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My cousin became a widower last night. His wife passed away after a long fight with lung cancer. They have two children and two grandchildren. Can you keep him in your thoughts and prayers? I'd appreciate it. Thank you.

I did both my Ohio Health interview and Ohio State digital interview today. The Ohio Health interview went well and seems like it would be a good fit. The billing office is not far from home. The digital interview for Ohio State was a little nerve wracking as I've never done an interview like that before. A first time for everything, right?😊 If this is how large corporations are going to screen employees, then today was good practice. I have applied for other positions with Ohio State so hopefully those will work out if this one does not. It'd be great to get into to OSU because, after three years of employment, I would receive 100% free tuition and my son would receive 50% off his tuition. That would be a relief for me. On the other hand, the lady I interviewed with at Ohio Health today stated that if I met my productivity standards for six months, I would be eligible to work from home. That would be a great help as a single parent! Tomorrow I have a phone interview with Hand Microsurgery Associates. if you're in the Central Ohio area, this office is int he Polaris Parkway area. I hope to have an offer soon. Thank you to everyone who has read this chain. Being unemployed is a common, but difficult position to be in. Thanks for being my supportive listening ear!

A little vent - my former employer also runs a school for kids and adolescents who have autism - my son attends the school and he can keep attending because the state pays the school $27,000 per year to educate him. When I signed the severance agreement to leave the sister company, I was promised that no one at the school would know. Today I went to pick up Jack and was greeted with "I'm sorry to hear that you lost your job". This is irritating because I have lived up to my end of the agreement and somehow the news got out. When someone in the company leaves, the news spreads like wildfire. Just my rant. Anyway, I also received a 'thanks but no thanks' letter form UHC today. This day is frustrating. However, I did receive a reply back from Ohio State that are interested in me and would like me to do a virtual interview with them. Basically, I am recording myself on my computer answering questions and some one at Ohio State will decide if I move on to an interview with a person. The interview will be done in my living room but I will need to dress as if I'm going to an interview. This day has been frustrating and exciting. Ohio State would be a great place to work!

Hi Dottie - I'm very sorry for your loss. You should move around from therapist to therapist until you find the one that's most beneficial. I don't think that medication is the answer and that you need someone to talk to - I just spent 3 1/2 years working for a behavioral health practice and have seen the results when a client has someone to speak with. For me, I got the most benefit by joining this board and talking with fellow widows/widowers. You need to do what's best for you. Good luck and hugs to you.

Rush, 'Ghost Of A Chance". It's the closest that Rush will ever get to a love song😊 Neil Peart, the drummer for Rush, wrote this song for the 1992 Roll The Bones album. In 1997, Neil lost his teenage daughter in car accident and his wife to cancer ta few months later. We've all experienced loss here. Id' like to think that I have a ghost of a chance for love again. Yes, I'm one of the few women on Earth who will admit to liking Rush🤣.

Thank you Eddienhp. My former employer made some very, very bad decisions over the years and they have come back to bite management in the ass, over the last six months. They're in my rear view mirror now as I'm looking ahead. I would very surprised if they are still in business this time next year. I have an interview with on Wednesday with a company called Ohio Health! They're a network of hospitals and doctor's offices here in the central Ohio area. I would love tp go work for a large corporation again - everyone knows their role, their job duties and there's room to move ahead. At the small practice that I was let go from, there was none of that. There would also be a lot more stability. i have also been aggressively applying to Nationwide Children's Hospital, which has offices all over Columbus, and to the Ohio State University. Wish me luck on Wednesday morning!

Thank you, Trying. This morning I went for the last of my things from the office. I also turned in my severance agreement, so things are 'final', but my work email account (I had it on my iPhone) wasn't turned off until this afternoon. I feel like I really screwed this up and lost the job but at the same time, as I was talking with my now former supervisor, no departments talk to one another and each one is led by an egocentric person. Some of the directors really did act like the company revolved around them and I think that's a big reason why the company is hemorrhaging money. I just didn't;twant to leave on these terms. Thanks for reading my rambling🙃

Thank you, sudnlysngl. You're right, management will have no one to blame but themselves when things settle down. Both the vice president and my supervisor said that I was a nice person with a great work ethic but the quality wasn't there - when an employee is pulled in 30 different directions like I was, no, the work results will not be good. They both stated they would give a good report when other employers call about me. At least I am out on somewhat 'good' terms.

Hi Mike - up until yesterday, I worked with several people who were PhDs and, we liked to say in admin, had the alphabet behind their name. Sometimes I wonder if PhD is short for Pinhead. I wanted to tell one of those PhDs to get a colonoscopy because his head was missing🤣 JustMom - vent away. We've all had that relative that thinks they know everything and doesn't know a thing. I've found that these people can't get over themselves. Your father-in-law should be allowed all the time he wants to be alone and grieve how he wants to. We all know that there is no set standard for grieving a loved one.

Thank you, Maureen. With the way things were going at work, I didn't think the company would be around in a year or two anyway. Our lead psychologist was blaming me for every mistake that his staff members made, so I definitely won't miss that. Our director of the ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis) department was telling our new parents to pay what they could on their account balances and the rest would be written off, then got upset when none of the parents were paying. I was told today that other people would also be let go so I think this is more of a layoff situation more than anything else. My sons' SSI payments will end in 3-5 years as well so I was already considering a change because my income would drop significantly with the SSI loss - wanted to be in front of it rather than behind. I have found a few business magazine articles on how to handle the unemployment and use my LinkedIn account to find a job. My SIL works at the local Children's Hospital so I will apply there as well.

