SoVerySad Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 Tonight I'll be doing trick-or-treat alone for the first time. Both of my teens have other plans. My husband loved Halloween. Before kids, we loved giving out candy together. Once the kids came, we left candy out for the trick-or-treaters so we both could take the kids out. I live in a townhome in a large development now. Last year I had non-stop kids stopping for candy. It was wonderful. My son enjoyed it as well. My husband would love this so much, since we didn't get many kids where we lived before. I wish he were here to enjoy it with me tonight. Of course, I wouldn't be living here if he were still here. Well, I've got my candy ready and dog treats for the dogs walking along with their families. I think I will be so busy I won't mind being alone- at least I hope so. How is your Halloween going? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twistedmensa Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 We didn't get trick-or-treaters in the Keys, but we always went to the local trunk-or-treat. Now that I'm in suburbia, I'm hoping for a lot of them...stocked up on treats. We always loved Halloween, but it's not the same without DH. I dragged out all of the decorations with every intention to set them up, but it never happened...sigh. I did manage to hang a skeleton on the door. I plan on escorting my son around the neighborhood and my daughter will likely hand out (and eat) candy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TalksToAngels Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 I am going trick or treating. With a sheet over head and a shot glass in hand. Happy Haunting ; ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max2507 Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 One thing we had in common was that our favorite holidays were Halloween and thanksgiving. On Halloween we only get a few trick or treaters and my husband loved to get the big size candy bars and hand out a candy bar and a dollar to each child. I have continued this tradition. The kids always have such a reaction. One Halloween when we had been dating over a year but he had just met my kids he dressed up as Darth Vador and my son was a storm trouper and they went trick or treating it was hysterical. Everything is so bittersweet these days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 Ah. Halloween alone again. I have candy. Do I turn on the light? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quixote Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 We never really went out on Halloween. My wife would always buy lots of chocolate to give out to the kids who rarely came to our door-- California condo complexes are like that, I guess. I think the families with kids went to malls to do their trick or treating. Anyway, my wife would console herself with eating the leftovers. Never got fat, somehow. I think chocolate molecules just sublimated off her. This will be my third alone Halloween, and the first in the country (left the old complex a year ago). Not anticipating any kids around at all. Think I'll just walk the hills with my dog Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeanGenie Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 Well, this was a pathetic Halloween alone. My DH used to love Halloween. Decorated the house with lots of ghoulish things with graveyards and cobwebs, strobe lights, fog machines, and creepy music playing the background. The family used to come over and DH would cook dinner for us all (pastrami sandwiches) and then I would go out trick or treating with the kids (son and nieces and nephews) while DH stayed home to answer the door (he loved to see the excitement over his decorations). The first Halloween after he passed, I continued the tradition--had the family over, but I stayed home to hand out candy while the family went out. And the pastrami sandwiches weren't as good as DH's. Last year, none of the family was here. The kids are all teenagers and either didn't want to go out or had plans of their own. So I was here alone but still put up a number of outside decorations. Trying to keep the reputation of the best decorated house in the neighborhood. To my disappointment, only 2 trick or treaters last year. So tonite I just put out 3 lit pumpkins. I put together 5 treat bags figuring I'd see the 3 little girls who moved in next door. Nope, just 2 teenage girls and that's it. This is terrible to say, but I'm glad my DH isn't here to see how no one rings the bell anymore. He had so much fun decorating...there would be no reason to now. The silence in the house is scarier than any creepy Halloween movie. I hate it. This is a totally crappy Halloween. I miss the fun we used to have. I was even hoping of catching up with some friends, but that didn't happen either. I was hoping things would get better...Sigh... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 I didn't turn on the light. Instead, I had a nice Facebook chat with a widower friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
