I attended many, many bagos in the first few years. Many were local or within a few hours, several were plane-flights away. Every one was valuable to me, but especially my first one, when I drove 3 hours and spent the whole weekend at a bed and breakfast with ladies I had only chatted with on the board. I remember I told NO ONE what I was doing and where I was going, because I was sure my family would think I had lost my mind. What a healing weekend! I was about 7 months out, but had only been on the board a month and a half. I am still friends with most of those ladies, and have gotten together with them at bagos many times since, and don't consider them my widda friends anymore... They are just really truly friends.