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Hey arneal, thanks for asking . Busy as heck! I went to the court house and got the info on the owner of the complex, sent a letter with the statues, pictures of the place, and stating how much money I expect back on the day of the walk through or I will go forward with a law suit against all of them and win! Oh some of the pics showed snapshots of the text msgs from his staff harassing me and cussing me out! I sent it overnight with signature requested, If he is a smart man, I'm sure he will give me my money! The neighbor moved, but profusely apologized to me several times before he left. He also left his place a disaster, LOL. He lived there for 13 years, and looks like he didn't take hardly anything out of there, or hardly ever cleaned that place, and now the jerk of a mgr./landlord is stuck having to clean it out , ha ha ha.... My daughter hasn't been any help, so I decided to hire help where I could afford to. and I have only pots and pans left to pack. Then on the 27th I pick up a small moving truck and movers will be here to load it and then meet me at daughters to unload it into the sheds I had put up there over a year ago. Then I load my clothes in my auto, and do a quick vacuum wipe down of the bathroom, which is cleaner then when I got it, and do the check off with the asst. mgr. Turn over keys, and hopefully get a check, and leave. Pick up my sister next day at airport and start driving north, whoo hooooo!!!!!! How's that for an update? Glad you are doing well, and girl if that is spells you go through, then most of us are right there with you LOL... Let's gather round the cauldron, he he he..... so a kitty would be the purrfect pet🐱

We now live in a world where "women" have had enough of cutting people some slack for their bad behaviors! It's time for these people to learn how to act appropriately with others and when they don't then to be spoken to about it . Also we little oh women are sick and tired of being knocked down for putting up with these ignorant behaviors towards us when we don't just brush them under the rug for men and their jobs so they can be kept so superior in society. When we make a mistake then fix it, learn from it and do better. Lets all make this a better world.....

Slack??? really? You say you work in a field with the public, then I say learn some tact! Especially now that you have been through this yourself..... just saying😏 Maybe an "I'm sorry to hear that", then move on to the business at hand...

NO, it wouldn't be worth your time or the tissue you wipe your behind with! When I went to our bank to deposit an insurance check one of the head tellers said to me , "your not going to spend this are you?" So I responded to her and her ignorance with , " tell you what it's a check for my husband dying, you can have it if I can have my husband back!" Let me tell you everyone turned and looked at her like she was the dumbest person in the world, and she turned the reddest I have ever seen! It took her over 2 years before she would speak to me again. So if you still bank there , just look at him everytime like what's wrong with you? yet with a smile....

Thanks arneal I'm so stressed and worn out from all this crap! I have the right to leave this place, it is NOT a prison camp, or a jail! I don't get why this landlord/manager and his assistant won't leave me the hell alone. If he sees me going to the mail box , he comes out and starts following me down to the mail box! It has gotten so bad that I now don't take my trash out until 2 in the morning, and check my mail then! For heavens sake that is putting me in danger! He has another tenant, an older weird man stand across from my apartment stand and stare at my place. Now when I see him out there I open my door and start waving at him, he gets all embarrassed and starts walking away! The police department here are not any help, so don't know what I can really do. The elderly lady across from me is trying to watch for me, but he has told her he's going to raise her rent cause he thinks he can get more rent because of a new business that came to this area. That's illegal and there are laws and statues against that! I'm calling a thrift store tomorrow to come and get my furniture, giving it all away, just so I can get out of here. I feel like I'm giving my life away 😪, At least I have somewhere to store my personal belongings that I can come back and get in a year, now I just got to get the heck out of here, and get that letter sent to the owner of this complex!

So I see the guy next to me this morning who will be moved out Monday, and step out to say bye to him and let him know I've enjoyed his conversations and will move my automobile for his moving truck. He then says thanks, but he doesn't want to chat with me anymore because the landlord approached him saying I went around talking to and about everyone! HOW STUPID AND CHILDISH! I don't know but 3 people here and don't do crap like that! He went on to say he has been here for 13 years and wants to leave peacefully, and I said it never happened but I totally understand and wished him well. I have a certified letter going out Monday to the owner of the complex showing the harassment, breaking of the laws, and breech of lease by his management. Demanding my prepaid rent back when I vacate on the 28th or I will precede with a lawsuit! I sighted several statues as well! Sending a few pics of the place in bad condition and not ready as promised and some pics of the nasty text from his staff as well, that will show the acts of harassment and intimidation by them! I will be so glad to get the hell out of here!

