Lisa

My heart is with you every awful step. I'm so sorry. I will be listening.

I'll just add thhe very best thing I did  in widowhood was one on one grief counseling. I thought I was going nuts.  She would listen and tell me I was doing great 💜

Make sure you step down from the effexor before starting. You may wish  to try a different med. If not, valerian root can be calming at bedtime. Try relaxation, meditation. Self hypnosis videos on YouTube can be very helpful. Anxious moments happen. If you have clinical anxiety thast isn't easily relieved or interferes in your daily living, you should be treated by a specialist. I agree...lavendar essential oil sprinkled on your pillow can be very relaxing.

Try your best to stay in :this moment". That is actually  a good  meditation. Good luck.

I'll be 8 years in June. Most days aren't grief  filled. There are triggers now and then. Getting married is a big deal. Keep going to counseling. Maybe you need to try meds. I don't know. I've been on them since 1998 so I was already on meds. Some people need them short term. For me, my brain seems to need them. I find no shame in that.

Take a deep breath. Be gentle with yourself. Best of luck with everything 💕

It is a very personal decision based on your own expriences and feelings. I wouldn't tell you what to do. I just know dating is very difficult unless it is the right person.

Take care of yourself. Take comfort in your friend. Perhaps  don't make a decision now? I waited 22 months to date and made terrible decisions. Each situation is unique.

Relapsed mono is even worse. He must be careful  and get tons of rest. It us deoresding to feel so lousy and miss out on life.

Thanks for posting. Welcome.

They are a very well known service org. I don't know any members. But they are the ones that sent me notice and thank you for my husband's cornea donations.

Sending hugs.

I'm so sorry you had such. Bad day. "That" day always sucks no matter what. I agree, try again another day.  You definitely remembered. Not getting there is not the same as forgetting.  I think I understand. 4 years is still fresh. Be gentle with yourself.

Sending hugs.

I had his cremains buried in his family plot at a Roman Catholic Cemetery

Lots of rules. I never saw the ashes. I like the fact that they are there. I sincerely don't know what I would have done if they didn't have a plot. Best of luck with your decision. I hope it brings you a measure of peace.

Congrats Maureen. So proud. I'm sure what lies ahead seems daunting but exciting too. I know your NE friends will be happy to have you back. Always Wishing you the best.

What is a "former" widower? How obnoxious. Remarried widower is how I see it.  May not be a popular position but I'm firm in it

Thank you Lewis

I think she should have kept the dog. You've been at this way past Chapter 2. I never beieved chapter 2 is another person. It's us moving tbrough this life as best we can.

Thanks. I'm on it!

There are some new Englanders here. I wish you luck. Getting together with other widows in a casual surroundings has been healing for me.

Take from my experience. When he ignores you, you arent dating. Dont repeat the mistake with the same person. It keeps you from finding someone right. Someone you feel good about.,it is not a race. I lived what you are going through. For too long. Now I couldn't be happier.

More than I would ever like to admit. I'm doing much better now. Keep faith in yourself and listen to that gut of yours.

Not ok x 2

What is wrong with people? I'm sorry this happened. Way too much!

WeLCOME. Glad you found us.

Try again. Try for a local diner or Panera. I moved almost a year ago or I'd be happy to meet.

This place was fun. As was the candy store.

See you next time I'm back in ny. It is always great to get together with another widow or widows.

I think you need to respect his wishes. Hugs.

What a lovely date. Happy birthday