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Oh boy, do I dare continue...... In my mind oh yes....in writing, in public....😶

Where is he indeed.....

I've offered, multiple times! Somehow our schedules never manage to sync up, and I refuse to chase anyone. If he wants anything more than an appreciative audience, he knows where I am (literally: his kid spends half his time at my house). My M.O. has consistently been to give and give and always end up with the short end of the stick, so to speak. I'm through casting my pearls before swine. Jen, he probably wouldn't live up to your expectations anyways. He's too full of himself to see the prize right in front of his face! Some men are so clueless! Trust me, I have one with no clue, near me too!

Geez! What a real prize she is! 😨

http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/npr/n12810 Shades of that great Betty White SNL routine! A great NPR spoof, too. Take care, Rob T Darn, it won't let me access it here! 😯

Ok, I will go and hide of embarrassment now! 😆

Yup!

Oh that incredible lower lip nibble.... It sends shivers down my spine. I turn my wet and glistening body to face my wet and eager partner. I then straddle him and run my fingers through his damp hair, tugging slightly, staring intensely into his eyes. I cup his strong jaw in my hands and lean in to kiss his awaiting and wanting lips. Softly at first, playful, treasing, not letting him truly have my full lips. When his breath increases with eagerness, I kiss him hard and strong, still holding his jaw, exploring his mouth and tongue with my tongue. His strong hands are firmly on my waist, squeezing, then sliding up and down my sides. The feel of those hands, the feel of his manliness growing beneath me... I move my lips to his ear, licking, nibbling until he starts to groan with delight. His pleasure is arousing me even more........

Well, who would think muffins would get me hot and bothered! 😨

So this is what happens when I go to work and then come home and bake 72 muffins and don't have time to check in! 😁 It about time this thread heated up! Be back later to add to it! 😈

What I am needing..... He sees me across the room and walks up to me... He smiles that killer smile and brushes his hand across my jaw and caresses my neck and ear.... He leans in close so I can feel his breathing....

Yes, always hide your profile. If yoy won't be back for a while, delete the pictures as well, just in case. You never know what can be done with them if they still exist on there. . I'm sorry about 5 date widda. I know you were hopeful.

Soooo, I thought maybe the 1st day of spring held a little promise, so I unhid my profiles.... Him... My name is XXX and I am a 53 years old straight male. 5'10" tall 170 lbs Short grey hair and brown eyes. I too am looking for a woman who may not like but understands my crazy work hours and wants one person to spend time together and have a special friendship. I have great endurance and I love to lick xxxx for hours Me.... So tell me XXX, does this approach of an opening message actually work for you? I seriously must be doing something totally wrong on here then. Him ... no wasn't thinking sorry Hey, at least I received an apology....That is a first! Oh....the men going poof...they don't seem to be slowing down at all.

So sorry Linda...sending the biggest hugs. You are not uncaring in any way. Please never forget that. Life just likes to mess with our heads some times.

You know, out of all the crazies I've had, only one ever did this. I did respond to some of the crude messages I received, asking if it actually worked for them. 😀

Fun right? 😕 Unbelievable I know. This drove me insane too.

And if you messaged me on a dating site I would be suspicious now. Why the scammers have chosen this MO, I have no idea! No word of a lie, I've had at least 5 scammers like this! 😨

Darn! You don't?

I'm in a tropical destination with my kids and another family. I keep looking around and thinking everyone is getting action tonight except me!!! 😨

Widower.... just curious why that claim would be made... Is this actually a coveted thing in online-dating circles? Yes, widower, new in town/area, charming..... Most of mine have been some kind of engineer or gold merchant! It's the sympathy play for sure...so sad because it makes the real widowers who are engineers suspicious!

CW, So sorry you are dealing with this too. I really thought it was me, giving off some weird vibe to scammers to come find me. I've hid my profiles for now. I was really disappointed. I give all the nice guys the benefit of the doubt, but I have been wrong every time this round! Sending commiserating hugs to you.😊

Low and behold, I have some tidbits to add here! Today has been an intersting day! I have been sick for a week and booked today off work to try and get better. It was also very entertaining! My suspected loan shark "gentleman" who was looking for photos, emailed me last night, asking me to text him. It's been 6 weeks since I heard from him. I could have ignored it but thought this could get entertaining. I was right! I told him he had my number and why didn't he text me? He kept begging me to text him. I called him out on going poof, forgetting my name, and my number. Today I get a text. I asked where he found it. He said in an email I sent. Wrong, I never emailed him my number. He also found/remembered my name somewhere. Still he is begging for pictures. I gave him a little reminder about what I'm all about and probably not what he is looking for. I assume he has gone poof again! Hopefully!!! A friend mentioned the Bumble app to me. It's similar to Tinder but once you match, only the female can initiate contact and it must be within 24 hrs. I thought I would explore it. There are a few issues with it for me. I can't set my correct age and it keeps putting me back to 18! I explain in my profile that I'm 51 and can't seem to fix it! Well I poked around anyway, not expecting any matches. I search for 45-56. I assume they would not be searching for 18. I swipe for a few, some I've seen before on other sites, some new to me. Don't I get a match? Someone I matched with on Tinder, who I had messaged, and who never replied. I message for fun, not expecting a response. I did get a response. Cordial hello and then "18?" I answered back with a laugh and explanation and jokingly ask why he is searching for 18 yr olds. No reponse back! Then I get a private message from meetups. Model looking photo, new in town, wants to meet people and be social. Hometown says Las Vegas, location shows Buffalo. The message came in the evening. The message started with "Good morning". Sigh......the scammers are following me everywhere! And here I thought I wouldn't have any new entertainment for you all! 😁

Don't feel foolish, even though it is hard not to. It has happened to me. Many of these scammers/fakes are really good at it. They try to build your trust with what they say and what they know. They may not all be after money. Some may indeed be local but just want to lure you into sexting or phone sex. Some may be married. They are always too good to be true. They can't show their real face as it's not them. Asking for a photo of them doing something is the best way to see if they are real. I'm glad you did this and I hope it was before you wasted too much time on him. I have mentioned this trick here before. Everyone with doubts should use this. Honest/real people will not have an issue doing this. I wish I knew this trick in my early on line dating days. Would have saved me lots of time! I hated that I became cynical of messages I received that seemed too good to be true. I am by nature, a very trusting person, always feeling that what I see is real. Why wouldn't it be? Well, I've learned that is not always the case with on line dating.

Yes, volunteering in something that interests you is a great idea. You are doing a good deed and meeting people you have something in common with.

Momtojandj please don't let this get under your skin. It's definitely not you. Yes, online works for some, but not for others. Some find it quickly, some it takes longer. I have had the same experiences as you. I think it's the same for most. The problem is, that the good ones, like us, are out there, but in much fewer numbers than all the creeps. I am sure your standards are high, like mine, and it will take longer to sift through all the losers to find our gem. Maybe on line, maybe some other way. Please remember to not see it as a reflection of you in any way. 😊