MR

Tight Hug... I suppose whole our life will be like this.

So sorry for you loss. Reading all this makes me think again how life can be unfair to some. All my hugs for the little girl.

Feels like I wrote it.. It seems we all have these moments in common. Reading everyone experience changes my view of life. No more planning no more working too hard for money. Just spend time with family and friends as don't know whom are we meeting last time considering most of family and friends are in India.

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Manoj

Congrats on daughter's wedding.. Don't have any advice or suggestion but just a tight hug.. I keep thinking the same how will it happen when my son finishes his degree etc...

This is normal to think of worse and it takes time to get out of it. My wife had a medical injury while getting anesthesia medicine as nerve block. 7 months later my son was having wisdom tooth extraction which is very simple but I was in panic mode and was not able to tell anybody the reason either.

I am only one year out but haven't let go her clothes etc so I can understand little bit. I still talk to her picture and smell her clothes.

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Hi G,

It is pretty normal. Last year after my wife death I was not able to contact a close friend of mine in India and kept thinking similar way. Later on contacted was told he was very busy as his cousin was on death so life has made us in a way now that we think bad before good.

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Congrats KK..

I am not selling my house as both wanted to live in it (it is our 3rd house but her favorite) till my daughter goes to Uni. Now 3 more years before I can think as I don't want to break the promise. It is big for us and now I even have basement ready (started basement when she was here with me) and finally got projector and speakers setup so hopefully can spend some time there thinking about her.

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Prayers for everyone in affected area

Yes we all miss holding hands. Normally i drive using one left hand and right hand is free so would hold her hand if she was on passenger seat for most of the route except when both hands needs to be on wheel. Now-a-days my daughter seats in front and she started holding my hand as we both feel better that way.

Hugs to everyone it is tough.

We are Hindu and so we do Cremation and thus no grave. My in-laws are visiting us from india and are staying at my place for last 2 months so went to temple and did some talking about her with them and kids. It was tough day and probably cried like I use to in the initial days.

Thanks everyone,

Thanks Mizpah and Wifeless,

Advice from everyone who is traveled the path is really helpful. Yesterday was quite bad and today is little better.

Manoj

Today is the first Sad anniversary. Started the day with ok mood but then suddenly something stuck and started crying. Have been like that for last 2 hours. Plan to go to temple with kids and pray for her peace.

Thought of sharing.

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Manoj

I had mine last week and exactly one year back i heard from doctors that she is brain dead but couldn't stop kids from wishing me and infact they gave me a small gift too. I was faking whole time but couldn't tell them whose wishes I am missing the most. Cried whole day whenever was alone.

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Manoj

I think these kinds of moments will always make us weak. My daughter started her high school few days later to funeral last year. Son will be leaving for sweden this weekend for his co-op term. Just feel so empty that how she would be proud and happy seeing kids growing.

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Manoj

Hi Wifeless,

I am week away from one year and feels as I wrote it. Hats off buddy.

Manoj

Hi Mishka,

Sorry to see you joining this club. We are here to listen to you so please keep writing. I had similar problems as limited friends and everyone else is overseas. I joined a single parents / divorced/ Widow(er) group where everyone was more understanding and ready to talk specially at late nights too as that was the time I use to get lonely. We do events some family and some adult ones.

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Manoj

Hi KrypticKat,

Sorry to hear what your friend is doing to you but we all have seen similar issues with friends may be due to simple reasons like they don't know how to handle it. You already know the best solution to your problem. Silence -- We don't have to respond right away take your time and reply next day.

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Manoj

Good luck Frederick

Reaching one year mark and small things like song or some sentences from past will bring me down to earth but life moves on ...

Hi Cela,

Sorry about you loss. We all didn`t get enough time with our spouse. Please take care of yourself. Eat as much as you can, drink lots of water and try to get some sleep. Things will getting harder and then little better. I am more than 11 months out but still miss her like anything. For most of us our universe definition has change so we are all here to listen to you.

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Manoj

Hi CJ92,

Sorry to hear about your wife and my condolences. We all are here to help each other so please keep writing and reading. Take one day at a time or even one hour at a time. Eat enough and drink lots of water. Take care of your kids, I know it is very difficult but they only have you.

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Manoj

Actually we think it should have been me instead of her or him but again God has decided other way. Probably them been along would be tougher.

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