Lisa

For me it meant feeling my feelings and avoiding denial when i could, for me it meant grief counseling and hsnging out with other widows epwho were going thru it too. I do believe that if we dont go thru it it goes thru us. That doesnt mean tbere usca wpright path, time line or finish line. We are "dealing with it" everyday just by our existence. Be gentle with yourself.

Ok. Tnis post has bern reported for the sniping. Lets please be extra civil as I do not like to be a heavy handed moderator. in this community, anyone who lost the their significant other is considered widowed if that is how they identify. No debate. I understand in the technical world of journalism they would not use the term in this case. Maybe someday that will change. We can still feel sad. Sometimes we dont need to set our heels in on a position. Lets assume best intentions and move forward without alienating anyone. Thank you.

My stepson is disabled. I've been thru this numerous times. I split all the expenses like rent and utilities. Guess a reasonable number for clothes, shoes, food. Add in a small amt for recreation. The expenses are greater than his benefits. I tell them That's why I have balances on my utilities. Be sure you do spend the money. Good luck. It is scarier on paper than in person if you have an interview

I feel a decent balance at six and a half years but I will always love and miss him. I take bi. With me in my heart No matter what. Don't let anyone shame you for grieving.

This is cool. I'm going to stick it for awhile and see if we get feedback that people want to access it easily

My heart breaks remembering those early days. I am So very sorry for your pain. Grief feels like crazy but it is not. That's why connecting with others who are going thru this is so essential. I started grief counseling very early. Im so glad I did. Keep posting and he gentle with yourself.

Such an incredible honor. It makes all the sense in the world that you would be flooded with emotions.

It is not happening this year. If one planned again it will be posted

Over 6 years and time still doesnt make sense. It is unnerving

Over 6 years and time still doesnt make sense. It is unnerving

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I'm flying to Florida the day before. So sorry I will miss you guys. Lots of hugs. Have fun!

Sounds beautiful. Enjoy.

June 2009. It is strange seeing all of us reach these milestones after all these years. I dont know what I would have done with out the class of 2008 and 2009 and all the rest. wishing you some peace

Ive missed you!!!!! :*)

Let's meet at Rosa's pizza right on the LIRR level at penn sta. It is food court seating. No one can kick us out and there are other food options. But their food is amazing! People up for wandering can head up to the Highline. Im always up for grand central too

Im in

Are we going to post the bago?

Been here! Sounds like growing pains my friend. Sending hugs. I think i will always have a few meltdowns a year. I can accept that because a few is such a relief! It took years to have any identity over widowhood. You should come here when you want to and not feel badly, hugs

I feel like I'm holding the baggage now. Sex isn't the most important. But it is important. Truthfulness. Thats huge.

Sending you support and caring

Heartbreak and tears for all of you new to this journey. My deepest sympathy and empathy go out to you. I am so sorry for your pain. The part that was so excruciating is well over for me. I got through with the help and understanding of other widows one moment to the next. I posted a lot in the beginning. It really helped becauseIi thought I was craxy but I was mourning, like others. (((Group hug)))

He does not understand because he is lucky enough to not be in our shoes. He cant know but he can accept. That is the loving thing to do.

I had no money but they didnt need my # but an ID and address they found. I didnt provide it- to use other peoples credit cards. They tested them by sending all kinds of items they ordered to my address. It was so overwhelming and embarrassing. I had to involve the police, ups, fed ex and the postal service and refuse and suspend all deliveries. it isnt one person, its a whole team.

There is a good saying that after a lot of healing helped me with a pretty unforgivable situation. "Forgiving is not forgetting. It is remembering and letting go" wishing you some peace.