MR

Congrats..

So sorry to see you in this club. Take one day or one min at a time as per your convenience. Drink lots of water and eat something.

On 6/29/2019 at 6:52 PM, Gabzmom said:

It’s been forever since I’ve posted on the board. I have “liked” threads and posts, but haven’t really posted. I met a wonder man who happened to be a widower as well. We got married on 9–2-2017 - we are as happy as ever and we both participate in honoring our late spouses. 

 

Beyond widow-hood, we have so many other things in common. 

Congrats..

Hugs

Do what makes you feel better and don't worry what people say or think. 

Hugs

Manoj

Hugs

On 2/6/2019 at 8:41 AM, powbesh said:

What can I expect?  He's been gone less than a month & I've already lost 7 pounds.  Didn't weigh very much to begin with, and am now down to 100 lbs.

Cannot force myself to eat.  Zero appetite, all tastes like paper.

Has anyone experienced this?  Please tell me what, if anything, I can do to restore my appetite.

Hi Powbesh,

I experienced similar lost like 30 pounds in first 2-3 months but i was overweight so was not an issue. I ensured I eat fruits and drunk water. I drank alcohol at night and helped me to eat but not asking you to try that as everyone is different. Best is to consult doctor as their are trained for this.

Hugs

On 2/2/2019 at 1:01 PM, sudnlysngl said:

Sorry about your back pain! I was supposed to have back surgery a year ago and haven't done it yet cause I'm to afraid to and I've been suffering with the pain every day! But I keep hearing dh in my head saying as long as I can walk no one is cutting my back!!! I do know mine is getting worse, and that pain can be unbearable! 

I have some meds that might help, but that's not always the answer. You can now buy an over the counter tens unit, it's worth trying. Wish I could help you MR, sorry about your pain, I really do understand, I see a pain mgmt. dr monthly for mine, and yet the state I live in won't acknowledge me for disability, go figure, so now I laugh then cry...

Best of luck to you😉

I have seen my wife with similar  back pain and can understand what you are going thru. Hopefully they will do right procedure and you will relieve from pain.

Fuck this back pain which got bad and reminded me how much I was dependent on her as I didn't even knew what meds she use to give me Fuck this life.

It happens i have a friend who was like big bro for me and he lost his wife when he was in late 30ish and when i lost my wife he didn't even called me and when i called him after few months he started giving me some advice and i was like bro where were you when i needed you the most.

As LF and CW has mentioned it will take some time for you to learn how to handle it. It will not get better any time soon but will learn to cope with it, Hang on we all are here.

Congrats

So sorry to hear this. 

6 hours ago, powbesh said:

MR, do you really think meds would be a lifetime thing?  I'm using marijuana, valium, celexa, & wine. Nothing really helps, I want something stronger.

My friend lost his wife and started taking meds to sleep. He is still unmarried and after 19 years he still needs them. I would sleep only for 3 hours for like 6 months or more after having 5-6 drinks and still wouldn't get great sleep but i was going to gym more often. Now days i get sleep without that many drinks and can easily sleep for 5-6 hours.

Don't make habit of using these meds as they have side effects but again i am not a doctor.

On 1/22/2019 at 12:30 PM, powbesh said:

MR, I can drink lots of water (and wine) but eating is the thing I cannot do.  Food just tastes like nothing to me & I have no appetite at all. Am wondering how long it takes

before I'll starve to death.

 

Its normal not to feel like eating.. I lost almost 15 or more pounds in 3 weeks of her sickness and similar in next 2 months. So hang in.... I would eat little but eat as had to else who will take care of kids. I was sleeping like 3 hours a day and still no issues. Slowly slowly sleep increased and now after almost 2.5 years i am able to sleep 5-6 hours which can be considered normal. Doc wanted to take some meds but i didn't as i know i have to stick to them for life long. 

So sorry to see you in this club. Just take one day at a time and eat and drink lots of water. It will take some time before you will little reduction in pain.

My wife passed away 9 days later to my birthday. Can't think of celebrating my birthday ever. So we all have this kind of stuff build up in our minds.

Sorry to see you both in this club.. Its been more than 2 years and life has become little normal. Still miss her but breakdowns are less and now have more control on life and emotions. Please take care of new born as he needs you the most. Drink lots of water and always eat something. We all are here to help each other. One day at a time helps.

Congrats Mathew and Rob.. Stay Blessed.

My prayers with you. Get well soon.

So sorry for your loss. 

Hugs

Manoj

August end will mark 2 years and last one month has been so tough that i don't know how will I survive next month. 

Congrats..

Hi Mattie,

Sorry to  hear about him. You have joined at good forum, here people can understand you as all have gone thru similar grief. Keep posting.. Take care of yourself , eat as much as you want to and drink lots of water. Sometimes writing helps so please keep posting.

Hugs

Manoj

Quite timely post as reaching 2 year mark. Elder one my started his 2nd year engr. few days after funeral and younger one daughter started her high school. I was worried how we will last as a family. Today i can say we are not same as family but still I can be proud of both of them.