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Welcome back! So glad the "see" you!

You know, the first messages I got like this were upsetting to me. Then I realized not to take them personally, they are what they are. Now I see them as entertainment and a good laugh! If I am in the right mood, I might even cook up a choice response to a few! For the squirting one and porn one I could have lots of killer responses!

None are exempt from this sadly.... I'm on 3, POF, OKC, and Match. All 3 get these! A little more on the first 2 free ones but it happens on Match too.

Ok... the porn movie one beats them all!! Hahahahaha!!!!

LOL SFL! Here are some of my latest.... Initial first messages in their entirety.... "Scale from 1-10 how submissive are you in the bedroom hun? Hope you're having a nice weekend," "How dominant are you?" "U want to come over" "i love your nose" "Heard you need a massage" After I didn't reply to a message after a few hours... "Your kidding right?" his spelling, not mine. Sigh......please read my profile before you send a message OK? Good luck tomorrow if you meet up SFL! I do have one very nice potential....got a second reply today...we shall see.

Trying, I know exactly how you are feeling. I hit 3 years last week and many of your words could be mine. Let yourself feel what you need to feel.... Biggest hugs to you.

Fantastic Jen!! I really am excited! My tickets arrived in yesterday's mail too! It must have been around 1990 for me too!

Beautiful Linda! I so wish her and your other daughters a lifetime of happiness! You have made is through with class and strength. Biggest hugs to you.

I so hear you.... You have every right to feel this way, this stuff just sucks! One step, minute, and day at a time. It's all we can do.

Saw this today, on Facebook of all places... "At your absolute best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person. At your worst, you'll still be worth it to the right person."

Process away MrsDan. Venturing into dating after our loss is most definitely weird and really messes with your head. This guy likes you, based on what you have said. If you like him too, try and just take it one step at a time. Try not to worry about rejection and your history with Dan. I know, easier said than done, but try. You are entertaining this because you are human. You have feelings and needs. We all do. It's normal. Instincts are a funny thing sometines. Mine have not always been right in this new dating world but I have learned from each experience. You have to start somewhere and a nice guy who likes you, and you like, is a good place to start. After 4 years, you may want to tell this guy to watch out though!!! (Kidding!!!)

I'm so sorry your daughter's teacher did this. What unnecessary craziness is that?? I hope you talk to them and explain the importance of recess. I am a new elementary teacher and at both my practicum schools, students were not to lose recess as punishment. The same is true for all schools I have since supplied in. In fact, the scariest thing a teacher can hear is "indoor recess" when there is inclement weather. Kids need to run off steam, ADHD or not, and then they can refocus again afterwards in class. Sorry, but we have enough to deal with as solo parents, we don't need to add more stress from our children's teachers!

Thank you all so much for listening and your responses. We really can't go backwards no matter how much we want to, or how much our brain tries to. So our only option is forward, we just need to figure out what that will really mean or look like. Hugs to you all.....

Michael, thank you.... TooSoon, efharisto kai filia yia sena....

So I get an email today about Phantom touring again and advance ticket sales. I just bought two primo tickets and I'm taking my oldest daughter (will be 17) in January! She needs to see it live!! I think this was a sign today...

Three years today. It is a strange feeling. I really am not sure how I am feeling. Part of me wants my old life back, to be back in my past, to rewind and get back to the night before and make sure my husband would not leave to go to work that night. To take the person I am today, and make my previous life even better. I still miss him so much. Then another part of me wants to take this new different me and move forward. To understand that the different me would not exist had this not happened. Life's circumstances change us, they make us grow and learn in many ways. I have always thought things happen for a reason but I still struggle to understand why this happened. I guess these are just ramblings going on in my head right now that I sit and think. Thanks to you all for being here and just listening. It really keeps me sane knowing I am not alone. But boy oh boy do I wish we didn't have to be here...

Very good article. Thank you. I can cry very easily and sometimes uncontrollably. Afterwards I often feel such a release. It felt a little crazy but now I know it makes sense.

I have no words..... So disgusting of your MIL.

Yahoo Jess!

Woohooo!!!!! Biggest (((hugs))) for you too!!

I'm so, so, sorry you and your family are going through this. You are all in my thoughts....

Or ... "Hi Beautiful" "Hi Sexy" My favourite... "You look great for your age." Not sure how to take that one! 😁😁😁😁

Quixote, don't fret too much about that dinner with your friend. Maybe it was just dinner and not a date. She didn't try to kiss you, right? As far as "the one", yes very heavy criteria for a first date. When I started thinking about dating I had these feelings as well. I had to let that feeling go. I realized I had to go in with a much more relaxed attitude. As far as asking someone out? Try, and you will find out if you are ready. Sometimes we learn we are ready and sometimes we learn we are not. If we don't try, we might never know.

Kids here too....Halloween is a no go. :-( I would love to do a NYC bago at some point!

I'm not saying you should go against your gut, but I will say that there are many aspects of myself and decisions post-widowhood that have surprised me. I find that you never know how you're going to react to a situation until you're in it, and things you never thought you'd do, sometimes you do, and that can be ok, and sometimes the best decision ever. But trust your gut. I can really resonate with this. I have done things completely out of my prewidowed comfort zone. Most have been empowering to me and have helped me grow as a person. I keep opening myself to even more possibilities. FWB is one of those things on my mind. Not sure if I will be able to do it or not but I am open to the possibility. That is so unlike the old me. Yes, be true to yourself, but at the same time, let yourself live. We all know life is too short.