robunknown Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I took this today. I had my back turned, when I turned back around my son was perched on top. I snapped a couple pics then leaned my head over his shoulder and asked, "what are you doing". His response was, "I'm just thinking about mom". My own grief sucks, it really sucks knowing he has to live with this too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robunknown Posted October 13, 2015 Author Share Posted October 13, 2015 I started crying, and he wrapped his arm around my head and patted my back. What a kid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 You have raised a beautiful son. Hugs, Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabzmom Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 Oh, I am so sorry for your son and your loss. He has a compassionate heart and yes, it really does suck that he has to live with having lost his mom. Hugs to you both. ETA: I also meant to add that he's also lucky to have a dad that takes his grief into consideration and takes him to visit his mom's grave. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twistedmensa Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 That breaks my heart, but so sweet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canadiangirl Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 Beautiful boy. It IS heartbreaking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donswife Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 hugs to you both take care Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rifatheroffour Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 The grief of our children is even harder to take than that of our own at times. Beautiful, sweet and painful picture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 My children's grief has been the hardest part because I can't fix it. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful, heartbreaking moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lost35 Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 My oldest friends here (in this country) lost their mom to cancer when they were young. They talk about her, remember her fondly, and mark the dates, many years later. She is very much part of their lives still, when they are older and have families of their own. Their Dad simply made a home in which Mom is still a presence. Though he is remarried (to a widow), both spouses are frequently and easily talked about and loved. They also still comfort each other when needed, and speak openly about missing their Mom. Your little guy sounds exceptionally compassionate. And you are allowing him to understand what has happened to his family, by crying and accepting his comfort and by bringing him to the place where he can sit and think about Mom. Both of these things make me believe he will do the best he can with what has happened. It doesn't make their suffering any easier. It doesn't lessen any of the pain to watch it. But sometimes we are able to do only what we can do, and hopefully know and believe we are helping them in some small way. My heart goes out to you both. Take care, -L. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest fern Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 I'm floored by the things my little one says. A couple months after Dad died and just before turning 5: "Mama, everything dies, but numbers go on forever!" Then proceeded to count until getting bored. Breaks my heart. Again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luvmy2babies Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 I understand. I have a few shots of my children similar to the one you posted. Yours reminded me of one I took of my daughter on father?s day a couple of years after dh died where she appeared to be deep in thought. My son was just a baby when we lost dh. He is now 5 and it is like reliving it in some ways. The other day he told me ?My dad is going to at least come and give me a hug. Isn?t he?? I don?t remember my exact response. Something along the lines of ?he would if he could, but?? He shrieked, ?WHAT?!? Then he threw his head against my chest. A few minutes later, he started sobbing when I said no to something else. It was something that would not normally illicit that reaction. I figured it was all related so I just held him. It's still the hardest part of all of this. I can't protect them from it. Your little boy sounds incredibly thoughful and sweet. Hugs to you both. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SimiRed Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 Hugs! Such Heartbreaking moments, they are so hard for us. Your son sounds amazing, and very thoughtful. "Patted your back"... awwww, now my tears are there too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 My daughter is 17, and does pretty good with the day-to-day aspect of grief most days, now (we are 15 months out). It is the milestones that tend to get her really contemplative and missing Mom. We found out two days ago that she will be receiving a partial academic scholarship to the University she will be attending. It was bittersweet after the initial elation wore off, as she thought a bit about proud Mom would be of her - and hoping that she somehow knows. It was killing me inside, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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