You know what, you continue to amaze me, I think I would be exhausted after half this list. Just fried, and sad too. These changes will be hard as you are finding out, beyond many other hardships in life, but look at what you have already lived through, you have buried your beloved, no move and divorce is gonna take you down.
Too bad I am states away from you, I rock at packing! I even did it for a living for a brief period in my life. I have no idea what your finances are, could you consider hiring some local movers to pack the POD? My boyfriend hired movers and they moved his entire apartment, out of one and into another, in just under 4 hours. That included appliances! Movers could just pack it and you could split. Maybe we could start a gofundme page for you to move! I'm in!
I can't relate exactly to what you are going through, yet I can relate to friends bailing and having to live through something exhausting and crappy. I know this sounds corny but when my list was so long as I was so alone and tired and just had absolutely no idea how I would make it through some events, I always told myself to keep my 'eye on the prize.' And that was my kids. At night when I laid down to go to bed, I would visualize that they were ok and I was still alive to take care of them, and that nothing else mattered really. I know things matter, our belongings matter and our martial status and legal battles and all of that but truly, I had no control over other people and the basement flooding and the fender bender I was being sued for and that my husband was gone and all the other things that were happening. It was so hard so I just did what I could and then remembered my kids and I were alive and in one piece, that's all I had left. My dearest friend reminds me of this once in a while.
I am so sorry your husband is begging you for whatever will make him happy - that has got to just add stress on this already crappy situation. And your friend? Telling you moving a kid from one school to another is selfish? Weird, everyone knows that is not true. If you take care of yourself and your boy, that is what matters. He is seeing his Mother change an unhappy and unhealthy situation and he will benefit from that.
SimiRed keep your eye on the prize and hug him tight. July will come, and then August and before we all know it, this day and these hardships will be your past.
