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My hormones are not playing fair..... The skin hunger is driving me nuts!

I am very much like you klim. I can talk to anyone and it can get longer than expected without realizing, very easily sometimes. I take that as a positive. That is one hurdle you have jumped. You two can commicate well together. If it was a fun night, go out again. See if you get any more indications that he could become boyfriend material. I try to give it a second go if the first meet was pleasant but no sparks flew right away. Sometimes sparks flew the second time and sometimes not. You can then decide. It's hard to know sometimes and more time may be needed. It really depends on the people and personalities involved. Good luck.

It's so obvious to me now, but not in the beginning. I had not dated in 26 years and never on line. I had no clue at all. I consider myself somewhat smarter than the average bear but I didn't know anything about on line sites. I didn't know it wasn't normal for someone not to want to meet right away. I was vunerable and lonely and chatted way longer than I should have, being drawn in by the attention. I am also a very trusting person. The second the "I need a favour" came up, I knew, and I felt so stupid. It was about 3 weeks in. I woke up pretty quick after that. I just wish someone had educated me on all this baloney. This is what I am hoping to do here. I don't want anyone wasting their time with these predators. I do at times mess with them as well. In my mind, I hope I am wasting their time, so they can't prey on the more vunerables ones. It can also be quite entertaining as well.

I wanted to wish all my American wids, who celebrate, a very Happy Thanksgiving today. May you find some peace and give thanks, even though it may be very hard. Hugs to all.

Awesome Mrskro!

http://youngwidowedanddating.com/2016/11/06/scammers-target-your-heart-then-wallet/ I just wanted to put this out here, in its own thread. Scammers are everywhere and sadly widows are huge targets. Please be careful.

Flip flops only if you want frozen toes! Yonge and Finch work for me. I am in the north east end of the city. I am open to anywhere as well. Anyone else interested?

Soooo.... Talked on the phone with someone Friday during the day. He asked to meet for a coffee on Saturday afternoon and I agreed. He said he would text to confirm plans. Heard nothing until Saturday 9:30 pm. I didn't reply until early this morning. Told him my day was busy (described my legitimate reaons) but I could meet around 1pm. Heard nothing until 12:10 when he said he could meet today as he was off work. At this point I'm in the middle of other things and offered 4pm and a nice place to meet. At 1:15 I get....I am going to the gym.I've no idea when I will be done Seriously? I replied perhaps another time....I was being polite. I wanted to just say Bye Bye! Sigh.....

Will do. I've tried to arrange a Toronto get together a couple of times before, but have not had much luck. What area of the city would be a good meeting point for you? You can PM if you are more comfortable.

Hi MR I have a nutty schedule these days but would be open to a meeting if the timing works.

It's a scary thought to know you are the only parent your kids have left. Initially I felt a huge fear I would die and they would be alone. It has subsided as time goes by. I always had a feeling I would die first and young. My dad died at 47 of a heart attack. I wasn't sure I would make it past 47. I was 47 when I became widowed. My husband was 49. Then I thought I wouldn't make it past 49. Crazy thoughts I know. Now at 51, I feel less fear. It's still there in the background but not as strong as it used to be.

Entire first message...... "Uh" Not even sure what that means!

Thanks ladies. This same gentleman (using the term loosly) attacked my 12 reasons not to meet me profile on Match, which I posted right before my membership expired. He obviously has zero sense of humour! POF does seem to be a busier site here. I've been inundated with messages. No time to go through them all!

So.....I decided to try POF after shutting down my previous profile on OKC. I went out with a friend last night and he mentioned it. I tried a short profile, just to see what would happen. It leads with.... "This should be interesting! I have been told that this site leads to actual relationships. I am not convinced! Care to prove me wrong? I love to laugh and banter....It feeds my soul! Are you up for the challenge?" And this is what I get..... "As a Teacher you would have a basic understanding of psych - to have a negative as your preamble and indicate a reverse onus that someone else here prove otherwise... would that attract the man with qualities in which you seek... one of which being intelligent...? Something to consider... all the best..." And this was my reply.... "I see you have not taken my preamble in the lighthearted, humourous, and flirty nature that it was intended. You can't please everyone. Pointing out someone's "flaws", which you have done before to me, on other sites, is not a way to attract the woman with qualities in which you seek... Good luck in your search." Sigh....

Imissdow, I believe for the right person, we can figure out how to make the time. It's the steps leading up to that point that can be the hardest. Why can't Mr Right just land at my door step already? Is that too much to ask? 😁

"If you want to meet me down here we can hang out at my place I can meet you I can come out and get you so you feel safe." Thank you....What a perfect way to make me feel safe for a very first meeting. 😕

So very happy for you! 💖

Yes! It's funny, this is one scam I have not received. The "widowed engineers" seem to target me! I disabled my profile again. I'm so frustrated by the whole on line thing.

Oh my goodness...... Another widower engineer is contacting me. I'm giving him a small chance to see of he's real but I'm not holding my breath! Updated to add he's another scammer, shock of shocks! Thank you reverse image search!

Yes, be honest and tell him how you feel. He may or may not feel the same and you need to be ready for either. Wanting and needing sex, cuddling, chatting, and companionship is completely normal and ok. Have you ever discussed what the relationship is? What you expect from each other? It's better to know up front and then if things change, be up front with that too. You need to be comfortable with whatever it is. If it's not the same needs on both sides then it will lead to someone's heart bring broken. It's just inevitable. Yes, you may lose some incredible sex and companionship if he doesn't feel the same way and you end it. But would you rather get hurt even more further down the road? Not an easy situation at all but you need to guard your heart. You come first. Remember that.

It's been 4+ for me and I feel the same way as you. I dated someone for almost a year, mostly every other weekend. It didn't work for a variety of reasons. Dabbled in dating here and there since, mostly from online, nothing to write home about. Attempted a very long distance relationship and learned I couldn't do that either. I need someone close to me. When or if someone special may happen, I have no clue. I'm tired of it too. Tired of doing everything on my own, but tired of looking too. I know I'm not used to it. I don't think I have offered any advice, but wanted you to know I completely understand.

Me too!

Sometimes cell phone searches can yield a lot of info and other times nothing. I try to wait a few messages before giving a cell to weed out the crazies, like the one above who gave his and asked me to text. I waited a few messages and I'm glad I did!

Boy, changed one word in my profile and activity goes crazy. ... More giggles..... Him- Hi. Yes. You. Have hot. Legs. I like. All. Of. You. Xxxx. Today - 8:02pm Him- What's. Your. Name. Today - 8:07pm Him- Why. Are. Not. Talking. To. Me Today - 8:10pm Him- Ask. Me. Aim. Very. Nice. Guy. Italian Today - 8:18pm Me- I. Can. Read. Whole. Sentences. Too. Today - 8:29pm Him- Ok. Good. Let's. Meet. For. Coffey. Say. Yes. Today - 8:32pm Edited to add that after a few messages, where he continued his "full stop" approach, and looking at my profile 30 times, and still asking questions that are spelled out in my profile....He asks what kind of men I date. I asked what do you mean? He said White. Men. Or. Black. Men. I replied.... I. Found. Your. Last. Question. Offensive.

Soooo....he didn't give up! 😁 Him- you lost my number...I want to hear you laugh Me- xxx-xxx-xxxx Him- lol...so text me...I signing off... Him- wow...still waiting...lol Me- Really? Hmm....