Sugarbell Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 Old board is down...I haven't discussed anything about physical relationship with new guy. My Mother hasn't met him...because she doesn't like anyone I have ever been with. Ever..including DH the first year-So I have kept my personal life distant from her. Outta the blue...I get this "Your new guy is a player...I just know. He's smart and suave...I think he's a sex addict too. I had a dream and he was hanging out with Tiger Woods. He hasn't cheated in you yet...because you are obviously taking care of his needs" Yea...my mouth is just open and I have this horrified look on my face. Then she continues... "is he kinky? Bet he is...I know it...I know things" Now I am really mortified hearing this shit from my 73 year old Mom. So I decided to bite back... "like wear women's underwear kinky? Oh yeah all the time. "foot fetish kinky? Absolutely we both are the fetish. "He likes to dress up as a woman too Mom. And is with me because I have big feet and he can wear my heels". She glared at me and shut up. WTF??? Is my Mom getting dementia?? I had a headache all last night after this conversation . Never in a million years did I ever think at 44 years of age..my elderly Mom would drill me about sex. Sigh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugarbell Posted June 11, 2015 Author Share Posted June 11, 2015 And yea I will erase this within an hour...Cause I know she'll be reading my shit probably tonight (yeah I think she has found this board) But WTF? LOL. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baylee627 Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 You: gee, I dunno, Mom...what do you consider kinky?? (Insert wicked grin and arched eyebrow). Baylee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 Maybe it's the age, or our situation. I don't know. My dad tends to overshare with me now that he has started dating. I'm not sure how I would have responded to that. Normally when I feel put on the spot I answer questions with questions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 I can not even imagine my mom saying anything to me like that! There are some boundaries that need to be kept. I love the way you handled it. If she's going to make you uncomfortable with her questions, make her more uncomfortable with your response! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddalena Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 when i was much younger, my mother used to embarrass me like that. but if she started NOW (she's dead, that's besides the point) I'd tell her it was not her business... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max2507 Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 She's probably seen too many ads for 50 shades of gray Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
serpico Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 Sugarbell's Mom: Why so cranky? The battery on your rabbit die from overuse? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest IronBear Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baylee627 Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 ^^^Impish lil Bear! ;D Baylee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest nonesuch Posted June 13, 2015 Share Posted June 13, 2015 In my part of the world, there have been recent public service announcements about medical problems that cause dementia-like symptoms but are physical problems easily resolved. I don't know your Mom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugarbell Posted June 14, 2015 Author Share Posted June 14, 2015 She,has,some medical illness and does take shots for ms. By my standards new guy isn't really kinky...but is pretty experienced. He works full time and owns 2 businesses. One of which is a mattress store. My bed is old and has been broken for a year --yes before him from my daughter jumping on it. This weekend he surprised me with a new king bed mates and boxsprings. His intention was not sexual--he gets this stiff wholesale and we've talked about it. But when my mom sees this new beefy bed....this is not going to help things. Oh gawd her head will explode. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest IronBear Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddalena Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 !! this thread keeps improving! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lost35 Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 Just place some large, weight-bearing hooks on the ceiling over your bed and. say. nothing. 8) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom66 Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 I wouldn't mind getting a "stiff"! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest nonesuch Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 Actually, I get a little excited about getting a good price on stuff, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 Enjoy your new bed! Don't let your Mom see it. awe Bear you're too funny Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugarbell Posted June 15, 2015 Author Share Posted June 15, 2015 Ugh...my relationship with my Mother is just complicated and complex. She will see the bed...she notices when I have a new blouse then lectures me about money. And she thinks new guy is a player...and I am going to get hurt. Her argument is "It's been 15 years why hasn't he gotten remarried?"...Of course...if it had only been one year I would get lectured as well. The sex addict thing is just weird. Yeah..I think she's pissy...bored...and yea I am sure she's reading this...or will be soon. Controlling...I am the kid she couldn't control (and trust me she does control some aspects of my life--but not all at all. ) And of course through my 6 month marriage in my face. I honestly don't think she wants me with anyone. Seriously...because if I am with a significant other she has less control. My Dad is the polar opposite....he's 80 and can't hear..but I have always been very close to him. I know my Mom on some level resents that bond. (He's the guy everybody loves and gravitates to...doesn't try...retired steelworker, mountain man...but people just love him.)My Mom was the pretty school teacher every student had a crush on. Rambling. Sorry...thinking out loud. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swilson Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Sugarbell, you're handling this much better than I would. It doesn't seem right to discuss certain areas with the person who nursed us and powdered our butts. :-[ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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