ieh21 Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 I can do it all. I certainly have. And what I can't do, I can outsource or just let go without feeling guilt. Yep. I can. Except I can't buy a new computer. And I can't deal with all the different crisis at work. And a moral dilemma I find myself in currently. And feeling isolated as everyone's life is too busy to spend time with me. There are times when I cant do it all. And I know it will pass. And I keep doing yoga to keep me calm. And I keep reaching out because if I don't make an effort, I will always feel isolated. Yet I cried today. I cried a tiny bit when a friend told me his wife felt his stress and exhaustion and took the kids away to the cottage so he could have a relaxed weekend. What an awesome wife. How amazing to have her in his corner. I want one of those. Help and support I don't need to organise. Then I dried the tears. I really need a new computer. I need to make a decision. One at a time... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 Hugs....I want my computer guru back. I'm not as stressed as you...no little kids...just me, but I feel your fatigue and your heartbreak and the grumbling over having to do things you wish you didn't have to do yourself. Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoVerySad Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Sending you hugs. I feel the same way. I've found I can do many more things on my own than I thought I could. It is the totality of it all that continues to take its toll - building up as time goes on without any breaks. More hugs! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 I am all too familiar with that feeling that yes I can do it but no I don't want to because there are certain things he could just do better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmf Posted February 12, 2016 Share Posted February 12, 2016 I wrote a somewhat lengthy post when the motherboard went out on my computer in December, and then deleted it because it felt silly, but as always the board reminds me that I am not alone in my feelings. I did a fair bit of research before I settled, and I say I settled rather than decided because it was an arduous process of not getting all that I wanted. Let me know if I can help, with my limited knowledge. ----------------------------------- VDS 11/8/59-8/22/10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quixote Posted February 13, 2016 Share Posted February 13, 2016 My wife was the computer guru of the two of us. She was heavily into electronic music, and wrote programs that interacted with the performers in real time. So that made her the go to "Waaaaaaaa!! Computer not working!!!" Music has been hard for me. She had a masters in flute performance and composition, one of those types who could listen to a multpart piece and write it down. Me, I'm a hack harpist. We played together in professional groups and as a duo, but I realize just how much she helped me out. It's as if I've lost the subtitles to music that explained what was going on. A part of my brain has been cut out, and I doubt I'll ever be able to experience music the same way as I did with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TooSoon Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 All I know is that adp is here this week and he unclogged my toilet this morning as I raced to get ready for work and went along with me to deal with my car which broke down and needed to be towed. I was reminded just how exhausting it is to have to manage all these things on one's own. I can do it but good god is it tiring. Alas, he will go away again soon... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 Having a big "if Tim was here..." day. If Tim was here he could give my son the male perspective and kick in the ass he needs. If Tim was here he would handle the contractor and make my renovation ideas happen. If Tim was here I wouldn't have to drive my son home from practice at 9 pm on a Friday. If Tim was here he would understand the financial aid forms for college. If Tim was here he would hold me while I cry. But he's not, so I will continue to put my big girl panties on and do it all. This sucks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael797 Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 Um..... if it's tech support someone needs, you have only to ask. I originally wanted to provide chauffer services, but that didn't wind up being logistically possible. Computer tech stuff I can handle. How can I be of help? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael797 Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 Then I dried the tears. I really need a new computer. I need to make a decision. One at a time... Need a recommendation? No guarantee that a new computer will help with your tears - Windows 8 still makes me weep openly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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