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Complicated grief - Never heard of it. Interesting read............ Thanks for sharing !

Hi, I have heard different points of views from males and females, whether females are more inclined to stay single when widowed but men seem a need for a partner because of X…. I am curious of your thoughts and reasoning. thx

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Hello, I have been widowed twice. My first wife of 24 years, passed away with G-bladder CA, 2 kids, so I was focused, no time for extended grief. My second wife, family friend who she lost her husband a few months prior to me loosing my wife. We evolved into something beautiful, more than either of us expected, living life as we both had a different outlook on life, lost her to GBS and a brain aneurysm. It will be 2 years this week. Still struggling. No regrets other than their life was cut short, nothing was left unsaid. Daily struggles, lots of unanswered questions, my thoughts are elsewhere most days, time does heal wounds but certainly not the scars. I have been truly blessed with 2 loves. -D

I have read what people have shared on widda with regards to feeling their loved one presence, and dreams but has anybody experienced, signs, scents, a movement you thought you might have seen from your peripheral vision when you look there is nothing, something out of place, an orb, something out of the ordinary…. It would be interesting to hear if anyone has experienced any of this.

Hi I ask due to my son is completing an in depth form and he was not sure if step sisters still apply.. thx

Hi T, Thanks for your feedback and I get it on the morally side and if the relationship is positive. What if the relationship is negative, legally that connection is no longer once the parent passes away as there is no connection? Have a great day. -D

Hi, I have a question and would like top hear any response good or bad. So if someone gets remarried and there is step kids (young adults) involved, if that parent passes away are they still your step kids and/or step brother or sister to your kids? I am referring to adult kids and not parenting your partners kids from a young age. I would love to hear what your thoughts are and the reasoning. have a great day ALL. Thx

Hello :-) I found this site by accident and I had read a lot of stories that I could relate to. Like most others I don't believe people truly understand grief unless one goes thru this life altering event. My opinion grief it is a form of PTSD. I have not posted much but reading others posts has helped me get thru those early days as I felt a connection that others are feeling the same. I check the site from time to time, read positive stories and unfortunately newbees who have found Widda. I have also come across some nice people on here with interesting conversations. We will all be forever changed that is without a doubt, every day we are able to deal with it a little better, for me I still have my days. One day I will have inner peace. I can make a choice of either get living or get dying I think I have done both. I still have lots of questions, but I did find some answers on this site. Also knowing I what I was going thru I was not only one. I realize we all have our issues in life but this event is traumatic to ones self. I have been blessed, I loved and was loved, for me this love still carries on but in a different way. Wishing everyone well.

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WW - Being creative plus both have their pros and cons - No wrong answer glasses or contacts hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm would that be daytime or night? I choose hands, one can always see better with their hands. Charcoal or Propane BBQ ?

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I have heard these comments many times. This is the second time, what are you doing to these girls? Can you add more names to your headstone? You had no much luck with girls. (Widowed twice) Does this mean the same girl died twice. This is the second time. You must be able to retire now. You can write a book on what to do There are likely others, but those are the top ones that come to mind -D

BH2 That is awesome news !!! Really nice to hear something positive and for people to step up for organ donations. Enjoy each day. Wishing you and your family all the best. -D

hi, Who said you have to emotionally attached, that will come naturally if it is meant to be. If you enjoy the moment, someone makes you smile, as I said how can that be wrong. If nothing else a new friend. we could always be in need of friends. You can still have your guard up, that may never go away, just enjoy the moment small steps, if it feels right, why not explore it We all know what we want that goes without a doubt, you will know when it happens. I am sure you do your due diligence and once you have all the checks and balances in order and that person puts a smile, and you actually get a response back to a question rather than the 4 walls we normally talk to with no answers.

