Torn

Thanks for your help & thoughts. I agree it does seem as if they're looking for a reason to go. It's difficult when there's 3 people,most times it seems there's tension. It's different for a husband to loose their spouse of 20 years and for a daughter to loose their mother. I wanted to make sure my daughter was/is ok, and coping well with the loss of her mother since I to lost my mother at her age. Her baby is 3 weeks old and Im unsure what's going on but it seems that she 'thinks' somehow there's justifiable reason to tell me what to do. Thanks again for the thoughts and opinions

Frustration so badly, I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. My wife passed on June 3, 2014, directly afterward my daughter & her husband moved in to "help me out", and its been tough on me for a multitude of reasons. Alott went on right before my wife passed, she was having a midlife crisis & dealing with me, I'm recently disabled & we had been through so much stress & multiple surgeries to attempt to correct what's wrong with me physically I have a brain herniation. 3 weeks before she passed away we married off our daughter,this was stressful on us both . Fastfoward to current day, I have a had time letting go of things she and I acquired during our marriage. She forced on me several Yorkshire terriors,knowing I wasn't a dog person. Now I mention these dogs because they had become a part of our lives + now that she's gone I'm having problems letting them go. My daughter recently had a child 3 weeks ago & she has become bossy with me regarding the dogs (3of them),prior to her giving birth she had no issue with the dogs other than her husband who doesn't like them, in all fairness I feel like he doesn't like me and honestly speaking I don't care for him either. So today in "my house" I was told if I didn't get rid of them or figure a way to keep them with me which I can't, I stay in one bedroom (disabled) and couldn't stand all 3 of them in one room. That they would find somewhere else to live. Well they don't help me in anyway to begin with & the soninlaw and I just clash personality wise, all I've done is provided them a place to stay and have had to listen to all the junk that comes along with newlyweds. I don't know what to do,however I'm so dang mad that I'm In this position,I don't know what to do. It seems I've been issued a ultimatematem to choose one or the other,thing is these lil dogs remind me and attach me to my wife who has passed on now. I hate being disabled & feeling I have to settle/ obey b.s. ultimatums & when it's associated with my wife now gone I really am stuck. Any ideas, common issues/ thoughts? Sorry for the rant I just am not sure exactly what's got me so mad, other than our daughter who I love is attempting to boss me around like im her child. Does this sound familiar I'm any aspect to any of you guys & ladies?

I agree with the FOOLISHNESS of the t-shirt logo, Save the rack....very agrivated. I didn't loose my wife to breast cancer,however after destroying her emotionally & physically,every year when breast cancer awareness month came along we both would 'wince' with every commercial. My lady made it 10 years after surgery,chemo,radiation & fought for her sanity at time, simply from the horrid chemo. The other ignorant 'save the ta ta's crap activates me hearing that one aswell.

A vent from me: I'm so dang frustrated with being in physical pain while feeling hopeless & lonely. It's terrible to feel like I despise others who seem happy in relationships, it truly wrong of me & selfish,I don't act on these feelings but I feel crappy even thinking that way. It difficult to ever imagine another person who I'll grow close to and love,however I know to be totally happy one day I will. All Widows out there are these common thoughts / feelings? In a nutshell,it's difficult to know how to feel emotionally while some days I wonder if others feel this way to.

Dear Skitwit, I hope your doing well,I can relate so much to your post. I just wanted you to know that another person feels the same and searchs for relief from sad memories & heart wrenching grief and love.