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Oh Maureen, this is so powerful I cant even fathom. Sending hugs and love.

I am glad you are here @donswife, everyone else too but especially since you can finally post.

"I don't need to see picture of your Johnson before we meet. It's not how I'm going to pick you out at Tim Horton's. " I needed this smile thanks

No happily ever after yet but one of the worst dates I had was with a widower. Many people I know found love and marriage with non widowed people.

If we win today, we will dance! I believe!!! But I'll pkay no matter

http://www.everydayhealth.com/news/how-grief-can-make-you-sick/

Dog coffee or tea ?

Widdas, wids, widsters. All nicknames we have developed over the years. Just a play on widow that includes widowers

No backlash from me @gracelet!

This brought me to tears. I've been holding back for days. It is a bit overwhelmimg seeing everyone come on here. A blessing for sure.I read my 1st 3 posts from 2009. That's all I can bear. I will say this...people who responded then are among my best friends today . it has been an honor to watch their journeys. thanks for posting this.

1ish is reasonable to me

I love this illustration, and no, I dont believe there is a finish line image:3500

Thank you @anniegirl. I wish it wasnt true but I'd rather know that it is coming. wishing everyone some peace.

Im in even though this year will be very diferent for me :'(

For me there was a transition from mourning to active grieving first. Then hope but grieving at about18 months . Then I started getting out and about, having fun, using bad judgenent and going back and forth between active and non active grieving. I was dating and break ups would redouble my grief. I would say I settled in more consistently after 4 years. More comfortably after 5. Let's see what's next. :

I can relate. On top of all this health crap I got my self diabetic. Shouldve heeded those warnings. Im now on long acting insulin. Meds I cant afford teetering on needing 4x a day insulin. Doc says not only will i not be able to lose this excess weight on 4x insulin but I will gain. It is a growth hormone. Im in a hell of a battle but I'm stubborn and more willing. I may not do great but I can do better. Im determined, doing what passes for my best each day. Good luck. I hear ya.

Im really glad you made this heartfelt post. I am of the same mind on professional widows, the organizatios and shameless cross promotion. You ladies just say it nicer. the loss of the board was a shock. The thought of the next widow being with out it is unthinkable. I wasnt really steadily active but when i saw efforts were bring made immediately to make another place, I wanted to help in ways I can. Moderating is not controlling. People were so shocked and distressed, we wanted them to feel welcomed, get the board up, running, in place and populated. And yes, safe.the admins worked around the clock technically, we tried to help populate and look for privacy issues and tweaks and have content ready so people might feel hopeful. Im moderating boards where I am by no means a subject matter expert. As always, thats up to the membership. Ive answered some transition posts and tried to start a few threads in cheerleader fashion but Im not in charge or invested in anything other than helping this amazing quickfire endeavor we want to stand the test of time. We have been working by consensus. If any of us falls out of line I am sure our vocal population will make it known. Your feedback is really important for our admins to hear. Mods too. These issues will continue to be addressed after this rush period settles down. many "vets"say they may not post again. That's fine.but marking your place and having it readymajes sense to me, we want to know theres a place. It's part of why we feel loss. If I learned anything it is that my needs and desires change. i hope everyone does what feels best for them at any particular time. No judgement. hugs all.

I see a new icon. I also click unread under my name on the upper right

Great move imo

Wonderful news!!!!! I hope to see you both again soon.it was wonderful getting to know you.

Welcome

Lauderdale by the Sea Florida over Martin Luther King Weekend in January . it officially starts the Thurs before and ends Tues but most people come Friday to Monday. This is an adults only, not kid friendly bago.

@Lmsmdm You made it! I feel like watching people arrive at a big bago

Sweets!!!!! book or ebook?

I continue to be so impressed. At 7 months my highest functioning was getting out to see my local wids AND showering. Bless you. I know in my heart we will get to the search engines. Very grateful.