Things in my office have ben going downhill for awhile now and today I was let go. I worked for a behavioral health group that hasn't performed very well since its inception, due to many issues beyond my control. I admit that I was not the best employee but I have a good work ethic and showed up every day even when I was very ill. Management offered me a severance agreement this afternoon to 'resign' effective September 7th and just move on. Management - Vice President - stated that they would give a me good referral when other employers call about me, saying that "I have moved on to bigger and better things". That is a good deal now that I write this, but it is just the shock of losing a job. My background is in insurance and healthcare billing. Can I have some encouragement, please.

Hello everyone, I haven't been on here awhile but I like the new look! Anyway, I need career or schooling advice from fellow widows/widowers. I work for a doctor's group which has undergone restructuring in the last six months. Why? Because I was working in three different parts of the company and management couldn't understand why stuff was falling through the cracks. Anyway, this restructuring has not been easy and my work duties have changed quite a bit. This morning, my supervisor tells me that they "doesn't see any strengths on my part in the job". The supervisor is very nice but never has a good thing to say about anything I do in the office. I can't do anything right, at all. I've never claimed to be a perfect employee, and I have a made a lot of mistakes, but I can't take this anymore. The supervisor also stated that another coworker is ready to quit because of my mistakes, among other issues. This is combined with the fact that my sons' SSI payments will end in the next 3-5 years and the economy is picking up again. I'm also interested in going back to school for something in finance- would love to have a position as a financial advisor. I'm in my early forties now and just can't see being this unhappy in my job; I spend more time at work than I do anywhere else. What would you do?

My 15 year old son was dumped by his girlfriend yesterday and he is tore upon about it. She said that she needed space - I don't know why when she was calling DS all the time (she had a special ringtone on DS's phone, so I knew she she was calling him). He was so upset by it last night that he vomited. He has not eaten anything until late this afternoon. I feel terrible for him. He has stayed in his room all day and I'm getting to come out slowly. We all know that this is a part of life but I want him to feel better. I though it would be best to let him rest today, take it easy, and he will be over her soon. Is there something else that I can do, or should I step aside a bit?

Hi CandiceS, I was 34 and my boys were ages 8 & 6 when their dad died of sepsis. Two things that I wish I had known beforehand: -that life would not stop so I could grieve; or that people (mainly DH's creditors) would try to take advantage of my altered state. It was only from people from our previous site, chapter2.org, that I knew that my state, Ohio, was not a community property state and that I didn't owe anything on his debts. young widows/widowers need to know that they are not alone. I wish you luck with your new blog. What is the blog's name?

Thank you for your help! I have a new supervisor who is reorganizing our office and I have a coworker who can help me out. My new supervisor has seen how the psychologist has been treating and I finally have someone to back me up when something happens. A lot of the trouble comes from the psychologist not keeps keeping tabs on his staff and he blows off their mistakes, which a lot of the time, results in writing off the charges. I have also been turning off the devices after 9 pm and just watching tv to relax at night. I like to watch "Strange Inheritance" on Fox Business in the evenings. It talks about people who have inherited strange things and what they do those items. I have been feeling better the last few days.

Congratulations Maureen! You'll do great!

There's always McAlister's Deli on Sawmill road too-

Ooh, this is exciting! When can we all meet?Best time for me would be a Saturday. The best part is that a lot of the construction in the 270/315 area is done! And the Ikea traffic on Polaris is not bad, either

I hear you. I have never watched the show but my coworkers were all over it. I admit I saw a little bit of the funeral scene and turned it off. Been there, done that, have the t-shirt.

I am anxious about work. Ironically, I work as a biller for a behavioral health group. I have been working in three different parts (accounting, billing, insurance) of the company for nearly a year now and the workload is too much. My bosses have been aware for quite sometime now that I am overwhelmed but only now are they upset that I can't handle it. They are upset that haven't been able to get to the accounts receivable as much as I'd liked to. But when I need to devote 100% to each department, what should management expect? There is a psychologist in my office who blames me for all of his staff member's mistakes - when he thinks its my fault, the company is on the express train to hell; when he realizes that the mistake is the fault of his staff member, the incident was never a big deal.. I am tired of being his scapegoat. This unhappiness from management combined with anxiety has made me tense and feeling like a loser. I know I'm not but this past week has been overwhelming. What strategies can I use to sleep again and make this anxiety disappear? help.

Hello Meemzi, I am glad that you found our group online, but not for the reason why you had to find us. I am very happy that you have a great support system. We can help you with the rest. My husband died in January 2011, and Chapter 2/widda.org has been an essential part of my recovery. Rooshy

I am a non-denominational Christian and like attending church, but I also have a son who is autistic and non-verbal, and there's no class for kids his age and the sermon and music can be too loud for him. I cannot focus on the sermon and him at the same time. I have taken to listening to The Jesus Christ Show on Sunday mornings and reading the bible using the YouVersion app.

I don't know if 41 is old enough to make a 'bucket' list but I am making one in my head. My kids will be off on their own within 4-5 years, and I don't want to sit at home on my couch watching TV. I want to: learn an instrument travel to the west coast learn to rock climb snow ski date again(?) maybe take up knitting, too. A friend of mine makes some beautiful blankets through crochet and knitting. I know that my list will probably change. Do you have one?

bdean38, Puddles release a new cover song every Friday on YouTube. This past Friday, he did a cover of Bowie's 'Life On Mars'. His cover of Moon River, a personal favorite: Enjoy!

Guess what? MIL left a voice mail for me last night stating she hadn't forgotten about DS's birthday. Well yes, she did, because she saw my post about it on Facebook and that was her reminder. She stopped by and dropped off a check for him this afternoon, and DS was pretty nonchalant about it and only spoke to her for about a minute. But yet my two sons and I are supposed to be pleased as punch about this. I am done with DH's family.