Jess Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 LH would have been 36 today. Birthdays were always a really big deal for him because he really loved them. Typically, the last few months of my time would have been spent planning some sort of outrageous surprise. Last year, he died as I planned. This year, there was no plan to interrupt. It's a weird feeling knowing that phase of my life is gone. Last year, being so close to his passing, we had a huge gathering of friends that with (I assume) good intentions said we would use his birthday as a night to get together, have dinner, and reflect in the years to come. Predictably, the great widow friend exodus ensured that there are no such plans in the works. This bothered me quite a bit, but then one friend that has stuck by me the entire time told me she was coming over tonight to spend time with me. No asking, just letting me know that was how it was. It was exactly what I needed. So, on his birthday I am trying to focus on what I have and not so much on what I lost- him, friendships, support, etc. I have a home. I have one good friend that won't let me be forgotten. I have a future I am building each day that I am actually excited about. I think Joe would be proud. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 One good friend is better than 10 crappy friends any day, I'm glad your friend remembered and knew what you needed. Big hugs to you as you honor Joe today. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mizpah Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 I think Joe would be proud. Perhaps this is the birthday celebration/birthday gift. I know for me it's the greatest widow-related goal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donswife Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 of course Joe would be proud and like it was said before that is his brithday present from you and you have to love the one friend, who not only knows what you need but just does it no questions asked hope it ends up being an ok day for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 (((((JESS))))) Love to you today, sweetie, and always. I'm so glad your friend knew the right thing to so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canadiangirl Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 Thinking of you today. ((Jess)) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lcoxwell Posted September 4, 2015 Share Posted September 4, 2015 I think Joe would be proud. I didn't know your Joe, but I have come to know you (at least in part) through this board. Your love for him shines through in your words, and I have seen the progress you have made on this journey into life with him. From all that I have seen and know, I think your Joe would be proud, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patriciad Posted September 5, 2015 Share Posted September 5, 2015 That is a true friend! I have one who sends a card and a text/call every year on sadaversary(been 6 years). It is so comforting to know that someone else has remembered him. Pat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 Hugs to you Jess. You are blessed to have your one true friend to be there for you! Sorry to be a few days late Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jess Posted September 6, 2015 Author Share Posted September 6, 2015 Thank you for all of your comments. It really does mean a lot, especially on hard days, to feel cared about. It went ok. My friend and I had a good night eating junk food and cake and watching shows she can'take typically watch because she has a 3 year old. I do feel blessed to have her for sure! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted September 8, 2015 Share Posted September 8, 2015 I think Joe would be proud of you too! I'm glad you're friend spent the day with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted September 9, 2015 Share Posted September 9, 2015 You have a great friend to be there for you! You are truly blessed in this darknesshugs! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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