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(((CW and CW's son))) I experienced a similar situation with my son twice, both times involving an ambulance. One break required emergency surgery and several nights in the hospital while multiple friends shuffled the care of my other son then two months in a wheelchair. I felt helpless and I wept unable to take away his pain. Life came to a screeching halt and I felt so very alone. It was my first big test since losing DH, but it strangely gave me strength because we got through it and it brought us closer. Hang in there and look for opportunities you can enjoy in his temporarily-disabled state. abl

That's exactly what I was trying to say stated in a more eloquent fashion. Thanks, my fellow hussy abl

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I'm in! abl

((Trying)) I have had almost that exact same dream where it turns out DH wasn't really dead and I had to choose between him and Ex-BF (who wasn't an Ex at the time). In my dream it was a no-brainer (DH) but I still felt a great deal of guilt and remorse over leaving BF (isn't that ironic...) It is unsettling to say the least. You know though that in reality your husband would be exceedingly proud of all the decisions you have made. abl

I am so sorry, AW. My heart aches for you and your family. abl

If you discover some effective teen Love & Logic strategies, please share!!!!!!!!! Rob, you're a great father for many reasons but in this instance because you're not giving up. Keep up the good work. abl

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Thank you guys for getting me through a real low. Being out of town with my family made me all the more anxious. I'm doing a bit better now and trying to focus on the new guy I've been seeing (that'll be a new post ) abl

Happy birthday to your daughter. Having two adult children that want to spend that day with you, you and Cindy have done good. abl

Guaruja is very wise when he says... "No matter what, you're taking a risk when you fall in love with someone. You're risking losing someone you count on, whether it's by death, betrayal or other circumstances. Most people believe that the reward is well worth the risk." My advice would be to let things develop with this guy. abl

Dreams like that rattle me and I feel shaken for several hours. I hope you were able to shake it off and enjoy the rest of the weekend! abl

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RWS, I would just be honest with him and tell him exactly what you said here: that you are grieving your husband and not dating. That shouldn't offend him and shouldn't make future encounters uncomfortable as it isn't about rejecting him but stating that you simply aren't interested in any other man. abl

TS, In this day and age of instant gratification, my advice to you is to keep your eye on the ball. Life #3 is there for you when all pieces are ready to be properly placed in the puzzle; when that day arrives, the years will pass by with your beloved as they should and you will scarcely remember life #2 and the anguish it entailed because you will have already done all the work to make life #3 a success. Hugs, abl

I get it completely. abl

What a sad situation. I totally get what you're saying. abl

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You don't suck and you aren't a crap mother. Far from it actually, you rock. Next time how about inviting a friend? They can watch the movie and you can sit in the lobby with a book. abl

((Trying)) I hope you are feeling better. I am the queen of irrational worrying. I don't do it often, but when I do I'm ridiculous. My kids travelled (domestically) during the Ebola scare and I was completely wacko prodding them constantly with hand sanitizer. I actually said "have you heard of Ebola?!?" when they rejected my 95th squirt. I think the media does play into it heavily so yes, turning it off can help. My go-to coping mechanism is exercise. I actually put my son in the baby jogger and went for a run as the news was coming in about the 9/11 attacks. As a bonus, if you go with exercise, you don't have to worry about the ice cream afterward abl

Congrats SB! This definitely sounds like a great move for your family. I expect it to be tough to transition but it sounds like you have a lot of support and energy! abl

I don't get it either, and frankly I don't respect it. I have never ultimately hated someone I once loved. abl

I get it. Sometimes my life feels surreal. Hugs, abl

I'm so sorry. It's been said you can prepare for your loved one to die, but certainly not for him to be dead. Hugs, abl