Needytoo

Guys do it as well, disappear when you mention actually meeting them. I find it extremely rude and frustrating. I am doing things very wrong on these sites and not sure what I am doing wrong. I have only gone on four coffee dates and everyone one was a bust. The first two I chatted with them for weeks. The first guy after 5 minutes I couldn't run fast enough out the door. He didn't know I was a widow and you just ruin the date when you say "wish my x-wife was dead". Second guy actually wasn't that bad but he said I wasn't ready to date. Maybe he was right. Last two I thought meeting in person early was the way to go. Both of them just mindless chattered away. I don't think either of them asked me a thing. I think there is one TED webinars I watched and they guy went on about how he took the time and gained a person's trust before meeting them. I still have no idea which is the better way to go. Good luck to you.

The link to the article didn't work. My husband passed away from the dreaded "widow maker" heart attack in his sleep. His father died of the same heart attack. Three months before his passing he went to the doctor for a check up. Everything was fine, even his blood work. My husband was kind of passive and most likely didn't remind the doctor of his family history. Someone that works in cardiac medicine said if they did a stress test on him they would have detected the problem. Sure wish that was done. I never heard about the calcium deposits. I will have to read up on that.

What would I do with out you guys? Being the 2nd sad anniversary is different than the first. Still raw but I am really trying not be the hateful angry person I was, because what is the point of it. It just drains you and doesn't help you at all. You guys bring me back down to the sane reality of the situation. Thank you so much for that.

Hello everyone. Just wanted to run something by everyone and get your feedback. On Sunday was the 2nd sad anniversary of my husband death. The only person that acknowledge it was another widow friend which was very nice. My last support meeting another member mentioned how no one acknowledge the date for her so I really wasn't expecting any different, but deep down of course I was hurt and so were my kids. I received one email from my sister-in-law and a text from my sister apologizing that they forgot. Not sure how you can forget but they claim they did. Whammed again with that dam widow fog brain. I have no clue how to reply to them.

Thank you so much for writing this.