TheWidowWhisperer Posted February 15, 2018 Share Posted February 15, 2018 There are times, not very frequently, that I miss him. I know how odd that must sound. I had a happy marriage and loved my husband very much and very well. But while I think of him always, I don’t exactly miss him. What I miss, really really miss, is being married to him... https://thewidowwhisperercom.wordpress.com/2018/02/13/a-house-is-not-a-home/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sojourner Posted February 15, 2018 Share Posted February 15, 2018 I can identify with alot of this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leadfeather Posted February 15, 2018 Share Posted February 15, 2018 I have had this same feeling. At first I missed her with all my being. Now 15 months out, I miss her but I miss what we built together as much or more. The trust and love that moved between us as we lived our average lives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheWidowWhisperer Posted February 15, 2018 Author Share Posted February 15, 2018 I have had this same feeling. At first I missed her with all my being. Now 15 months out, I miss her but I miss what we built together as much or more. The trust and love that moved between us as we lived our average lives. I'm new to this forum and not sure I'm posting a reply correctly but wanted to thank you for saying what you did. Missing a person seems so predictable and something I can find a way to live with, missing the life we shared seems unmanageable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted February 15, 2018 Share Posted February 15, 2018 I'm new to this forum and not sure I'm posting a reply correctly but wanted to thank you for saying what you did. Welcome to our forum. I think you are figuring things out. My experiences are somewhat different in terms of missing my husbands. I miss my first husband, but I don't miss the life I had with him - even though it was a good life. I miss my second husband a lot - as well as the life we had together. I miss the person I was with him, and the excitement and challenge he brought to me and my life. Each different...very different. Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted February 16, 2018 Share Posted February 16, 2018 Yes, so much. I do still miss him and again I miss US!! I miss the connection we had, knowing each other and being there for each other on so many levels to describe and I bet you all get it! Hugs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donswife Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 Yes I miss us ..so much The private jokes , the same sense pf humor and just the fact that someone had your back no matter what I could go on and on Thank for starting this post Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheWidowWhisperer Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Sometimes what I miss most was the ease. He felt like a second skin, and now (four years later!) I feel so exposed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peony Posted February 20, 2018 Share Posted February 20, 2018 "I feel so exposed" I truly feel this! I have never been able to yet again find that elusive feeling of 'home' that I once had. I never took him for granted, but I also never knew how much of 'Me' derived from the 'Us' that we had spent our whole life building. But it makes sense really. The 'Us' we all miss is so full & intricate and intertwined into every fiber of our being. How could we not miss the whole package? I can still have happy times of course, but I've never been able to have that feeling of ease and comfort in my soul that came from being loved and someone's partner! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toosoon2.0 Posted February 21, 2018 Share Posted February 21, 2018 My whole adult life was wrapped up in my relationship with my husband. I haven't missed him - brain cancer will do that to a relationship - but I also haven't found the same kind of terra firma and security I knew in my old life. I don't think I'll ever believe in the kind of stability I had with Scott again. It just doesn't seem possible to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Milojka Posted March 9, 2018 Share Posted March 9, 2018 Yes I do miss us a lot too. I feel very incomplete. Also I think I have issues with emotional self-reliance, now that that continuous stream of love between us has stoppped. I can't get used to it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stagger Onward Rejoicing Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 6 years out and what I miss is the two of us,supporting each other and being interested in each other. A friend of mine came to visit for a few days and while I had to work, it was great to come home to someone at the end of the day. It made me realize what I am missing. I miss coupledom, it is natural to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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