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Hi BambiGrk,

So sorry for your loss. My wife was also very religious and would fight with me if I say any thing against god. She wanted to die married and God fulfill her wish but at a very young age. I was angry as well at times scared of god. What if he does same to me what will happen to my kids. Everyone will explain you that God has a plan but I can't understand that. Earlier days are very tough so please try to take it easy. Eat as much as you and drink lots of water. Don't think too much just one day or even one moment at a time. Take care of your health. Go to gym if possible. As time passes you anger will come down and you will start having faith in god.

Hugs

Just thinking about this I don't want to think of having another relationship. I am 11 months out but the thought haunts me sometimes.

My Sister lost both her inlaws on same day. Good for couple as they don't have to live without each other but devastating for kids. Couple was in their late 60's so not that young and all kids were well settled.

We all have been thru similar issue.

Its been almost a year now but still can't get more than 4-5 hours continuous sleep. Don't want to go on pills but good thing is that from 2-3 hours now I am at 4-5 hours so let's hope for best.

Hugs

I have her pics on my phone, computer and everywhere else. Infact her pic is my phone screen saver.

Thanks for sharing. I haven't gone thru my wife stuff and was thinking why it is taking me so long. I am 11 months since that day. After reading yours I realized I don't have to rush.

Hugs

Manoj

Hi Always,

Sorry to see you in this club which nobody should join. I am 11 months out and still feels lost sometimes. I suppose it will happen even after few years. I lost my wife of almost 20 years in a medical injury. Similar to bromans i never did anything alone even she use to select my clothes and now have to do everything on my own. This forum is good as you can speak or read as per your wish. Take one day at a time and you will learn slowly slowly to deal with this grief. We are here for you.

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I am a month away from that day but already thinking of how to make that week busy hell so that less time to think. Really liked your line Trying

Time is a tricky thing, the hours can go so slowly but the year is over so fast.

Hi

Sorry to hear this but hang in there and something good will happen.

Hugs

Manoj

I am at 11 months and some days feel like 11 months have passed since I last saw her so life will improve for better and some other days are like 11 months of hell how will I survive another 15-20 years without her.

Good Luck my friend.

Such a huge step. Hang in there and things will start shaping up. Best wishes.

Hugs

Manoj

I agree with what Bunny says unless it effects you, it should bother you.

With my love in vegas.

I removed her name from deed (I was forced by insurance company as incase of damage money will go in estate etc). Removing her name from bank account, her company etc was emotional pain but had to do it more I prolong more painful it might be.

Hi CourtneyR,

Sorry to see you here. First few months are difficult and then we learned to deal with it so please take it easy on yourself. Don't try to think too much just try to pass one day at a time or an hour at a time. Eat well and drink lots of water. Take care of yourself else there is no one else who knows whats going on in your brain.

Hugs

Manoj

Hi meemzi,

Sorry to see you here. Good support system at home is important and for rest we are here. Please keep posting.

Hugs

Manoj

Its been almost 10 month but still feel she is coming back. Now mind has accepted that she is never coming back but heart hasn't.

I think it is pretty normal. My wife died as the doctor was giving her nerve block and injected it in Spinal. The nerve block are anesthesia. In March my son has to get his all wisdom tooth out and was going for anesthesia and I know how much I was freaking out. Now we care too much about what has been left with us.

I am only 9 months out and some days are difficult to handle then others. Reading all above kind of made me sad but also prepare me for what will or can come.

Hugs

I was away from work for 3-4 weeks due to her in ICU. Had the funeral and other rituals on Saturday and monday. Kids started uni and school from tuesday as it was new semester in Sep so decided to go back to work for some kind of distraction. Work allowed me to work from home if I want but i decided to go to work on alternate days so that I can observe myself and see where I feel more comfortable. As I was away for 4 weeks work piled up considering I am the only one supporting my system but that helped as the day passed by easily and within a week not much work left. Take it easy as much as possible, most of the people around us understand and give us some kind of break.

Hugs

Manoj

I read the article and thought of sharing as we have discussed this in past

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/home/sunday-times/what-not-to-say-to-the-bereaved/articleshow/58662186.cms

Sometimes small words help a lot.

Proud moment and very happy for you. Hug him from my side.

Manoj

Hi Gem,

So sorry for your loses within small period of time. Your sister is worried about you and that's why trying to help. In beginning we all are like on a mission and doesn't want to hear anything from any close ones also. As Trying said we need to let our grief be processed. Talking to therapist or close one who can listen you for hours will definitely help as no body else has skills or time to listen to you. Expressing yourself on this forum was one of the things which helped me and thanks to everyone for helping me during that stage.  If you don't want to create your own thread then reply to others or read old ones. I sometimes still go thru all the pages in different section as sometimes some comments can bring smile to our face.

Hugs

Manoj