DonnaP

Your words are beautiful, my friend. You have such an amazing capacity to love. I'm so sad for you now, knowing how much happiness you found with John. I also know you are destined to love again, in your own time. There is so much goodness and life within you. It needs to be shared. The hope, support and friendship that you give to others -- I wish all of that--and more--for you. HUGS AND LOVE, Donna

Yes, SimiRed, of course that counts! And yes, we are supposed to keep adding to the thread. We are trying to get to 1,000 acts of kindness!

Well, alright, then. Let's get this party started

3/13 Sent a donation to Archbishop's Annual Appeal. Hoping it will be put toward "the greater good."

And if she looks at you funny, just say: "Well, it's just as arbitrary as drinking coffee, if you think about it."

Hi Fleur, I remember you, too, even if you may not remember me. I am almost five years out now, but, like Maureen, I needed to read the wisdom (and hope) from the posts of those farther out than me. Please don't go. You still have a role to play, and thoughts to share with the rest of us. We all feel burned by what happened with YWBB, but have a chance at a new start here, thanks to some very resourceful people. Let's not squander that "second chance." HUGS, Donna

What if you try something like this: "I'm interested in getting to know you better. What setting would you feel most comfortable with? If I'm rushing things, please let me know. I don't want you to feel uncomfortable in any way." I have almost no experience with the online dating thing either - so I am probably not the best person to ask. I am only going by what I'd like to hear if I were on the receiving end... Good luck! Donna

I remember this thread ... nice to see it resurrected I agree with the last two posts -- snuggling and kissing are two of my favorite things... That being said, the need for physical intimacy cannot be understated. Since I am remarried (and not going without), I feel a bit sheepish even replying to this thread. But what I WILL say is this -- when I wasn't getting any, I missed it terribly. When good (and I mean REALLY good) hot sex came back into my life, it was like I became a teenager again -- wanting it ALL THE TIME. I've settled down just a bit, don't worry. And, to borrow Trying's word, I'm not a casual sex kinda girl either. It has to mean something for me...

Thanks, everyone. It has been a really nice week, knowing he will be home every day after work. It will save us both a LOT of driving, since we were managing the LDR by each of us taking turns driving back and forth to the other's house (an hour and forty minutes WITHOUT traffic).

3/12 Took SD out and treated her to lunch.

Does anybody know whether the site will simply vanish on March 15? Wasn't that the date they listed it would be open for PMs until?

Helped coordinate a visit with my step-daughter and her aunt (sister of her deceased mother). Both were grateful for the "kick in the pants" that led them to make plans for an overnight visit.

I shredded an entire box of tax returns (from the 1990s) over the weekend and put the bag-o-paper in the recycling bin. Felt really cleansing - haha.

I wasn't appeased by the explanation either. They might as well have said: "oh, did that bother you. Oh well." I know I'm not alone when I say that YWBB was a lifesaver for many of us. Even those who didn't post frequently, but just went there to feel validated and not alone. That is why I am SO grateful that this new site came together so quickly. You all are amazing!!!!! HUGS, Donna

Awesome! It's 100 times better on my main computer screen! Now I just have to figure out the iPhone - haha.

For those of you who know us, MrDrew and I got together on YWBB. We formed an instant connection and married in 2013. We were not able to move in together permanently, however, because he hadn't found employment here in Connecticut... (drum roll please) UNTIL NOW. I am SO happy to report that Andrew found a job in CT and is now a permanent resident. He started his new job yesterday! ;D 8)

I'd like to add my applause, too. I don't know if it was created from scratch, or already started. But way to go -- getting something up and running so quickly! Who do we have to thank for these (not so small) efforts?? Donna

This is my original post - we are working on a kindness chain. Let me know if you still want to participate. *********** I stumbled upon this website today and read the story behind it. Basically, there is an organization based in Tucson, AZ, and Newtown, CT, called Ben's Bells, which is dedicated to spreading kindness. What really struck me is the idea of recognizing the kindness in others AND making a commitment to practicing kindness in your own life. We can participate in a number of ways. The easiest is this one: Be Kind Challenge https://bensbells.org/bekindchallenge I also plan to get some of the kindness coins (in memory of). These are handmade clay discs with a tag that you can write the name of someone who has passed away. See the description at https://bensbells.org/shop/memory-kindness-coins-set-10 and pass them out to people. If anyone wants to join me, reply to this thread, and/or PM me your info, then I'll put a group together. Then we can all post our "1,000 acts of kindness" and I will work on making our chain of kindness. If you want a memory coin, let me know. I can order a bunch and distribute them to people. What do you think?? _________________________ ******************************* I still think of you, Mick! Every ... single ... day.

Wow! THOSE are pretty obnoxious. I don't think I can top any of the former comments. I did get propositioned by a co-worker, who told me he'd had a dream about me. Silly me - so naive - I asked what we were doing in the dream. He said we had taken a hike, and stopped by a large boulder, then started doing it on the boulder. Um. Yeah. Time to end THAT conversation fast...

Wow. HUGE improvement!!! Thanks so much, you guys! Brilliant!

Thanks for your quick reply, Jess.

Having met John and seen the two of you together, I can't help but comment that you two were destined to be together -- if only for a short time. For the few years you had together, you lived a lifetime of memories. None of us knows how much time we will be given with the person we love. That is why we need to remember - each and every day -- what it means to live and to love. Even through the pain, I never regretted any of the time I spent with Mick. In it for life! Good times and bad. That's what we sign up for, right? Thanks for sharing John's beautiful post. It shows the power of hope ... and love. HUGS, Donna

Like so many others who looked to the Young Widow Bulletin Board as a safe haven, I am grateful there is a new board available to us. I was wondering, however, if there is any way to change the background colors or customize my screen. I find the black background with white lettering very difficult to read. Can you let me know if there is a way for me to change what I am seeing? Thank you for your assistance. Donna P.