rifatheroffour Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 Ok, so I could not come up with a better title...in essence this is a vent/share/WTF post. My youngest brother and I are not the closest, we get along fine, are friendly but just don't share much. He lives 5 hours away has much younger children etc etc. My wife was not happy with him and some really insensitive things he said once and it just made us more distant. He and I are in the same industry and have some business dealings so we sort of keep in touch that way as well. Today he told me he hadn't been blowing me off but he has just not been feeling well the last 6 to 8 weeks. He was born with only one functioning lung which only gave him any real problems when he lived at a higher altitude for a short while. In fact that was how they discovered it when he was in his twenties. So he is now suddenly been dizzy and short of breath to the point that he couldn't get up the other day. While he told me this he also said not to tell our parents, he is planning to see a doctor soon and did not want to worry them. I work with my parents everyday. My wife died from lung disease! This has me freaked out to say the least and no one to share it with. I sent an email to my wife's pulmonary specialist in Boston asking for a referral to someone in my brothers area. I was not sure he would remember us from 2012, his very quick and kind email assured me he remembers her often and is still sad about what happened. DAMN this sucks, I'm now in tears and worried and my mind just races to the worst possible conclusions. Thanks, just needed to get that out because I can't share very many places and if I do I won't keep it together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 I hope your brother gets some answers soon. Not knowing makes it worse. ((hugs)) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hachi Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 While he told me this he also said not to tell our parents, he is planning to see a doctor soon and did not want to worry them. I work with my parents everyday. This doesn't help either. Sorry you are going through this.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 I am so sorry for your brother's health scare. My inlaws are big on the "don't tell so and so" and it makes me crazy, it adds to the stress and puts a burden on you. I hope he gets seen quickly and gets some answers. It's so hard not to let your mind go to the worst case scenario but do your best to think positive until you know more. Tight hugs and prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lmsmdm Posted June 25, 2015 Share Posted June 25, 2015 No words of advise, just big hugs. Praying for a positive outcome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donswife Posted June 25, 2015 Share Posted June 25, 2015 Such a tough situation and I am sure it brings you back to the place of worry a place we are all to familiar with thanks for letting us in on your situation and keep us updated Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lcoxwell Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. It is so easy for our minds to go to the worst case scenario, now that we have been through the loss of our loves. It does suck, not having that one special person in life to turn to, when we need someone to talk to and to share with. I hope things work out for your brother, and that whatever the situation, it won't be too bad. Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts your way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmg19 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 Sending ((Hugs)) and I'm so sorry you are going through this. It is hard when you need someone to talk to and no one is there. Men particularly do not have that male friend to chat with. My widowed aunt told me right after DH died to cultivate, nurture, and maintain my girlfriends. Boy was she right. In the beginning when I thought some were DGI"s, I hung in there. I've so thankful now because although my dearest friend is married and busy we still talk face to face weekly and she has been there when I was a self-centered whiner in the beginning. Good thought and prayers going out to your brother and you. You may be the friend he needs right now and vice versa. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoVerySad Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 I'm sorry, RIFF. It is so hard to not have our spouses to share our worries with. It is also unsettling to have our minds go to the worst case scenario based upon what we've been through. I'm hoping that your brother gets diagnosed, treated, and feels better soon. I'm sure it is hard to hide your worry from your parents. Although it pales in comparison to the support of a spouse, please know we're here to listen and offer our support. Sending you tight hugs... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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