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I'll check with Jenni, as we're traveling together. First we'll need to know where the hell Union County is. I'm in ocean county , I could meet you guys somewhere and we all could go in ? Union county is very north I think?

Can I pick ocean ? Lol Which is cleaner ? River ? Early bird or night owl?

I am still a maybe, what's stopping me is my fear of getting to nyc by myself.. Anyone from around NJ taking train or bus in that I could meet up with ?

Mary , huge hugs! I only met you once in person, but you were so warm and welcoming me to a bago, I will never forget that. I hope and pray for your family that things get easier .

Lisa, to be clear he did agree that I was right he should've checked in. However we had along talk this am, (and I agree texting is evil, I need to start calling when I don't get the text, most times it is miscommunication.) We had a heart to heart, he told me he feels he is always letting me down... My heart broke, I took as much responsibility and told him going forward I will be more clear, like please call me later and check on me or heck I'll just call him. Thanks for everyone support.

Sugarbell, no flaming .. I appreciate all advice. Not sure what is or will happen with this guy , time will tell. I could be wrong , but thinking maybe it's not our time.. Many reasons. We shall see.

Repeat after me: "I am responsible for my own happiness." Bear, I agree ! Thanks for the reminder

Oo and bear....No comments on the crazy ness that is me lately... Haha

Thank you all, someone should really take my phone away however when I'm in this funk... Starting second guessing , and sent a quick text to him saying I felt bad for how I came across , I haven't been myself since group and I might have over reacted and I could as well just called Him to say I needed him. Yea , so that was 2 hours ago and nothing back. We did talk this am, but no mention of last night. I might have crossed line to crazy behavior .. Let's see if I hear from him. Argh :-(

Bear.. Advise taken .. Feel like maybe I over reacted a tad.. Nothing I can do now .. Ugh lol

Thanks bear .. No flaming.. I know men aren't as complicated as women. Osaat.. No he agreed that he should have called or texted me and said he was sorry. I agree about emotionally available , I didn't think it was too much for him to worry and check on me. Yes, he knew I was upset , we had talked on phone earlier in day , maybe he thought I was fine .. I wasn't , and yes I could've reached out again to him. Honestly thought just a text to say u ok, day better .. No he wasn't avoiding me, he is honestly busy and think unfortunately he's a guy ( sorry guys) and just didn't have clue. I needed him to know though , i was hurt that he hadn't tried to reach out later in day.

I had a really rough Nite Thursday with my grief group, which resulted in a lot of crying and no sleep. I had told guy I'm seeing about it yesterday am, and he did call and we talked . Only thing I had heard from rest of day was a Ty in response to a text about me telling him something. By 11 last night when he hadn't texted, figured he fell asleep early, but then I was mad .. He couldnt take 30 seconds to text and say , hope your day got better? So I called , and told him I was hurt and maybe I expect to much .. He apologized and agreed I was right. Of course I wondered if was right thing , but it bothered me and I couldn't pretend it didn't . I don't want to ever come across as needy , but we have been seeing each other since August , and I said to him when he's in a funk, I worry and check on him , so I don't think I'm asking for too much. Also honestly if it was another day, wouldn't have thought twice about how much I spoke with him .

Yay, nuggets! Glad to see u here

Found this one tonight . Like it . He is Gone You can shed tears that he is gone Or you can smile because he has lived You can close your eyes and pray that he'll come back Or you can open your eyes and see all he's left Your heart can be empty because you can't see him Or you can be full of the love you shared You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday You can remember him and only that he's gone Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back Or you can do what he'd want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on David Harkins (1959 - )

My kids and I go to a grief group every other week. Kids go with their peers , and I go with the adults. Always new people joning , which leads us all to tell our stories again. It was a rough night, I don't want to tell the stories from last night, in case any of them ever find their way here. But I saw my life or what could happen with a few, that coupled with issues I'm having with my kids, and rough day with guy I'm seeing. I cried and cried , couldn't stop. A few people commented they have never seen me break, I just wanted to slink into the wall. Thankfully they didn't push, I didn't want to talk. cried myself to sleep, today a new day though right?

Thanks for starting this thread :-) So one guy asked about my feet , foot fettish guy. Another guy , wanted to send me a picture , because as he put it .. He's so big most women can't handle him.

We should start a thread on crazy responses we have gotten, I had a guy ask me in first email ever , if I had nice feet and could he rub them ?

I had done online thing , and I think it is same for girls as guys, unfortunatly some people just like to chat and never meet in real life . As far as what to say, just ask if they want to exchange numbers and meet up for coffee . Something quick and causal .

Wishing you lots of luck!

Thank you Donna , was apart of the original kindness thread. Happy to see it brought back ! Last night at baseball , I received my girl scout cookies . Over heard a friend , that I know has money issues saying to another , I wish I had been able to get some this year. So I went over , asked her what she likes and gave her 2 boxes. She kept saying I'll pay you back. Told her nope. Was on me.

Rain... Tired of snow Cereal or oatmeal ?

Great news!

Thank you for making this happen!

Oo I want to go, let me check kids schedules.. Anyone from jersey that want to go in together?

Big dog... Although my new puppy thinks she's a lap dog, and she's going to be big, so should be fun lol What do u drive, car, suv or truck