kflex Posted March 6, 2018 Share Posted March 6, 2018 Is reaching a place where you're just numb and totally apathetic to everything and everyone normal? I'm 7.5 months out since losing my husband, and I've found that most of the time I feel nothing now. I even went on a vacation with my kids and family to Mexico and felt absolutely nothing. No excitement to be there. Was a lot of work to pack and live out of a suitcase. It was nice to escape Wisco winter, and not have to go to work, but I couldn't even find happiness there. There are glimmers: I can take some joy knowing that my kids had fun, I wasn't a basket case, although I was sad because J was missing, but otherwise, I basically just moved my numbness from cold to warm. I'm afraid that by NOT feeling, I'm letting go. I don't want to be a walking, talking zombie. But maybe this is normal? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leadfeather Posted March 6, 2018 Share Posted March 6, 2018 Yes it is. Been there. Still go there on occasion. At one point I actually liked being numb because it was better than feeling all the feelings I was feelling. Accept it, process it, and you will eventually move through it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kflex Posted March 6, 2018 Author Share Posted March 6, 2018 Leadfeather, I know what you mean. I welcome it, because at least I'm not crying all the time. Or angry. But at the same time, I'm afraid not to feel. Sometimes i really think that I need to get off of my antidepressants, LOL. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mizpah Posted March 6, 2018 Share Posted March 6, 2018 Sounds very normal to me. The body and mind can't keep up that level of suffering. The numbness is confusing and strange, but definitely normal (for an abnormal situation). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MR Posted March 6, 2018 Share Posted March 6, 2018 It is normal. It might be another few weeks/month or a year before you feel little normal. We can never be same again as loss is deep. Hugs Manoj Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twin_mom Posted March 7, 2018 Share Posted March 7, 2018 While it is a normal stage many of us cycle through, since you mentioned antidepressants in a later post - make sure you're on a correct dose/ a med that works for you. While I didn't take antidepressants when I became widowed, I did for my PPD after giving birth to the twins and started feeling very apathetic like you described, cutting my dosage really helped because while I wasn't feeling such severe lows, I wasn't feeling the highs either anymore on the higher dosage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beth_krkswidow Posted March 8, 2018 Share Posted March 8, 2018 Absolutely one hundred percent normal. So so sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bunny Posted March 11, 2018 Share Posted March 11, 2018 So normal. I remember in my first year a friend took me to an animal sanctuary (because I love animals) and I got to bottle feed baby deer, hand feed strawberries to a turtle, and pet a capybara. I felt nothing. I feel like I should add: it will be 6 years June 11th and - at this point- any one of those aforementioned activities would have me over the moon with joy. So, yeah, apathy is part of the journey but it is by no means the final destination. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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