Lisa

Great news! Best of luck. 

I totally understand. I'm in my 10th year now. It hurts most when his son is hurting. Otherwise for the most part, I'm at peace.

I see you also posted in General discussions and got feedback 

 I'm so glad. Sending good thoughts your way 

We have addressed this as a moderators and admins.

Please avoid posting on his threads. Ignore them. Thank you.

I'm so sorry you haven't received a response! Many of us are far along and allow new people to help each other. yet new people are still finding us. I will speak with our admins and mods about this.

Let me say I am so very sorry for your losses. I found your post heartbreaking. I hope when you reach out people will respond. If not. Private message me. I was dealing with situational depression even before the loss of my husband. I take an antidepressant and do therapy as needed. I did a good solid 9 months of one on one grief counseling

 It was do helpful.  I'm aware of people who have had good success with EMDR therapy. 

I basically just want to reach out and send a virtual hug

I'm in my 10th year now. I finally feel like the earth is under my feet. I thought it was many times over the years. But this is much better. For me, dating was a disaster. Until it clicked with the right person. My true friend. But really it  has  always been that way for me.

Good luck.  I hope things get less weird.

I am sorry for your pain

 when I started dating, it would often be the very wrong person. It definitely aggravated my grief. My heart goes out to you. And I admire you. I did not have such a strong sense of self.

I thought the same.  Heavy burdens right now.  May the good uplift you. Sounds like very good timing for the bago.

I'm jealous. I've always wanted to go to Maine.

Sometimes we feel like sponges soaking the pain around us. I know I have a very sensitive empathy button. It has collapsed me more times than I would like. Often in public.

Wishing you some peace as you continue to navigate.

I'm so very sorry 

Perhaps this post is better suited for social situations.  But if this is the forum you are used to, perhaps you purposely posted here. I'm not sure of what you are seeking here. 

That said. he is not a troll. He is a member who posts. 

I think it is good sometimes to remember most of us have had rambles and rants. We don't all agree all the time. There is no reason,  in my opinion to comment negatively.

 Better to ignore the post please.

Thank you.

This sounds fantastic. Some good people here. Enjoy!

I was referred to my grief counselor by the Chaplin at the hospital where he was declared. Group was not for me

 One on one grief counseling was great

My grief counselor does regular counseling and medical social work as well.  She mostly listened and told me I was doing well. That's what I needed. 

Looks great.

Definitely interview some realtors.

You have a great property there. I would sell as is. I'll bet it goes fast.

Good luck.

Wishing you all the best

I saw this piece from Time today.  I thought I would share here.

http://time.com/5040988/katie-couric-husband-holidays/

I've been thinking of you.

i am so sorry for your pain. his behavior is abhorrent. dont blame yourself. its ok to be sad and mad, dont let him beat you. if you are very emotionally distressed, please consider counseling.

Thoughts are with you. That was such a very hard time for me.

you  never know who will match who. but widowbagos are to get  together with other widowed people in  a safe environment. not for wife hunting. new widows often fear getting hit on at a bago. that is not in keeping with the purpose of bagos.

have you tried meetups or community activities or groups? church if appropriate for you? good luck.

i get those feelings jess. doesnt make it silly or true,

i wanted to donate mine to a thrift store but my step daughter may want to use a piece of it someday, so it is preserved and sitting in storage. i know people who spent a fortune preserving just to have it yellow anyway. my mom...not widowed kept her dress hanging in her closet for decades. it wasnt a long dress. eventually she put it in a dress up trunk for her students.be gentle with yourself and dont judge yourself

It has been 8 years. I rarely cry at all now. The only pictures that make me cry are the ones with the little ones who are grown now. I aalways have tears. So much has been missed.

Don't judge yourself.

I did better with one on one grief counseling. But I know plenty of people who did very well with groups.

Wishing you the best.

This kind of stuff messes with my head. I passed that point awhile ago but there are still other milestones and dates to drive me batty.

(Hugs)