I found the site at 3 weeks out. I was so wanting to connect with people who could relate on a young widowed level, but I'd just missed out on what was apparently a wonderful local Bago.
I suggested a dinner Bago at a nearby casino. One widow was a member of the Mohegan community. She & I sort of co-arranged the dinner, though she did most of the arranging. Only two others came, so it was a nice dinner for four strangers who had so much to talk about. Part of the plan was to enjoy a free Robert Cray concert after dinner, but we all agreed that we'd rather find a quieter place in the casino to talk a while longer. It was the first time since losing my wife that I could enjoy deep conversation with anybody. It was refreshing, heartbreaking, healing and emotional, and as I was driving back home I felt like I was suddenly all alone again. I'd had a few hours with new friends with whom I could talk openly and I really needed that. One of them has attended a few other Bagos I've been to afterward. I haven't seen either of the other two widows since then, but all three of them gave me a major push start to healing.