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Just throwing this out there, I’m meeting another widow for lunch , and opened it up to other widows on a widow Facebook group . We are meeting at 1pm in Freehold at longhorns . If anyone wants to join us .. more the merrier !!! Date changed to this Saturday .. anyone ? Lol

So my latest is .. guy I went on date with , nice ..not my type but had a nice time . He asked me to go out again.. I said yes . However I just get texts every am from him and no further mention of a date .

Guy I dated a few months ago , then ghosted then all of a sudden is texting and clearly looking for a hookup. Um , I’m good thanks .. go away.

Then there’s my married friend who has been trying to pursue me , I know his marriage is bad .. but um no.

Time for nun school yet ?

Matched with a guy on tinder, we messaged . We happen to have a mutual friend in common . He asked for my number and texted me last night . I was out and said I would text him when I got home , I did .. he read it ( thanks iPhone ) no response. Texts me today , I respond he reads and no response . Ok not a good first impression... next... but why bother really ?

Leadfeather.. you are correct . I texted him , and he was so nice about it  . He agreed the difference in our kids ages and where we are at this stage in life wouldn’t work. Phew .. always hate that part .

So date number 2 last night with online dude , only 3 years from first date to second date . Lol . He wasn’t ready to date 3 years ago . Very nice guy , but I didn’t feel anything that plus young kids , not sure he would be for me . Now this part I hate , if he texts saying I’m not interested .

Arneal... I took it that way. Told him I’m looking to date one person , not a sex buddy . I’m about to offer a reward for finding a nice guy lol

Does anything change ? 4 nice dates .. 2a few months ago, guy admitted to not being ready .called me and so then  2this week and get .. basically he just wants to “hang “ .. no thanks .. 😢 this sucks

Klim .. I think what bugs me is how he brought it up, not going online and focusing on one person . Then he's the one online . I left it in his court , if he wants to ask me out again .

So I had a really nice date Sunday night . Technically it was our third , first two were a few months ago but his divorce wasn't final . Fast forward and we went out . We both talked about when we date we focus on one person, and not keep looking online. Well a friend saw him online, a lot yesterday . I called him out and said don't think dating will work for us , we can be friends and maybe hang out . He said he was only checking messages. Alrighty then ... back to drawing board . Bummed we really got along well.

T2b ... I wish there was dating services around me , can I ask is it expensive ?

Jgib..... I hear you with online. I feel like if you want to meet someone , it's a necessary evil. Try taking a break, maybe use other sites . Hugs that you are not alone in this .

Rob , sending you hugs and peace . These days always bring up emotion . 💙

Actually had a third date last night with someone I had gone out with twice b4, but months ago . He wasn't really ready to date then . Anyway he reached out and we had a very nice time. Hoping for another date . 👍🏻

Went today , it will be five years in October.  I find it somewhat ironic , my husband didn't like having neighbors .. we live on an acre with only one neighbor we can see. He was well loved by all, but wasn't a "people " person. His tombstone still has no one on either side of him. The place is now rows and rows of tombstones , but his all alone. Sort of makes me smile , I joke when I go to him .. what are you doing to scare away your neighbors ?

I don't think it's absurd . I think it's natural , sadly when we lose someone . When my mind wanders there and I start worrying about someone I remember coming home to police in my driveway . In other words bad news always travels , fast. So I think , no news is good news . 

Maybe your two friend s, when you get a hold of them tell them you worry and think the worst when they don't respond.

Sunshine.. no , my subscription ended the same day it came out. Possibly if I get a good deal to go back , I might try match again .

Home , going between reading a book and the computer . Rainy , dreary and dark here in New Jersey . Youngest son is out and oldest has friends over . Thinking it will be a long winter , and already thinking of escaping to a warmer area .

I don't have a now what answer. However I'm feeling the same , oldest lives here but college ,work, and gf I never see him. Youngest graduates in 2018 and wants to go away to college . I tease kids I'm going to have more kids .. yea no ...

Has anyone seen the new Match stories on Match.com ? My subscription ended, and the day after it ended I see now they added match stories where you can add video, etc. I have said that forever , I think if you can see the person and hear them it 1. Would show hopefully that aren't fake and 2. Sometimes people don't show well "written " . So what do you guys think ? Has anyone seen it , or done it ? Of course now I want to re subscribe . Lol

Still searching , try new sites, gather up stories for a book I swear I want to write . 😂. However, wouldn't it be fun if we could share some of what we see and deal with in the area we are. For example, would love to share the picture of a guy online , in his tidy whiteys , in his bathroom . Selfie picture in his mirror, but made sure you couldn't see his face. 🤔🙈

So I've been tossing the idea around about having the rings remade into something else.  More so my engagement ring and I even have my moms ( she passed away ) I don't wear them anymore, I have boys and can't see me passing them on to them .

So has anyone done something ? What would you do ? New ring ? Necklace ?

It's been almost 5 years since hubby was killed . My oldest has his license since last year and my youngest his license a few months now. However this past week I'm freaking when they drive anywhere , I make them check in a lot . I don't get it .

Lovetofish.. the one guy and his wife attend my gym classes , I'm friends with both on Facebook. Two others are neighbors and I know the wife and family . Another is a widow and her boyfriend was online. Problem is , I have no idea if these people have an open relationship, are together for the kids , separated but living together still.  I'm not good enough friends with any of them to know what goes on behind closed doors. Puts me in a weird predicament on what to do l

Bunny , I know , it's sad and I guess it hurts because I'm trying to find a nice guy and it just seems it's all so complicated out there .

Is it too passive aggressive to post on my Facebook ... dear friends , since I've been single and using online I have seen three of your husbands , one of our boyfriends and another husband looking for a three way using online dating sites. I won't say who , but you might want to check out tinder and OkCupid . ;-) .

I would never post that, but I'm so tired of seeing this crap .