Baylee627

Timing is only a question you can answer. My beloved dog, Gordita, died not quite two years ago. Before that, I'd always maintained I wouldn't be able to pursue getting another dog til after my grief had subsided. I'd presumed I'd need an adjustment period, as her death would likely annihilate me emotionally. I questioned whether my beleaguered heart would be ready to love another. But: I ended up getting my dog Anabelle right around the time of Gordita's' demise...And while she in no way replaced Gordita, her lively antics and dog sugars did prove a balm for me after Gordita passed away. Just as with our spouses, there's just no way to accurately predict what will help or won't until after the (sad) fact. Baylee

Doing a happy dance for you, missy! Baylee

Exceedingly sorrowful for you, Jen. Baylee

You've made so many smart moves on your way to freedom. See it through. And then continue to rebuild. You have a future ahead to get to, after all! Baylee

Jess rocks, damn straight! She went to CA and...And nailed it! Baylee

1. It's my MIL's birthday this weekend----cake!!! 2. I get to see my nephews--mah babies!! 3. Might go see that new Meryl Streep movie this weekend. Baylee

Yes. I can feel the tears back loading for days and the only way to release them at my convenience, and not caught unawares, is to play meaningful, melancholy music, and/or go clutch his clothes that still carry his scent. I'd combust if I didn't do this semi-regularly. Baylee

Take a few deep breath and try a whiskey sour. Sometimes, on occasions as these, there's nothing to do for days like this but hand it a cocktail and take a self-imposed time out! A yi yi. I'm so sorry. This is a lot on your plate. Baylee

Keep going. Baylee

Gosh, I am so, so sorry, MS. Baylee

I'm thinking Mr. Professorial has watched 50 Shades of Grey one time too many and needs a swift reality check. Um, you don't order a woman to report for a drink and she's all shits and giggles just to do so. Just say no. Make that, hell no. Baylee

My first thought is stop seeing Mr. Unavailable. He's a prescription for heartache. Brush him off of your shoulder, post - haste. My second thought is to begin anew, and start seeing the one you termed a "possibility". It might be a balm to your wounded soul to spend time with a man who sees you as a catch, to be found worthwhile and desirable. I get it. The post - widowed dating path is teeming with complexities. I know you don't need advice, really. But really look at this. You've weathered enough torture...haven't you? Baylee

Oddly, it was a true celebration of Joe's life that you commemorated it with family and with New Guy...it wasn't his choice to pass away, but it was your choice to muster courage to move forward under your own steam and keep living. And not just to live--but to flourish. I think Joe's heart would have swelled with pride. His love paved the way for you to go forth when he couldn't. That is legacy. Baylee

Dear sweet heavens. Perhaps her intent was good, but... #fail #damnthatsrough #dontmesswithjess Baylee

You reserve the right to "like" any and all photos of DH. You also retain the right not to have to offer explanations for "liking" his pics. Why should you? It should be apparent to your FB friends you still love DH. And you have a Chapter 2, but that doesn't mean you've relegated Chapter 1 to some dark, dusty recess of your mind. Your heart is big enough for both. Now, *that's* love. Baylee