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You have every right to be angry! What scum! Even relationships that don't work teach us things abouts ourselves that ultimately will make the next relationship much better! You deserve and will find better, and in the meantime, the on line stories will keep you, and hopefully us as well, entertained! (((Hugs)))

This really made me smile Sugarbell! He just may be a keeper!

Biggest hugs Maureen. .....

Thank you everyone! Loving everyone's experiences. Latest update: -Gentleman 18 years older than me says he knows he is "past my expiration date" on age but his parts are in "working order:! Oddly enough it was a very nice thought out message and not crude at all! -I've replied to initial messages I have liked and nothing back. -after replying nicely with a thanks for your interest but no thank you, one man thanked me for "saving" him, and another told me "don't be flattered, why would I think he was interested" -I started communicating with a very nice gentleman, let's see how it goes

I have no answers or advice Trying but can completely understand where you are. I was almost there. While I know our kids can't rule all our decisions, adding someone to their family is not something that should be done with only our wants and needs in mind, without some consideration for their feelings. I really isn't easy.

http://m.thestar.com/#/article/news/gta/2015/07/20/obituary-for-toronto-woman-94-lights-up-social-media.html Not something that you would normally smile about. When my time comes, I want to be remembered with smiles and laughter and not tears.

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Never thought my profiles could be screen shot and sent on! Oh boy! Tonight I got a very nice response from a gentleman who, I did not have an interest in, thanking me for replying. He thought I was very kind and would be snatched up quick by a very lucky guy. Now I'm not sure about that. I need someone beyond the 20 year olds who like my hair to message me. Maybe it could be the guy my age, who messaged me looking for a serious committed relationship but says he is strickly non monogamous. Sigh.

I'm sorry.

Nice to see you SunshineFL! My favorite on your list has to be the guy who was OK with you Googling him? Hysterical considering what he knew you would find. Unless I get a "Hi" only or something x-rated as a message, I will respond. If they make an effort, I make an effort. Now I have my cousin sending me screen shots of on line profiles I should checkout. Maybe her judgement is better than mine LOL.

Thank goodness all is well now. It must have been very scary for you.

I so wish I was joining you all! Enjoy!!

Gabzmom, it really is crazy with the mutiples. It used to bug me but now it makes me smile. Thanks everyone.

Hello out there!!!

I guess I understand the anonymity thing but wouldn't it be interesting to actually run into them in person. Surprise! I'm real you jerk! Nonesuch, what losers have crossed your path!

So sorry you are going through this. I have got to believe that what we are looking for is out there for all of us. Stay strong.

Thank you so much for the info Mike. I love to talk so I think I would enjoy it. Also the others are there to meet people too so no wondering about their intentions. My biggest hold back is going to a downtown bar in my big city on my own. If I had company I would be all over it I think. Momtojandj, I would take you with me if you were closer! We would have a blast I think!

I am aproaching 3 years in September. I have had a very hard time looking at photos of him, him with the kids, or the two of us. Tears and sadness would flow all the time. Last week I was looking at photos and I saw beyond the images to what was happening those days that they were taken. I was now smiling and not crying. Along similar lines, a friend asked to borrow his floor nailer. I found it and also found a second one. My husband was very fond of buying multiples of something, if they were on sale, just in case. I smiled and laughed when I found them. I guess this must be a step forward in the healing process for me. Not something I was consciously thinking about but it just kind of happened. There are still hard days, especially with trying to juggle everything with 3 kids and the loneliness but maybe, in some way, it's his way of telling me everything will be alright.

I have not been impressed with the on line dating. A friend suggested speed dating and he thought it would be perfect for me. Has anyone tried it? Have you gone alone? How was it? I'm not sure I want to go alone, and I have no one single in my circle to go with me. Anyone want to go with me? :-)

Rob, I'm sorry. Your analogy is right on the mark. Do people feel being on line means all social skills are out the window? A simple "Thanks for chatting, I'm pursuing something with someone, and would like to give that a chance. Perhaps we can chat again soon" would work for me. We all know that some can have many on the go but a little social grace should still be expected.

I understand this as well. I'm 50 with 3 kids, no one is a single parent family in our area or schools. Yes, I feel I stand out and it's hard. My kids are older 10-16 but I feel many of the same things. Like Trying said, it really does suck sometimes. You are doing all the right things. I often wonder if it's more our own perception because sometimes I think others are really oblivious and don't realize you can't leave him alone to go inside and get food. They don't have to deal with this day in and day out so they are clueless.

Thanks Captain wife. So sorry you dealt with this too. I know there are good ones out there. I just wish the jerks weren't. I wasn't sure I wanted to try again but thought why not about a week ago. This guy is 50, knew my widow status with kids, and seemed very into me. Boy my gut feeling must be really off.

Why do I assume everyone I talk to is honest. You chat with someone for a few days, make plans to meet, day and time, just need to pick a place, he knows I need to make childcare plans, and poof, the day before he stops responding even though he is seen on the site. What do these jerks find so amusing about this? Just man up and say you changed your mind. Don't appear interested if you are not! Sheesh! I really don't know if I am up for trying this again. It's so infuriating! Feel free to add your on line dating vents.

My older daughter's soccer team finally won last night and beat the second best team! She played amazing and kicked but at center defence!

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. It must be so scary and heartbreaking. I only hope for good results. Biggest hugs to you.