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  • Date Widowed
    02/19/2019
  • Name of Spouse
    Mark
  • Spouse's Age
    79


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  1. laurie27

    10 years

    Maureen, wow, ten years. That's a long time and it sounds like in some ways you have moved on to your new life and in other ways, you have not. I fear that is what it will be like for me. I hate living alone, but I am adjusting to it. I am glad that you are going to a wildlife refuge to try and enjoy the present. Take care of yourself and Hugs to you. Laurie
  2. Wow Toosoon, yes that does sound like exactly what I am going through. I made myself a promise way back in the beginning, I have to leave the house once a day, even if I just pick up a can of cat food, and I have to interact with someone, even if it is just the clerk. Then I added that I had to make someone smile, even a stranger just to say "Cute shirt!". So I am trying to make sure I don't isolate too much, but, as you know, it gets hard some days. Thank you for writing. The solidarity of coming to this site has helped me so much. I have looked back at my own posts and realize how much I have changed in the last seven months and reading other people's thoughts I realize the changes are only beginning. Happy Fall everyone. I'll close with a photo of my Fall Quilt, named "Falling Leaves".
  3. Thank you for the affirmation, at least I know I am not alone, it does get harder. I like the statement, because yes it does feel like I am going through hell, I'll just keep going.
  4. I'm not sure why, maybe someone can help me with this, but it seems harder now. I am crying all the time and I feel more lonely than ever. Even when I am with people I feel so alone!!! It's driving me crazy. Maybe I need to see a counselor or try a Grief Share group. I don't know where to turn. Even my work isn't enough right now. Or is this just a phase I am going through because the shock is wearing off and reality is setting in, just like the title says.
  5. laurie27

    widowed 3rd may 2019

    Simon, for what it is worth, I found work actually helped me because it gave me (at least for a few hours) something to else to concentrate on. Now, I work for myself so maybe it is different, after all I don't have to dress up, just go in the office and boom I'm at work, even in a nightgown. But I really mean it when I say the concentrating on something besides Mark was very helpful. I'm at 6 months and there are still days I find it very helpful. Take care of yourself, and sending prayers your way.
  6. Dear Alma, I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. It is a very difficult journey, but as @Julester3 said, one minute at a time, one hour at a time and one day at a time. Come back wen you are ready to share your story, we will listen (read) and send you prayers and hugs. Take care of yourself and don't forget to drink a lot of water...crying does dehydrate you.
  7. @sudnlysngl I am so sorry to hear about what happened to you. I have been on blood thinners, you just have to be very careful and you will bruise very easily. Being in the ER that long!!! Wow, can't even imagine. Hugs to you!!!
  8. laurie27

    I Got A New Car

    And for those of you who keep up with things you probably knew that I don't even have any keys...it starts with a push button! Wow, I am having a great time. Thanks everybody! Have a beautiful Sunday!
  9. laurie27

    I Got A New Car

    Okay everyone I got a new car. I decided to do another lease as that is easier for me since Mark and I leased for the last 30 years. You basically don't have to worry about anything major happening because you don't have it long enough. I got a candy blue metallic Eco Sport. I went to the dealer by myself and handled everything just fine.
  10. laurie27

    Speechless

    I can't believe what some people say. I'm so sorry he hurt you that way. Hugs to you and take care.
  11. laurie27

    widowed 3rd may 2019

    Wow Leadfeather, that was beautifully said, and so true! Good luck on a journey you never wanted to take simon8164. Hugs to you.
  12. laurie27

    Let's Celebrate!!!

    Arneal, your story is exactly why I have never told Ford Credit what happened. I have heard stories where they want the car back, and the lease payments. So...thanks for the story. Trying2breathe, yes I am glad I am not going to do it alone, and good job on the downsizing, that takes a lot of work and sometimes can trigger memories. So Hugs to you.
  13. laurie27

    New Here 💕

    Hi Peg, I quilt. (I say it that way, since I don't know how to make clothes). Since my concentration is not the greatest, I use all of that at work (I own my own business). So, I do charity work, a lot of it. Like Julester3 said, it is a distraction. For at least a little while the most important thing in my world is "Is that a straight stitch?" It helps me get through some really tough times. And like Melissa said, I cry and because of that, don't forget to drink a lot of water to stay hydrated. Take care of yourself.
  14. laurie27

    Let's Celebrate!!!

    Thank you soloact and arneal, I never thought about getting the financing in place before going to the dealer. I was just thinking I had to take care of the car insurance (both the car and the insurance are in his name). Thanks for that, I plan to actually start going to look by next week. I have to turn the car in by September 5, not August. August is the last payment, so after that I can turn it in at any time. This car is a lease, I'm not sure if I should lease again, or just buy a used car. I have a friend who going to go shopping with me, and her husband offered to look at any used car to check it out. Thank goodness for friends.
  15. laurie27

    New Here 💕

    Hi Peg, I am sorry to welcome to a club no one wants to join. I also lost my husband in February and I agree with Melissa that once the shock wears off it hurts in a different way. I'm not sure if it hurts, just differently. I also feel that coming to this forum has helped me a lot in feeling that what I am experiencing is normal. Don't forget to take care of yourself, keep yourself hydrated, and give yourself a big hug. Laurie

Personal Information

  • Date Widowed
    02/19/2019
  • Name of Spouse
    Mark
  • Spouse's Age
    79


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