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I totally get it MJJ. It can get very frustrating at times. Take your break and maybe you will feel up to it at a later date. I've had a few offers to introduce me to people they know but it never really materializes. When I asked for an update once, they said they didn't want to feel bad if it went south. I'm a grownup, I can handle it!

Welcome Love2fish. Wishing all the luck that she is your last girlfriend. This on line dating thing is definitely not easy but very entertaining at times! I'm sure you have more to add here from your experience. I started this thread out of frustration but it has evolved to much more, bringing a few laughs as well, along with some good wisdom!

Klim, I'm at 4 1/2 years. I'm not sure why, but I seem to be ok with not knowing my new life plan. I used to be a planner and needed to know everything way in advance. Now the only planning I need to do is around my kids, their schedules, and how I can get some me time. After that, I'm ok with what that may mean. I hear different perspectives. Some feel you need to have your wants and goals set ahead and work towards them. Some go with the flow. I seem to be on the go with the flow group right now and I am ok with that. I am a generally happy person as well and I think that helps with this.

Thanks Momtojandj. 😊 It will be date 3 actually, or 4 if we squeeze in another lunch this week. Bumble is exactly like tinder except that when you get a match, the woman has to be the 1st to communicate and it must be within 24hrs. It's hit or miss, just like the rest. I see many of the same faces! Have fun with it. 😁

I'm sorry....😔 Maybe he will redeem himself. Don't message him first though. Mr Bumble took until tonight to contact me after our Thursday lunch. We now have a date set up for next week. I told Mr Tinder that he wasn't for me. I knew it was the right thing to do.

Yay momtojandj! I guess your reaching out got his attention! I hope you are having a good time. 😊 So, the one who has a hard time getting to the meet stage had 2 dates today! My goodness! Never would have believed I could do that. Both were second dates with both men. Breakfast with Mr Tinder was good. So much chemistry but we are just so different, past and present! I told him about my hesitations. He is still persuing me. He likes me a lot. We are both looking for more so I just have a hard time seeing this as a future. Lunch with Mr Bumble was also very nice. Complete gentleman, paid the bill without hesitation. I just can't get a read on his interest level. Saying goodbye does not lead to a request to see me again, just a friendly hug. I text to thank him afterwards and say I enjoyed myself. I get a nice likewise type message back. He is not texting in between to chat or call. It was like that after date 1 but then 2 days later came the request to take me to lunch. I wonder if he is like my minimal texter from way back, who still pings me with "Hey theres" every so often. I wish dating was easier! I'm too old for this!

Any news Momtojandj? I have lunch tomorrow with Mr Bumble. 😁 And maybe a mid morning date with Mr Tinder. 😮 You just have to laugh at all this on line craziness! I've never had dates with 2 men on one day! Goodness!

Momtojandj, I may go against the norm here. He did put it out there that you could call him too. Lots of things can come up and he could have gotten busy or distracted. I see nothing wrong with you reaching out this once, just to show him you have some interest. It's not like you don't know who he is, if he's a scammer, yada yada, or all the other things on line can bring on. Sometimes guys need a little budge. An example is Mr Bumble. We matched and chatted a bit there. Exchanged numbers and talked. He went quiet for a few days and then I texted to say a quick hi, how is your day. That led to him asking for a meet date. That went well. I texted to say I had a nice time and we exchanged some laughs. At that point I left it in his court. It took a couple days but he came back and asked me to lunch later this week. I do understand the whole let the guy chase you but I also feel that there is nothing wrong with showing some interest back. Take this as you see, if it works for you. I am definitely no expert here!

I need to be pulled in close, my face held and have a man whisper in my ear and tell me what he wants to do to me....

I have tried Bumble. It's hit and miss and not much different than Tinder. Although, you do get a fuzzy glimpse of who has swiped on you on your messages page. It's sometimes easy to tell based on the colours of the image. Sadly most of these are not of interest for me. I have met a couple and chatted with a bunch but nothing of value yet. Don't take it personally. It's just the nature of the beast. I forgot to add. Even if you match and you send a message they don't always respond. They may also unmatch you. I had one this week unmatch me mid sentence! I was typing and he vanished! Get some manners people! It's all part of the game I guess.

Keep laughing M2j&j! It's all you can do! Those must be the old profiles they use for bait maybe too. I have found many of the opposite too. Profile says 50 and then they say they are 30 but like older women!

Needy, Regarding this match guy.... You have not met him yet. He has no business asking you what you have or have not told your kids. You decide what and when you tell them. I've talked to lots of men before meeting and you know nothing for real about them until you meet. IF you do meet AND you feel you may want to continue, only then can you have those kinds of conversations.

Sending hugs NT. 4 1/2 years here. I am OK, the kids are OK. Do I have the answers to this new life? Nope!

Ms here too. Mrs doesn't seem right anymore, especially if I am trying to date. To me Mrs says still married and I'm not. I teach also and I go by Ms. I feel it's more ambiguous and no one needs to know what my martial status is. I also mark widowed if the option exists. It's what I am.

I can only imagine! Hahahaha!!!

Well, apparently I am not totally equipped with the tools to help with SOME of the things I am needing. 😁 It seems a friend has taken it upon herself to priority mail me some things for my birthday....It will be quite entertaining to see what arrives! 😎

Don't take it personally Needytoo.... It is what it is.... And Klim is right about the logging off.

March break will depend on if we decide to take off for a couple days. Still hopeful for a few days away.

Probably March will be better, at least for me.

Klim, I personally believe that sometimes love can happen quickly and in the most unexpected ways. But, it's harder if you are feeling pressured, even if the pressure comes from you. Maybe without your reservations you would feel differently. Try and take the pressure off yourself. If he is ok with waiting, then you should be too. Try and enjoy what it is now and try not to forward think.

Thanks Mrskro! I went looking for comfy dancing shoes and I bought those! I danced all night with them so not bad! I had a lot of fun! My dancing is getting much better too. 😊

Well, I was supposed to have a date with my ghoster last night.... Since I had childcare prearranged, I tried to get some friends to go out and do things. Everyone was busy! I then get a call from a meetup friend, to join him at a valentine dance. So my sexy Saturday night consisted of dancing with some sexy shoes! 😁

I don't understand what's wrong with these guys. Bad taste AND bad manners? Geez. Hugs. Take care, Rob T Thanks Rob. No taste at all! His loss! 😊

Well, it seems I haven't learned much in the last year and a half since I started this thread. I just got ghosted again. This time we had actually met and were getting along famously, or so I thought. Then boom, complete silence. One minute he is ready to bring me chicken soup because I am sick and then the next day POOF! I am a trusting person. It's who I am. I don't want to be jaded. I don't want to change who I am. But Geez! Seriously? What is wrong with people? What happened to treating others the way you want to be treated? I know this is a regular thing these days and I have to understand it's not me. But I don't want to be guarded with everyone I meet. I hate that this is what it has come to. I just want to be me. Now I feel I can't. Honestly, I'm not sure I even want to try again. I'm fine, I'm strong. I have survived a lot worse. It just sucks though!!! End of rant.....

I personally would not put up with any of this We deserve more.