Brenda Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 My relationship with the girl who I literally could have seen myself staying with for the rest of my life? Yup, gone. I ended it. I started to see the beginnings of the things I (in hindsight, and through lots of therapy) despised about my long marriage, and I cannot let myself make the same mistake again. I tried to address it with the new girl, but nothing changed. So back to being single. Regrets? Yes. I would have preferred to have a great friendship (which we kinda had) with this girl instead of a quick fling. Now I have neither, and I needed a good friend. Trying to not let this send me back into the depths of a nasty depression, but it's just one more thing going wrong at the moment. Frustrating! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gracelet Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 Brenda, I've been there. I'm sorry it hasn't worked out. You have made a brave (and the right) move in refusing to make the same mistakes again. Repeating bad relationship habits isn't good for the soul and after what we've been through, and continue to go through, we need every positive bit of soul nurturing possible. My wife was horrible to me in so many ways. I have purposely looked out for any warning signs in my new relationship since I now have the benefit of hindsight. Find something to distract with. Mindfulness colouring in, learning how to use excel, painting your nails every few days, going to the gym - whatever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsDan Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 It doesn't sound like it was a complete disaster, it sounds like the opposite, that headed off what could have been a complete fucking disaster. Good for you for recognizing the issues and dealing with them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mizpah Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 Sounds like a great demonstration of clarity and strength. I admire it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TalksToAngels Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 You are stronger than me. I let a few toxic relationships go on way too long. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted January 6, 2016 Share Posted January 6, 2016 I'm sorry things didn't work out but good for you for recognizing and standing up for what you need. It's all a learning experience, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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