StillWidowed Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 When a man starts a conversation off with "Hey beautiful or "You're really sexy" are you offended or flattered? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 I groan. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momtokam Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 It's basically an opening line, nothing more, nothing less. Those are usually the ones that want sex only, or sexting buddies, or are scammers. There may be the odd exception but, if a man wants to know the real you, he probably won't start off like this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsDan Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 Offended. Terms of endearment (in this case "beautiful" qualifies) need to be earned. I mean, my dad and my husband used terms of endearment, and when guys I don't know use then, I think, who do think you are? Do you actually think you're on par with them? And telling me I'm sexy before we've gotten to know one another is just creepy. My BF never mentioned my looks, until our first date when all he said was that my pictures did not do me justice. He told me later that he was very blown away, but did not want to come off as only interested in that. He had to restrain himself from "checking me out" too much. In fact, I was starting to wonder if he was really attracted to me at all, a fact he finds pretty comical. It was only after thing became physical that he expounded on my looks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StillWidowed Posted February 15, 2016 Author Share Posted February 15, 2016 I'm offended too. I automatically discount them. I can't believe some women are flattered by it. I know this because they've told me. Ugh!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Portside Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 When a man starts a conversation off with "Hey beautiful or "You're really sexy" are you offended or flattered? Well, I usually set up a date and then when we met up - I hit him over the head with my man purse - but then, I'm a guy. It's a jungle out there. - Mike Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TalksToAngels Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 Hey anything is BS. Hey There ; ) Hi Copy and paste. Waste of time and energy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugarbell Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 It's pukey. But that's just me. Usually those who start a conversation with "hey sexy or whatever"... Are not real bright. Just my limited experience years ago online Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
still_lost Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 Offended. I had a few guys message me with things like that, and after a few short emails, I knew exactly what they were after. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobFTC Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 Worthwhile guys can and will do better than that. Take care, Rob T Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momtojandj Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 hey beautiful or you are beautiful, doesn't bother me . The hey sexy etc irks me . I will chat with them , but more times than not if it starts that way doesn't usually go far . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donswife Posted February 21, 2016 Share Posted February 21, 2016 I noticed fellow wids keep mentioning scammers what exactly does that mean ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted February 21, 2016 Share Posted February 21, 2016 Scammers are people who are out to try to lure someone into thinking they are connecting to a legitimate person. Sometimes, they will go great lengths to develop a "connection" with you. They will eventually try to get you to send money or give up your identifying information. I can spot them because they often have unusual English...like it isn't their first language. They say things in funny, formal ways. They don't say, "My name is George." They say, "I am called George." They don't answer direct questions. I can tell that they cut and paste responses to say what they want to say. I've seen inconsistencies in what is in their profile and what they say in chat. Their profiles may be well written and in normal American English, but their chat has a different style and lots of grammar and spelling errors. I had one guy tell me his name was Pual (yeah, not Paul) and his name on his profile was Tony. Often they approach widows and say they are widowed, but don't want to talk about their loss because it hurts too much. (Ever met a wid that wouldn't tell another wid about their late spouse? No? Thought so!) I've also hear the exact same way that a 50-something lost his wife "trying to give me a child." I've probably seen that 5 times. Exact same wording. I spent some time chatting just to figure things out before I tried messaging anyone - learning the ropes. I don't know how many profiles I have reported...and I've also wasted some people's time by pressing them into a conversation, only to tell them I knew they were scammers. They disappear quite quickly! I've always been honest with people I have chatted with...real people...when I wasn't seeing enough to want to continue conversing. Polite, kind, and I think that feeling has been pretty much mutual and the other parties appreciated the approach. Anyone else want to chime in? I've not been at this very long, but I did spend some time checking out a couple sites long before I was ready to date. Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bear Tomás Posted February 21, 2016 Share Posted February 21, 2016 I had an engaged lady PM me on facebook with "you are so sexy". She is married now. lol (I usually only get hit on by Gay dudes.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donswife Posted February 21, 2016 Share Posted February 21, 2016 thanks Maureen , jeez this is hard enough without worrying about scammers I have always been a bit to trusting so this really helps I am not ready for online dating yet but always appreciate you all letting me know what lies ahead thanks again ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobFTC Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 Other scammer red flags: - they take their profile down (or it is removed by the site ) quickly - big change in language and grammar from first contact to regular e-mails (they usually hand off to another person!) - their location changes from their profile or first contact to later - any of their locations mention Nigeria, Ghana, Somalia, Turkey Most of these are NOT individuals, they are organized criminals. They have been dead easy for me to spot, fortunately. Take care, Rob T Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momtokam Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 Scammers.....What Maureen and Rob said, plus... They always have an excuse not to meet you, They are away on business for a few weeks, They are new to town, They are widowers, (sad I know, they think it will get them sympathy) They are pipeline engineers, They are gold merchants, They are quickly enamoured with you.... I like to waste their time too! And then report them. I tell them to send me a pic of themselves, on their trip, in front of a tourist attraction! They vanish right after that! 😁 I've had lots lately. 😨 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
serpico Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 They are pipeline engineers Have any of these guys ever offered to 'lay some pipe'? : Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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