Broken heart syndrome is a real thing. I feel we owe it to those who love us to try our best to watch our health. I am so far from healthy. But I'm trying Some of us have that passive I'd be ok if I didnt wake up, this plane crashed, different fantasies or strange thoughts. I usually push them away because of my family. I was under tremendous stress late fall with a major move and multiple serious hospitalizations of my late husband's young adult son. One day out of the blue I had intense grabbing chest pain and felt like I couldn't take a breath. I was under the delusion this would be resolved at urgent care. When I found myself in the damn ambulance I was scared beyond belief. How could I leave his kids like this? Luckily I did not have a heart attack. I dont think I had broken heart syndrome 6 and a half years out. But it scared me to tell them what was going on. I believe I am incredibly resilient. I may cope differently than most but I have made it my business to cope. We have seen widows and widowers die of various causes since Ive been in this club. It hurts extra. I hurt extra for their families. I rode a lot of waves, got a good deal of counseling and lots of time with other widow's and widowers.
My biggest stress was financial so I finally packed up and started a new life about 1,000 miles away. I feel like I have somskills to deal wupith intense stress now. I wish I had less ! But I finally feel like I'm building my new life. And he's still wiypth mevall thebtume in my heart, soul, memories. He's my soulmate.
I know this should be a male thread so I hope i didnt babble on too much. Ive met so many wonderfulnwidowers who also took the time to grieve and are rebuilding their lives.
it takes a long timebfor most. Give yourself time .
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