Mark I am so sorry for your loss. A loss so sudden, so shocking. My husband too passed unexpectedly. The bottom of our worlds dropped out with the death of our spouse. How to piece back together your life while grieving the loss of your spouse? Just take one day at a time. When I would think long term, think about the future, I would feel overwhelmed. Keeping my time horizon short helped me. The grief, the crying is exhausting. Please be easy with yourself. Just do what really needs to be done- caring for your precious baby, making sure you drink, eat and get some rest. The rest can wait. When people offer help, accept it. Do read 'suggestions for the newly widowed' posted in the 1 day to 6 month section on this board. This is wonderful community of people with kind hearts, people who know what you are going through. Please read, post, vent. Wishing you some peace today.