So I see the other guy on the other side of me last night. He lives on the very end of the building. These are single story 2 bedroom apts. He tells me someone hit his brand new car the same night (sunday night) right by his driver side mirror! Like they punched it! Oh he is moving out too!!! Coincidence? I think NOT..... I am counting the days, but I have to be honest the stress is really starting to get to me and making me sick. My daughter is of NO help. So I am in this all alone in this by myself but I will get through it, I am determined to make it damn it My sister and her man have their plane tickets to fly in on the 29th of aug. and we will leave from the airport to start driving north from there, stop for the night and be at their place the next evening. She has taken a week off of work for us to spend time together, and I'm really looking forward to really reconnecting. Thank You All for your Love, kind words, and Support! It really has always meant so much to me, and I couldn't have made it without you. xoxoxo That doesn't mean I'm leaving, lol....

Well I go out to my vehicle this morning, and the landlord is my neighbor. I notice that someone has hit my vehicle! More than likely it was the landlord because he is the one who parks next to me! The damage is not horrible, yet I noticed it. It's right at the gas cap, and he had backed in his truck which he NEVER does! He has taken out a lamp post here in the complex and another post of some sort. The problem is I didn't see him actually do it, so I don't think I can really say anything. At least that is how it pretty much works here in the state I'm in! I just can't wait to get the hell out of here...

It's all good arneal! I've made up my mind that God is giving me a BIG message and by gosh I am listening! If it means I have to walk away from that money to have a better, happier, more joyful life, then it's worth it!!! Sometimes we just have to let go and let God! And I am ready, you all hear me It's just money, and knowing in my heart that God will take care of me and truly believing this , I'm moving , and moving towards a better life....

Life is funny, isn't it? Yesterday afternoon I get a text from landlords asst. asking if I reported him to fire marshal. and she will be meeting with the fire marshal and finding out who called. Well first of all she can't legally go around asking people who reported anything on this slumlord and she can't be telling us tenants who we can and cannot talk to in this complex! I found out 5 people are moving out of a complex that has 32 units, wonder why? But now I can't trust they won't come into my apartment when I'm not here. At least I have the assistant saying these things in text, and I will use it in court if I have to, sheesh, always something isn't it? They are crazy, kooky for cocoa puffs crazy, harassing , and stuff, not fixing stuff, letting things get run down, just awful. No matter, I'm out of here. Oh and sorry arneal for not saying where my update was and thanks RAM for putting it up there

Way to go Toosoon2.0, and a big Congrats to your daughter too! (((hugs))) your an AWESOME mother! 😊 BTW, no such thing as small victories, they are all big and count! And they all deserve to be validated!

Happy 4th to all of you. Hope you will read my latest update in the general section, it's quite exciting! The only down fall is my landlord is being awful to me, but every time I've asked to have anything fixed or done here he has cussed me out and has gone as far as to call me a fing bitch and threatened to throw me out after only being here one month! I even said I was willing to relinquish my deposit and a months rent for breaking my lease, plus gave a 60 day notice and not the typical 30 day notice. He started cussing me out about the neighbor moving and then myself moving, but damn he's a slumloard, and if you read my update in general , no matter what, I"M GOING! If I have to sue, then to court we go. My daughter in law will get power of attorney and do the court stuff for me. I WILL WIN Anyhow, HAVE A GREAT 4TH ******

beautiful quilt! I'm a quilter and just remember to NEVER put it in the dryer, not ever!!! That way it will last forever.... And NEVER put your bras or boobs in there either, that way they will stay perkier longer, he he he he, or so I've heard..... Had to share that one HAPPY 4TH EVERYONE !

thanks laurie27, and yes it is

Thanks RAM and jennybug . I have to admit that I'm scared, but excited too. But I also know that I have to be the change I want to see and be! There no longer is nothing here where dh and I had a life together. The longer I stay, the more depressed I become and that is no life for anyone! I'm to old to be young and to young to be old, and no one is going to live this life for me except me. Also the job market is SO much better there, and I have a better chance of getting the health issues taken care of better without quacker doctors calling me a liar with the reports in my hands, etc. BTW, CONGRATULATIONS RYANAMYSMOM ! Job well done!

