I am also new here, having lost my DH on July 23, completely unexpectedly and out of the blue . I can relate to how you're feeling perfectly, as I feel exactly the same way.
We had so many plans, so many dreams, and we were just so happy. I don't think we even realized how strong and special our bond was, though all of our friends did. With his sparkling blue eyes and warm smile how could our bond be anything other than incredible. Now, after 25 years I have lost my soul mate, indeed my everything.
Like yourself, I am feeling like I have completely lost myself in all of this. I have a strong, supportive group of friends, but now that I am past the month mark many of them are starting to seem uncomfortable with how shattered and completely bereft I am. (How could I not be...he was my everything and now he is gone and I am all alone, for the first time in my life).
To top it all off, my FIL, MIL, BIL and SIL have started to distance themselves from me, whereas in the first three weeks they were all super supportive and had indicated that we would all get through this as a family; guess I didn't know that I no longer truly fit their definition of "family." They are my only family in this Province (I'm Canadian). They do try to pretend otherwise but when I don't hear from anybody for a week and check in to see how they are and get "we're fine" and nothing else, it's pretty clear. Today I have to go and try to "keep it together" so that I don't "spoil" my FIL birthday dinner.
Now I am rambling, and have high-jacked your post somewhat. I'm sorry. I had meant to just say that I understand how you're feeling and where you're coming from as I'm at almost the exact same place myself.
Thank you to everybody here. From what I've read so far I know that being able to share with you all, who seem to understand completely the sense of emptiness one feels at this time, is going to be so very welcome...and helpful.
MB