions that bring you comfort.

I'll have to check some of these on YouTube. I submit "Comfortably numb" by Pink Floyd.

I'm sorry you're both facing this. Someone had the tag line "I'd like to punch cancer in the face" and I agree

I told the boys it didn't matter as long as they carved my departure date on our monument. They can share ashes or scatter.

It's a sobering thing to do but a relief to know my son will be looking after things (just in case).

Here's the link for memorial ink.

http://widda.org/index.php/topic,56.msg26041.html#msg26041

Hey jgib, late start for me at 54. I think there's a thread on here for memorial ink. Congrats on taking the step.

Awesome! Best wishes on your new life together 

DW had a lot of antiques and "dustables". Family heirloom items are being kept but I've sold and gifted quite a few things over the years. I enjoyed lugging and fixing things that made her happy but am decorating more to my taste these days.

Yes, miss those inside jokes that were triggered by lots of things. Also miss her dumb expressions such as "Well, butter my butt and call me a biscuit!" We had 36 years of silliness to smooth out the rough patches.

Ran a 5K New Years Day, caught a break from weather. Anyone else setting goals for 2017?

Thanks, it reminds this time of year I would raise hell about her cold feet on me. Now my bed is pretty damn cold year round without her and those feet.

Hey Jeff, I'm sorry you suddenly lost your wife and welcome you as a fellow 50ish widower. The holidays can amplify the pain of loss so as Maureen says, remember to take care of yourself. {Bro hug}

Even with all the challenges this new chapter alone in life brings, I agree in having so much to be thankful for.

Wow, you have a lot going on. I often get the feeling of not being involved in the here and now, kind of like being an observer rather than a participant. Not all bad, just different  :-\

This time of year she would be getting ready to put the garden to rest for the upcoming Winter and looking forward to planning for the busy Holidays. Gardens and Holidays haven't been the same without her touch.

I'm not seeing anyone but have dreams that she has come back. I'm not exactly upset about these dreams but not overjoyed either. Felt a little guilty about it because I'm my own boss now, which sounds really selfish. Life isn't all rainbows and unicorns but compared to some, it's not all bad being alone and in the dreams there's a feeling of having to readjust things to accommodate her.  :-\