Well, after all the trials and tribulations I've gone through in 12 years I will be moving 1000 miles in 2 months to start my life over! I've decided after the thankfully failed mistake of a marriage since dh, and selling our home last year. The grown kids acting like everything I've done and they at times to sabotage me, etc., that I do deserve to be happy and have a life again. So I choose to forgive my sister, picked up the phone and called her! We talked for two days for hours on end, cried, laughed, apologized , and I'm moving up there with her to start my life over. Oh and she had lost her husband 4 yrs before me, and I was there for her, but she had lost her way and NO ONE was there for me for 12 years. But I just couldn't carry the hurt any more, and wanted more than anything to move forward and be happy in life again. So Monday I tell my daughter that I'm moving away, but she is busy with her life and told me a few months ago that in 6 years she will be moving across the country herself. It didn't include me.. So wish me luck

funny article, but so true, lol

WHAT SHE SAID! You got this girl! I agree being alone sucks, but it's better than settling for the wrong thing! …. Do right by YOU and the right will come along. I'm right there with you waiting for the right one too.... (((((hugs)))))

None of us will ever have the answer because we are all here for the same reason! Our lives have been forever changed and NONE of us wanted that or were ready for that! Now some are just better at moving forward than the rest of us. Or is it they got luckier with what life did after for and with them than some of us? Who knows? I just know for me at this moment I am tired, I am stuck, I am in a place of uncertainty, and wondering if it's ever going to be better, but still somehow taking day at a time. What more can one do? So (((hugs))) for those who are stuck too....

(((Hugs)))

Your not crazy. I'm 12 years out and feeling so stuck that I want to scream! I've married and divorced since dh's passing, sold the house last year, held on to hope that my siblings would come around (they never did), and guess what? I can't breathe anymore! I'm still in the same area cause my daughter and her family had me convinced that I was wanted here, well I'm not! I'm the mom of convenience for them, otherwise I don't hear from them or see them. I'm tired of being hurt and sad. We have to find our ways in this "new" life we've been handed that "we" didn't ask for! I'm struggling, but at least I'm struggling and that means I'm still living..... How do we eat that elephant? One yucky bite at a time!

I'm right there with you RAM. Come the weekends, and I'm forgotten by my daughter and her family, sigh.... It's also been thunderstorms on and off all weekend too, so that isn't helping, hold on the weekend is almost over... Sending you loving widda ((( hugs )))

Thanks arneal, and hugs to you too. What is it with bratty grown kids? My daughter has been thinking it's ok to try to parent me, and blame me for everything she does in her life since her dad died! She has become such a bully to me, and right now I don't have "friends" so to speak of. My best friend died within a year of my dh, all of my siblings stopped talking to me cause I guess I had the death bug around me. I actually just read an interesting article about how hard it is to make new friends at my age which is dare I say mid fifties now. I feel too young to be old and too old to be young, I'm in that really weird area of life right now. Oh and let me tell you, there is discrimination when it comes to getting a new job for me right now. So just having a hard time of it, but being grateful and thankful that I have enough savings to get by on for at least 2 to 3 years if I'm careful. Damn I don't see that as being negative as I continue to look for a job, learn to live all alone for the first time in my life, put up with a bitch of a daughter , having to sell my house after 26 years, my dog dying 2 weeks ago. Oh yeah my lovely daughter called me a week and a half ago thought I was dying, I was passing 2 kidney stones, I only have 1 kidney, she didn't even come over, or call back for 3 or 4 days....Did I say OIY, lol I think my point was my daughter says I'm negative!, Heck, I'm not just the crap I'm being handed is, LOL So I will get through this new transition of my life or die trying, what else can I say? Best to all of you...

Hi Tybec, sorry about being left out. My daughter and her family have kicked me to the curb again cause they have been fussing. Somehow my daughter thinks it's ok even in her 30's to blame mom when she is being the witch in her family or to me. So now even with her knowing what I've gone through this past year she will do what she can to punish me. Hmmm, sound familiar arneal? Oh, and my doggie passed away 2.5 weeks ago so I am totally alone right now. I am trying to decide if I just want to pack up and move out of state with out saying anything to anyone. We are worth it, and it's great that you and your guy are going to do counseling. Best of luck to both of you....

IRONY, lol