ladybug

Thank you for posting. I understand every word you said. This will be my 9TH summer with out my husband. It doesn't seem possible that so much time has passed. I still get days that I miss him so very much. I don't tell any one in the real world, but I still cry sometimes when I am alone, because I miss him so much. Thank you everyone for sharing.

Rain.....love the world after a good rain. Coke or Pepsi......

This will be my 9TH summer has a widow. I feel a deep void sometimes. It is not something I feel daily or even weekly, but it is still there. I am going to look around for a therapist that can help me deal with it. I want to sit down and talk about being a widow, to someone that won't tell me to not talk about such things. I think about him every day, even after all these years. There is an old saying that rings so very true.....THE DAYS ARE LONG, BUT THE YEARS ARE SHORT.

I think 2 weeks is a good time frame to text and phone.....after that if they don't want to meet, something is off.....but that is just my opinion. A few months ago I wasted a month out of my life waiting to meet a guy.......long story short he was "not a good guy". I learned the hard way......this is just my opinion. Best of luck to all of us that do the online dating......

She sounds like she is not well.....I don't know what to say....so very sorry you have to deal with this from her.....

This summer will be my 9TH without my husband. Thank you for posting. I totally understand what you mean about being OK. Thanks again.

I understand how you feel. This summer will be my 9th without my sweet husband. Some days are a lot harder than others. Hope you are feeling better today. HUGS.

Birthdays and other special days are always the hardest for me too. Sending you good vibes to get through the month.

Thank you for sharing this beautiful story. I have had a few "visitation" dreams. They usually give me hope for a future. I still miss my husband very much, but I know he would want me to be happy. Thank you very much for sharing......it gives me hope.....thanks.

Thank you very much for sharing. I have found that time marches on and on. Not sure where the time goes. I like the idea of being good to yourself on the anniversary of that sad day. My anniversary is coming up soon....I will take your lead and do something that I will enjoy. Thank you for the ideas......HUGS.

At the grief support group I was in, the LEADER said to me that I was young and that I would get another husband. This was less than a month into my grief. I was shocked beyond words....I said nothing back to her. I don't understand why some folks say such things to a widow or children.....so very hurtful are their words to all of us in grief. So sorry that many of us here had to heard all these kinds of words in our time of raw grief.

Thank you for sharing.......you are so right, no one really knows how alone we really are.....I hide my loneliness, because no one would really understand. This is my 8TH Christmas without my sweet husband. I have not told anyone that I still miss him so very much. I still love him with all my heart. They would just say something is wrong with me to still miss him......no one gets it unless they are a widow. Thank you for sharing.

Thank you for sharing this information.

I went out with this guy ONE time......he then thinks he is my "boyfriend". He even came by my work to talk about us..... I had to finally call the cops to have him removed. I felt bad doing that, but he didn't take no for an answer. He started to sound dangerous to me......so glad he is finally out of my life. Sorry we have to go through these things. There are some really good men out there, I just have to keep looking. I am not giving up on love.

HAPPY HOLIDAYS to all.

I understand the feeling of not being unhappy, but not happy either.......hope that makes sense.....thanks for sharing.

Thank you for sharing. This will be my 8th Christmas without my husband. I too have gotten accustomed to the way it feels to live in this world without him.

I looked in a store mirror this afternoon and noticed how much I have aged. Being tired has taken its toll.

After so many years there are no first left. It is all bittersweet.

Stripes with plaids on an interview..... take out fast food OR eat in fast food

This is just my opinion.....take from it what is helpful to you and disregard the rest.. I think when we get into a FWB situations we end up getting hurt very badly. As women we usually develop strong feelings for men we have sex with. It is just how our body, mind and spirit is make. It is not easy to be a widow.

Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate. I am very thankful for being healthy and for having a job that I can go to every day. I am also very grateful and thankful for all of you here. Thank you for this board.

I love that quote....thank you for sharing it with all of us. I miss my husband more than I could say. I wish I could spend one more day with him. I dream of him often and when I do we are always young again........I love those dreams so very much.

I now know that life is short. Each day counts.....but I didn't know that before I was a widow. I often wish my husband could come back and visit me, so I could tell him all that I understand now. I would like to tell him how much I have learned. Thank you for reminding me that each day we have is important. Wishing you a good day.

Just wanted to say that I truly understand what you are saying and feeling. I miss my sweet husband more than I could ever put into words. Sending you healing thoughts for the day ahead.