kat717 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 Hello All, I am new here, my name is Kat. I lost my husband 14 months ago. In the last few months our oldest daughter has moved out (19), and our second oldest (18) splits her time between living here and at with her boyfriends family. Now it is just mainly my youngest son (15) and I at home. Too many feelings!! Wish he was here to go through this with me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klim Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 I get it ,my oldest moved out 4 months after dh died and that left just me and my 15 year old at home. It seems extremly lonley and empty. It definitley initiated me looking for distraction outside of the house. I joined meetups. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trying2breathe Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 kat I get it too. We went from a busy family of four, to just me and my daughter. My son left for his first year of college, and my daughter will be on her way in a couple of years too. Much different life than I imagined I'd be living. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sojourner Posted October 2, 2015 Share Posted October 2, 2015 Kinda know how you feel. 16 mo's out here. When LH passed, we were down to 2 kids home. After, the older couple came back home for a year. Now, older 2 have moved out again, and it's suddenly a whole lot quieter with just me & the two younger. Just a few years from now, it'll be down to only me. I'm dreading it. I was already looking at having an empty nest with mixed feelings while LH was still here, but now it's simply flat out dread. Not that it's easy being the sole head of the family with a houseful or even just the two left either! But it's been a looong time since I was on my own, and all the comings and goings of a bunch of people is my "normal." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twistedmensa Posted October 6, 2015 Share Posted October 6, 2015 Hi Kat. I'm at 18 months out. My 19 year old keeps threatening to move out and I keep telling her that her threats would be more effective if she had a job. I think my 12 year old would very much like to be an only child right now. But I do remember how I felt when I sent my kids to my Mom's while I packed up and got the house on the market. It was six weeks of unnerving....quiet. The last time I was alone like that was 20 years ago, and it wasn't nearly as pleasant this time around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaZ Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Count me in, too. My 18YO daughter is five hours away at college, barely keeping contact. That leaves my 15YO son and I together in the house. Better than being just me, I suppose, but it's challenging and not at all where we were "supposed" to be, dang it! I am 9 years out, and have had quite a lot of time to adjust to a familiy of three. Two feels very small. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabzmom Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I was feeling a little melancholy the other night because DD had gone to her friend's straight from work to get ready for homecoming. It's such a big deal for me to take pictures of the events of her life. However, I didn't want to pester her, the other family, and then follow them to where they were going to dinner. She is going to be 17 in a month and in a year and a half she will be graduating from college. Sigh... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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