widowat33 Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 I just got done a twelve hour shift This is the first time I haven't went with my kids, my dad took my oldest and his friends and my youngest went with a friend. I planned on catching up with them but it was a rainy cold night, so by the time I got done work all the kids were done trick or treating. Now we are just relaxing at home eating candy of course Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 My youngest went trick or treating with friends in a different neighborhood, I didn't want to stay home alone knowing we wouldn't get any kids ringing the bell at our new house (too remote). So I went with NG and his kids, they are little and adorable so it was fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TalksToAngels Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 Well actually went to a parade instead. It was a good way to just get out of the house. I can so relate JG. I used to go ALL out and decorate like there was no tommorow. People in the neighborhood nicknamed me the King of Halloween. Live animations, musical, lights and cobwebs, coffins and creepy clowns. You name it I had it. The decor all sits in the shed now. Just takes so much energy and patience to put everything up, and since she has passed, something about the spirit is really hard to do now. Maybe someday, again.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsDan Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 I took DD to my BIL's and he and I took her and his son trick or treating. She spent the night so I could have dinner with a guy from OKcupid with whom there was absolutely no spark, although BIL didn't know that's where I was going so I feel guilty. But the babysitter didn't show so that's what I did. Now I am home watching Copper on Netflix with my dogs. Might as well look at hot guys with Irish accents. Other guy from Okcupid, who I would have rather met tonight texted earlier about us meeting next week and asked if I had any big Halloween plans. Uh, yeah not sure how to spin this exciting evening. Today is my birthday. One sister called. SIL sent an edible arrangement, MIL sent me a Garmin. My mother did not call. My other brother and sister did not call, although I haven't spoken to either of them in over a year so.... And neither of them nor my mother called n the anniversary of his death three weeks ago or his birthday last week so.... I also got my haircut. I have not cut it since well before he died. I did not want to shed that which he had touched. I teared up. Three years of hair entangled with pregnancy, death, grief, trauma. Gone. 11 inches; she said she could donate it. That should make me feel good, but I don't want anyone else touching it; I'd kept it because he had. Halloween sucks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoVerySad Posted November 1, 2015 Author Share Posted November 1, 2015 Well, I made it through fine. The first hour was crazy busy. The second hour was slower and it was giving me too much time to think. I was starting to feel the loneliness, when a cute little Batman about 3 or 4 years old came up the driveway. I heard his mother tell him to remember what he was supposed to say. He came up to me, looked at me so earnestly, and said, "You are so cute!" I'm guessing he had been hearing that all evening and got it mixed up with his line of "trick-or-treat". He totally made me smile and turned my evening around. I guess Batman really is a hero - at least he was mine tonight. On the other hand, I had quite a few scary clowns tonight - more than I've ever seen before. Given I have a fairly serious fear of clowns, it may explain why I'm having trouble getting to sleep tonight. Clowns... shudder! I'm sorry your birthday didn't turn out better, MrsDan. It hurts when our families don't think to call. Sending you birthday hugs! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twistedmensa Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 I had a really good Halloween. I set up a card table down by the sidewalk in front of my house and my Mom and I sat outside and gave out candy. I set up a lit jack-o-lantern (plastic...lol) and a fiber optic pumpkin and the little ones really liked it. It was slow but steady traffic, maybe 60 kids. I have quite a bit of leftover candy, but I'm sure I can find a way to dispose of it...lol. I packed everything up around 8:00 and went to visit a nearby friend. We sat around the fire pit with her Mom and her husband and handed candy out to a few latecomers. It was nice to just sit and chat. Enjoyed a glass of Bailey's...yum! It's the first time I've felt halfway normal in a very long time. It really felt good to laugh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canadiangirl Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 MrsDan, this is where I want a "dislike" button - I am sorry your birthday and Halloween were not the best. SVS, glad it went okay, love the Batman story! For my part, every year a very kind lady on our street gives the kids homemade cookies. And every year they have been burnt on the bottom, hard as tack and inedible. My DH and I used to always smile about this. I just checked the bottom of this year's cookie - sure enough, burnt. I wish he was here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeanGenie Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 Mrs Dan, happy belated birthday. Sorry your day wasn't better. SVS, love the batman story! What a nice way to brighten your evening. Good news, I guess, is next year Halloween is on a weekday so it will be more like a typical workday versus a pathetic, lonely Saturday night! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TooSoon Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 MrsD and SVS, Just sending love. Just so much love. Sometimes I just want to kick the wall (ok, sometimes I actually do that) and scream, "Why does this STILL have to be so @#$%^&* hard?" I will never understand it. xo TS Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted November 7, 2015 Share Posted November 7, 2015 My Halloween was wonderful, but not because it was Halloween-- I was in Manhattan, catching a double feature of Broadway shows. We spent all day in the theatre district, and I was surprised at the relative tameness of Times Square, considering. The crazies started to come out around 11, but by then we were headed back to Penn Station, so it was all good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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