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It sounds like you feel he's out of your normal comfort zone. It's good that you are relaxing more and getting used to it a bit though. Enjoy and see what happens.

I remember starting out in dating. I had no clue what to do. I wish someone gave me wise advice. This is just a first meet. Until you actually meet, you really can't know he is exactly what you are looking for. Please don't get invested until you know more. There are a lot of good men out there and others not so good. Take a deep breath, set up the meet, somewhere safe and public. Relax and enjoy yourself. If he is right for you, you will get an idea. You can arrange to see each other again and go from there. You can talk to others and meet them too. You do not need to commit to the 1st man you meet. It takes time to find the right one.

Seriously? He is 8!

Klim, How did your other relationship post wid, compare to all this? Is it a factor at all in how you are feeling now?

No, you are absolutely not being overly sensitive. Your son, your life. You are doing a great job parenting. Do not ever let a man or his children tell you otherwise. One of the reasons I ended my 1st post wid relationship was how the parenting was handled. He was a good dad and they were good girls but they had him wrapped around their little fingers and the ex was psycho and he gave in a lot. There was one final incident that made me realize that I did not want that around my life or my children. We had dealt with enough and did not need thiat drama in our lives. This is how I personally feel and I can't begin to understand your whole situation. Parenting style for me, is a huge part of a relationship. If I can't jive on this with my partner, I will not continue. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all this.

It feels great to laugh like that again, doesn't it SVS? I am smiling for you. 😊 You are a different person now, like we all are. The only wisdom I can share is to enjoy, and go with the flow. You never know what will or won't happen. If it doesn't go as you hope, you have learned that you are capable of enjoying someone new in your life. 😊

Took my younger two to see Sing. Thoroughly embarrassed them by singing and dancing during the movie! 😁 I'm Still Standing, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah.....

Big, Big Hugs ...

Big Hugs to you....

If he is truly interested, I hope he would understand. Stuff happens, especially with winter colds, kids, and childcare issues. I have had similar luck. We have talked on the phone a lot and have had video message virtual dates instead. It's pretty funny actually.

Momtojandj..... If I have met a repeater in person before though, and they claimed not to remember me, then that would be a no way!

Klim, You would think Match would be good in our area. Go figure!

Good luck with Match. I personally did not find it any better. If you signed up for 6 months, try and follow their rules so you can at least get the free additional 6 months if you need them. Lots of unreads and no responses, lots of same men that were on the free sites. Some different men. Scammers too, just like the free sites. I did connect with a familiar widower, in a very funny way, on there though. That alone was worth the rest of the craziness. As for the repeaters, if your pictures are new, I would expect that. If they are flipping through hundreds or more pictures, they won't remember. If it's someone you want to persue, ignore it, chat with them like they are new, and and see what happens. If it's not someone you want to persue, you can call them on it if you are in that kind of mood! 😁 Those conversations have been quite entertaining!

I'm so sorry you are going through this. In some ways this is a little similar to my first relationship post wid. I had posted about him trying to reconnect recently. He is still a mess and no further along than 2 years ago. Maybe further back. I learned so much about myself through that and I learned what I was capable of and what I truly wanted. The hurt sucks though. I'm so sorry.

SunshineFL, you are one lucky lady but.... He is one luckier fella! 💓 Pipeline engingeer and all! 😁

Klim, "do the rest of you feel like online dating brings in a certain type of person?" I'm not really sure. Yes, there are lots of creeps, married people, losers, those that have no intention of ever meeting, those you think couldn't find a date any way else. But, then there are us. We are none of the above. Maybe there are less of us but we are there. Is it just harder to find those like us because there are less of us? It's hard to meet people in real life. At least for me. Single men my age just don't appear in front of me daily. I've been trying to meet people off line. I went Salsa dancing a few weeks ago and I went to a singles dance last weekend. No luck. I have more funny stories though. I may post them here soon! Needytoo, I have had the same reaction when I asked a few people to set me up. Initially they loved the idea and then they felt uncomfortable in case something went wrong. This blind date yesterday was from my hairdresser's daughter. Long story but she was so sweet and excited about it! Ironically I find her brother very intriguing but he is 10 years younger than me and I never saw it as an option. Yesterday she told me he just started dating someone 1 year older than me! Go figure!

Needytoo, If he is asking advice about his girlfriend, cut him loose. You do not need that drama in your life. You deserve more. You deserve the real deal. This is not it. Nothing overly inspiring to share. My profiles are all still hidden so no funny material for you. I am getting to know my no fishing, no camping guy. No clue if something will come of it or not yet. I did go on my first ever, set up/blind date, today. That was interesting. Very nice man. Older than I expected but did not look his age. No immediate spark but may consider another outing if it comes to that. I have not experienced getting to know more than one person at a time, so that could get entertaining!

ENFP here....

Up agaist a window? Ok! And the young studs? They want a cougar experience. There are obvious takers as it seems to be quite a thing! No thank you! I forgot to mention before. I saw you mentioned earlier about the hunting and fishing guys.... The man I just met got me with his headline... "No fishing, no camping" I was hooked! 😁

Rob, Sadly I have usually stopped responding if I am not interested. If I see a fabulous effort with real thought, I still will respond as a courtesy. I've had some backlash and it hasn't been worth it. Yes, concentrate on those that are interested and don't worry about the rest.

Needytoo, There is no rhyme or reason for picking who to write to. Different things get my attention depending on the profile. I also don't send out tons of messages. I am very selective. I have everything hidden, but on pof, messages still come through if you've been in contact before. I received a another message last week, from a persistent man too far from me. I went on to reply. While there, a profile caught my eye. Nice smile and funny headline, right up my alley. I added him as a favourite so I could find him again when I wanted to go back in at some point. Well apparently, once you do that, they can see your profile. I received a message back pretty quickly. We talked the whole week about everything and met Friday. We are still talking and arranging another date. My point is, I guess I can be pretty picky but sometimes something just stands out for me. It's not always the same thing. Be open and go with your gut, is the best advice I could give you.

Good luck and here's to it happening this time! Oh boy, the stories we could write! I have been tempted to start a blog. Writing these adventures out can be therapeutic sometimes.

Just keep trying needytoo....😊

Klim, I totally get the "This is too good to be true" feeling. It's so hard not to feel this. Most of the time it seems to be true. But, we have to try and think that sometimes it can happen. Are there any red flags worrying you, not letting you relax? Over thinking has been my specialty. I'm trying really hard to just go with the flow more. If it doesn't feel dangerous or overly worrysome, give the guy a chance. If you find yourself being too drawn in, too quickly, try and hold back a little. My specialty here too, so easier said than done. Maybe I'm trying to give myself some advice here too. (Very deep I know! 😁) And hey, of it works out, see if he has a friend for me! 😁(Kidding...maybe!)

I had a discussion about this very thing today. Not wrong at all when you have seen the same pattern over and over. I do believe that not everyone is like this though and the good ones, that will change this point of view, are out there. I am an optimist and always believe in the good in people. Sometimes this gets me burnt. I keep trying. I hope I can share a good story one day soon...