hi, Love is tough, we all know what it was, but we are scared of tomorrows love. Love can come quickly or it may take time before you realize someone has wiggled into ones heart. We all know what it feels like when we get there. I get it, guarding our hearts but love can happen again, sure it can. We all have lots to offer and look at life differently, there is someone out there that looking for us we just need to cross paths. Once we analyze this new person and check them out, moving forward on multiple dates, as long as the couple is having fun, enjoying each other’s company, how could that be wrong???? if there are no red flags along the way, just keep moving forward who knows where it will go. This is part of the adventure. Yes it is tough, I get it, we don’t want to get hurt and we don’t want to hurt anyone as well but if there is a connection in anyway why not explore to see where it will go, who knows maybe it will turn into love. We need to be open to what life has to offer. We can live under a rock but is that living…. I will never forget my wives, but I will bring them on this great adventure. Life is not fair that is for sure. We are rebuilding and if we are lucky to find someone to put some joy back into souls. Every positive person we meet along the way is helping us rebuild. Rather than looking for love, keep going with positive people in our lives, love will happen. As we move forward follow our hearts it won’t let us down.

My first wife I am approaching 11 years in Oct and my second wife 15 mths. Still surreal and unanswered questions. One day at a time but 2 steps backwards from time to time. Grief is a strong emotion to deal with at times. Been blessed!!! Wishing everyone well.

Hello I just thought I would share a bit. I have been a back bencher for a while, I am widowed twice but also been truly blessed twice without a doubt. I have read many posts which I can associate with and I get it. We are all hurting in similar and different fashions, it is nice to see the support each of you have given to others. For me I have bad days and worst days, I share advice (outside this forum) to others but I don’t have the same tool set in my own case. Also I feel like two people, one for everyone else to show I am healing and moving forward yet when I am alone I am someone who is fighting the grief that sometimes consumes me. I have lots of answered questions, moving on will not likely happen but trying to move forward one step at a time. They say greater things may lie ahead but truly I just want what I had. My thoughts often are somewhere else. To share the sunrise and sunset with all that is in between is what I miss. I miss the spirit in her eyes, the sound of her voice, the love in her heart. Life is not fair that is for sure. Life is for the living, we are all heading to the same place it’s what we do in between that counts while we are here. I have looked at the same 4 walls for months and know if I continue in this manner I will rot away. Moving forward is difficult but I’ll bring them along with me on my journey as I know they are watching from another dimension. The love does not end, it continues in a manner that most people don’t understand. I am sure most of you know others who never experience love, in bad relationships, who never truly find their soul mate, how lucky are we to have experienced love. Yes our partner’s lives were cut short and it was not by choice, the ones they left behind carry a burden and we struggle with the lose. They say things happen for a reason, I may never know why or the life lesson this time. I question all my beliefs, trying to figure out who and what I am, tomorrow seems too far away as I am trying to get thru today. Trying to rebuild myself one day at a time. To love and be loved unconditional is awesome. I have no regrets knowing we did not leave anything on the table. Even our happy thoughts now are sad, I get it. Our hearts are broken out souls are lost but we must be kind to ourselves. No matter how hard it is, our loved ones are in our hearts, they give us guidance; we look forward seeing them in our dreams. Yesterday is part of today and tomorrow. I watch older couples how they are one, for me I believe my destiny is unlikely to experience this part of life, to hold her hand in mine and watch it grow old together. If I had known in advance the outcome, I still would have signed up without a doubt. They impacted my life as I would hope did with theirs. The pain we endure is the price we pay for love. What do I hope to achieve, for me is inner peace. I don’t know what added value I can have on others. I thank you all for sharing your stories.

Sorry LOST35 I did not realize you had posted on the same subject I just noticed now. Removed mine as I do not know how to delete the posting thx

hi, I totally get it but on the flip side imagine lots of people who don't experience love or in a bad relationship. I know this does not help. Our loved vones were taken away too soon and was not by choice. Wow to be loved and loved back, how awesome beautiful is that. To experience something not everyone does. For sure our hearts our broken our souls are lost but we also experienced something we cannot really put into words. The pain we endure is the price we pay for this tremendous love. Like you I see older couples holding hands, I think to my self I will never experience this. I also see relationships who are not joined at the hip and really don't get it. 2MQ

Mrskro - Sorry but that is 2 funny....