Mrskro Posted October 4, 2017 Share Posted October 4, 2017 It's been three years now that I laid him to rest. Today is much harder than the day he died this year. I didn't think I was actively grieving anymore but today I miss him, I miss my kids father, my best friend, the other half of my story. I'm sad that he isn't here to see our beautiful daughter picking universities and preparing to start the next chapter in her life. I hate that he's not here to teach her to drive stick shift. I hate that she's playing on someone else's hockey team instead of his. I am so proud of the amazing woman she is turning into, that he helped her turn into and so angry that he's not here to see it. I'm sad that he can't look up to our 6' 3" 15 year old son and see what an amazing kid he is. I'm devastated that the boy has taken up playing rugby, plays for our Province, plays for an elite international team and he never even got to see him play. I'm heartbroken that he can't teach the boy about girls and dating, celebrating and teasing him about his not quite there mustache, Ok it's peach fuzz at best. He should have got to celebrate what a wonderful kid he is. I still can't believe in 5 days it would be, it is, our 17th wedding anniversary and he won't be here to celebrate it with me. How did it get to be 17 years? I'm sure it was just yesterday we met, fell in love, had our girl, got married, had the boy. How can we possibly have 17 and 15 year old kids? and how are you not here to raise them up with me? Time is a cruel thing, it flies by at times and is devastatingly slow at others. These have been both the longest, hardest 3 years of my life and at least in relation to the kids the quickest, bitter sweet years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julester3 Posted October 4, 2017 Share Posted October 4, 2017 Hugs for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bunny Posted October 4, 2017 Share Posted October 4, 2017 Been keeping you and your kids in my thoughts this afternoon...thanks for sharing that video, it's been a while since I'd watched it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wandasmom Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 I can totally relate to this Mrskro. Approaching 3 years myself, I miss him more than ever. I keep thinking "okay, I've done this single parent and head of household thing long enough and I want to have my old life back. I want my kids to have their dad and I want my mate." And do I ever get angry and sad thinking about how he is missing seeing his sons grow into such great kids. He would have enjoyed them so much. And fhey lost their biggest cheerleader and this person who had an encyclopedic knowledge of things who could have taught them so much about the world and expanded their horizons. They are missing out on so much. It just isn't fair. We all deserve a lot of credit for doing the best we can without our best friends and partners. It's just so hard to think about how things could have been. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needytoo Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 My thoughts are with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captains wife Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 Hugs to you - this sucks and so unfair to our kids in particular : ( No wonder you are so proud of your kids - they are really "thriving" considering the loss they suffered : ) Shows amazing character..... Although I miss my husband as a partner - the hardest part for me (at 5+ years now) is that he has missed out on watching our son (now 6) grow up and pass all of those life milestones. And he will miss all the future milestones....Trying to raise a son (as a mother) has its particular challenges and I can see how my son gravitates to male company - he really craves it : ( He is being raised by a bunch of females essentially - myself, his nanny and his grandmothers. We are doing the best we can but its not the same : ( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beth_krkswidow Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 Hugs. Hugs hugs hugs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrskro Posted October 6, 2017 Author Share Posted October 6, 2017 @Captainswife No wonder you are so proud of your kids - they are really "thriving" considering the loss they suffered : ) Shows amazing character..... Their character amazes me every day, since 2012, we've lost both their grandfathers, their grandmother, great granny, their dad and their 2nd grandmother getting lung cancer that metastasized to her brain. They've had numerous people that swore they'd be there for them leave their lives and yet they thrive. Everyday I look at them in awe, they have both handled the shitty hand they been dealt with so much grace and dignity. Far better than I have. Thank you all for listening. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donswife Posted October 18, 2017 Share Posted October 18, 2017 Three years for me today Like you said the hardest three years of our lives I just miss him and us Thanks for your post Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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