Silwe Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 I seem to be plagued by agonising dreams of my fiance, who passed away in 2013. The dreams are always a little different, but they follow the same pattern: at first I am happy, living with New Guy. Then suddenly, it is revealed that my first fiance never died or was resurrected somehow. My first fiance is very happy and wants us to continue like nothing had happened, then it dawns on him that I have moved on. All the time, there is a little voice in my head saying CHOOSE, CHOOSE, CHOOSE. I hate those dreams! I know I don't have to choose. But still. I was so happy with DF, but now I'm equally happy with New Guy - perhaps even happier. But I am a completely different person now than I used to be... Gah these dreams are driving me nuts! Sorry for the rant... This just seems to be the only place to talk about things like this. Thank you for 'listening'. <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 Wow Silwe rant away. That must be so hard to wake up to. I'm glad to hear you are happy with NG. Hugs! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lmsmdm Posted March 18, 2016 Share Posted March 18, 2016 I don't have any great words of wisdom, just that I hear you, and (((hugs))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted March 18, 2016 Share Posted March 18, 2016 Silwe, I had a similar dream last night. DH was back with no explanation and no discussion about the life I have been building since he left. NG didn't come up specifically but it was clear that he was taking over being the decision maker and I was expected to go along. I woke up upset that he didn't take me into his arms or seem to care about all I have been through. I hate that most of my dreams about him have been unhappy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amor Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 I am sorry you are having these dreams. I hope you can truly be happy! Amor Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captains wife Posted March 21, 2016 Share Posted March 21, 2016 Sorry- those vivid conflicting widow dreams leave me unsettled. I have a reoccurring dream where my late husband suddenly reappears and I keep trying to warn him that he is going to die today. Wishing you sweet dreams.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quixote Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 Dreams are tough. My nightmares come and go. Sometimes it's the mundane dreams like yours that hurt the most, though. practice good sleep hygiene, but if you do wake up with the heart racing, don't bother trying to get back to sleep. Go for a walk and process the feelings as best you can before returning to bed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twistedmensa Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 I have been plagued by nightmares for most of my life, so the one advantage of having chronic insomnia is that I rarely sleep long enough to reach the REM cycle. I'm perpetually exhausted, but essentially dream free. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pms1954 Posted April 3, 2016 Share Posted April 3, 2016 I have the recurring dream of Jim. There are usually some variations but same theme. Jim is here somewhere but I can never find him or get to him. I wake up struggling to breath and this ache in my heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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